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Toddler shitting in the park!

79 replies

Mamawingingit1234 · 06/09/2018 12:36

Husband and I have just had words (low, snarky, passive aggressive words) because I said to take the toddler to the Dentist literally across from the car and ask to use the loo but he was adamant he was taking her to the park approx 5min away, across a set of traffic lights to squat hopefully behind a bush and poo!

We’d got timings wrong and the baby woke early from a nap with a poonami and crying for milk. I was mid clean up with the baby on the passengers seat when toddler (who just been to the loo not 5 mins ago to pee) cried for a poo!

Convo went like this:
M: take her to the dentist just there
H: no I’ll just take her to the park
M: the dentist is just there!!! Don’t make her poo in the park
H: she won’t mind! Does the detist even have toilets?
M: I don’t know but probably just go
H: don’t ask me if I want to do something if you’re really telling me! no I’ll take her to the park
H: you do it then, go on. I’ll do this (finish baby’s nappy)
me gives exasperated look
M: sure and you can feed him too (baby is bf)
H: don’t roll your eyes at me
Then he walks of muttering to our toddler!!!

Who’s being unreasonable?

OP posts:
multiplemum3 · 06/09/2018 12:38

I hope if you let your toddler shit in a bush you picked it up. How fucking gross if you left it for

NicoAndTheNiners · 06/09/2018 12:40

I’d have driven home and told the toddler to wait 5 mins.

NicoAndTheNiners · 06/09/2018 12:40

And yes, did he pick the poo up?

JustJoinedRightNow · 06/09/2018 12:40

So what happened, did she poo in the park?

My poor little DS in brand new trainers stepped in poo inside a gated playground, where dogs were not allowed, so it was quite clearly human poo. We were so revolted. Just disgusting.

Bunnybigears · 06/09/2018 12:41

He could have cleaned the poonami and you could have breastfed the baby when you got back from the very close by dentist.

cloudsrainsun · 06/09/2018 12:41

Carry a potty in the car incase of emergencies like this I also keep a spare pack of wipes in the car too.

JustJoinedRightNow · 06/09/2018 12:42

He could also have just walked to the dentist and asked nicely to use the toilet because it was an emergency.

Instead, a grown man thought it was better for his poor little DD to have to poo in a park. Mind boggling.

firawla · 06/09/2018 12:42

I’d have driven home as well but out of the 2, dentist is a better bet if it’s your regular one and they know you. The park is a bit off! Imagine if there were other kids there playing?! Did he pick it up after or just leave it Confused

Igletpiglet · 06/09/2018 12:43

That’s so funny. How Bear Grylls of him. I think I wouldn’t mind my kid weeing
Discretely in The park but usually I would prefer them to have a nice quiet poo somewhere private. H is definitely the U perp.
Having said that, my feral dd2 embarrassed me totally by laying a little brown cable behind a tree in her own playground after school. Too busy obviously to tell me or run across road to school Loos. I had to ask one of the dog walking daddies for a dog poo bag. This is in village of judgiest mummies in world.

serbska · 06/09/2018 12:43

If your child can’t wait 5 mins then you need to carry a potty with you.

Hope you picked up the human shit

delphguelph · 06/09/2018 12:45

Where do you live? The outer hebrides? Or the heady metropolis?

delphguelph · 06/09/2018 12:46

Bear Grylls?

More Shameless if you ask me.

steviesdating · 06/09/2018 12:46

just let it shit anywhere why not in your car

Medea13 · 06/09/2018 12:48

Oh, is it parents allowing their children to defecate in public places and not cleaning it up? I always assumed it was opiod addicted tramps who have no options and no warning.
At least twice a year for the last two years since i moved to a v "yummy mummy" area of London my dog has found and eaten human shit in the supposedly GreenFlag parks near us. And then invariably she has gotten unwell and thrown up said human turd-vom amalgam on our carpets.

Revolting.

loubluee · 06/09/2018 12:48

Poo in a park? That is so gross. Carry a potty, wipes and nappy bag with you. Problem solved.

SnuggyBuggy · 06/09/2018 12:48

Definitely the dentist.

SleepWarrior · 06/09/2018 12:48

I've had to let a toddler poo park before (you can't exactly stop it from coming). We hid in some undergrowth and i opened up an empty snack packet and made them do it on that. Then I put it in the dog poo bin.

I cannot imagine going out of my way to do it when toilets are available though. It was not a pleasant experience at all!

aperolspritzplease · 06/09/2018 12:53

So many options better than pooing in the park.

Open up one of the babies nappies in the boot / footwell or even a nappy bag would seem the most obvious with no potty.

Did he pick it up? If I let my dog crap in the park and didn't pick it up there would be uproar.

Iputthescrewinthetuna · 06/09/2018 12:53

If dentist was not an option (really unsure why your DH protested this) your toddler could have pooped into one of your babies nappies. Then bag and bin it.
Pooping in the park in a bush is not OK. This could have all been solved without leaving your car.

Iputthescrewinthetuna · 06/09/2018 12:54

Cross post @aperolspritzplease

Oysterbabe · 06/09/2018 12:54

Dentist is better than the park but I'd have just gone back to wherever you were 5 minutes previously. I definitely wouldn't have made my DD shit on the ground like a dog.

Scotinoz · 06/09/2018 12:55

Nooooo! A wee behind a bush is fine for little people, but never ever a shit!

One of mine had to squat on the car floor and shit into a nappy once 😬

Nottotheirstandards · 06/09/2018 12:57

Have been caught short before. But we have a tree in our park that all the tots use for a wee. It's called the magic wee tree. There's no public toilets here. I used to carry a potty everywhere which is difficult when you have to hang it on a pushchair. I don't have a car. But we were caught short so instead of him soiling himself he did it behind the wee tree and I cleaned it up into a happy bag and put in the dog poo bin. Runners often comment about needing a pop and going in a busy and most of them don't clear it up. And many seem fine with this. But a toddler and it is seen as feral.... strange Hmm

Original poster
Mamawingingit1234 · 06/09/2018 12:58

He took a pack of wipes and a nappy bag so in his defence he would have definitely picked it up (we don’t leave our dog poos either).
We collected DD from playgroup and planned to head straight up to his parents which is about an hour away. Went to the garage for petrol got in the car, DD said she needed a pee so pulled into the doctors and I took her for a pee. On road again and baby wakes and is crying. Pull over so I can give a top up feed. When we’ve stop DD then said she needs a poo! So not really close to home and yes she would have held it 5 or so mins. I think I was more annoyed that he’d rather take her to poo outside than ask if they can use a toilet in a dentist.

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AwdBovril · 06/09/2018 12:58

This is what portable potties are for. You can buy folding ones, with disposable absorbent liners.