Two families in a holiday home

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One family of 4 (mum, dad, dcs 8 and 10) and one of 5 (mum, dad, dcs 6, 8 and 10).

Not really an Aibu because I really don’t know - should the families split the cost of renting the holiday home exactly? Or the larger families pay proportionately more for the extra child?

I think it’s going to be a 4 bedroomed place.....

5:4 seems a more logical split to me.
By the 50:50 logic if I go on holiday with three friends and two of us share a room, two people get their own rooms (we tend to get three bed places) then the sharers should pay half as much as the other two. Seems wrong.
Also if you had a single parent and single child holidaying with a large family, you wouldn't split 50:50. In this case the larger family has pushed up the total cost, two single parent, one child families would get a smaller, cheaper place.
In my experience it's nicer to get the place that sleeps nine, not eight because you get more living space. But check out the pictures and see how much sofa space there is, can you all eat together etc.? We once rented a place that claimed it could fit six. It had four dining chairs and three comfy seats.

Agree with 50:50 split or get two villas near each other

We have more children than friends we have holidayed with. I divide the total cost by the beds and pay proportionally.

So £1000 holiday let. Family of five pay £625 and family of three pay £375. Unless one child is sleeping on the floor.

I don't expect other people to subsidize my larger family.

I was a family of 3, me and 2 x ds’s
I went away with a family of 5. We split the cost of accommodation 50/50.

And I meant to say that the couple had the bigger luxury bedroom with beautiful en-suite! I had the smaller double.

If you were going alone you would get a two bed and if they were going alone they would get a two bed. You are getting a four bed between you ( with the more spacious living areas that’s would come with that , presumably ) so split in half. Split food bills differently if you really want to accommodate the huge additional eating requirements of one little 6 year old but she/he isn’t really going to impact on the living arrangements,.

Thanks a bit mean!

If the difference is just once child who in this case is 6 I would go 50/50. I’d look at it like skids go free holiday.

It’s a very different situation to a single parent with one toddler going on holiday with a family with four teenagers.

Bringing in irrelevant variables doesn’t answer the question as it’s a different situation.

We are a family of three and used to go away with our BFFs who are a family of five when the DC were young.
I think they would pay a bit extra for the accommodation as they would generally have three bedrooms and we'd have two our DC is a different sex from their three but we shared kitty costs more or less 50/50 (all four kids could eat for England though! Not that we minded.) Entry to attractions, trips out etc would be paid separately, not from kitty.
I think you've got to be flexible in the first place and be prepared to relax, let things go a bit and not tot everything up in your head! that way madness, or at least resentment lies

Thanks a bit mean was meant to be that’s a bit mean to Chocolatecake12 who I think was shafted a bit although I can see why they got the bigger double room

Why on earth didn't you go on your own, then you'd have had a smaller place and wouldn't be worrying about splitting costs. Neither would you be bumping into the other couple in the kitchen etc. I sincerely hope each family has their own bathroom and sitting room.

The whole thing sounds horrendous. To my mind, it only works the way you describe for close families.

I am usually all for people paying for what they have/use and not being CF, but in this case, I think 50/50 is the fairest split as the number of bedrooms remains the same.

As a PP suggested, can you contact "8 person" homes and see if they can add an extra bed in one room? Some may be able to do this.

When I went away with a friend, we split it 1/3 2/3, as we needed 3 bedrooms as it was 2+4 so I felt that was fair, as we only needed 3 rooms due to the size of her family. But in this case, the extra person is still in the 4th room. I get your point that 9 person places are dearer than 8 person places, but I think you need to suck it up in this case. you will be getting hopefully a nicer property overall if it costs more.

If you were in hotel you pay by room, so 50:50.

But for most of the places I've gone, a hotel room that fits 5 people in would cost more than one that fits 4.

We recently booked a holiday home for 8 people. It cost more than twice the cost of a place for 4 people as there's a lot less houses around that accommodate 8. There were even less places where one of the bedrooms has 3 beds in rather than just 2

Rebecca,

I agree with you, but everyone is different. Some people like their privacy, others like the "mayhem" of nine people sharing one space.

Personally I would hate sharing with another family. There would have to be at least three bathrooms for starters + a separate living area for each family!

Two smaller properties on the same development, and everyone can do their own thing and meet up for this and that as they feel like it.

I can see splitting costs for days out and meals being a bit of an issue aswell.

V helpful thanks 🙏