We got a new car last week. Not brand new but nearly new much better than we thought we could afford as the finance was very reasonable. It's in my husbands name as I already have a car which is in my name and I have always paid for it myself.
My car is a little car. Fantastic for around town but not great for very long journeys. It also has a worn wheel bearing and is booked into the garage next week for repair.
Husband LOVES 'his' new car. Hasn't owned a decent car for years.
I have driven it a few times but not without having to get really stroppy. eg. Going to pick up large teenagers from a party . I wanted to take the new 'big' car rather than my tiny 4 seater 2 door one. .. I wouldn't think I had to 'ask permission' as we are married, both work full time and share bills.. therefore assume cars are shared too. (He has happily been using 'mine' for 3 months prior to getting this one. )
but no.. it wasn't offered and had to verbally wrestle the keys from him.
On to the issue . Last night I had to go and drop something with our daughter who has just moved into her new University house. It is a 90 minute drive and I had just driven home in my bone shaker for 50 minutes. On arrival I said I was taking the other car as more comfortable. Queue a huge strop. Refusing to give me the keys.. saying 'you'll ruin it' . (I have completed the college of police 3 week residential response drivers course, drive avg 250 miles a week and touch wood have never had an accident- except the odd bump/scratch - he has written off at least 2 cars )
He eventually handed them over. I got in the car - drove to the petrol station and bugger me ! The bloody door handle snapped..
I drive to daughters house. Then phoned him. To give him time to calm down. Didn't work. Absolutely ballistic. Accused me of 'doing it intentionally '. Screamed at me that I can pay for it.. (fine - but don't see any offers of help to pay for my up coming repair after he has been driving my car for months)
To add insult to injury it was our wedding anniversary yesterday. He was cooking a meal for us. (and our last child at home) but instead he went to bed at 8:30.
AIBU in thinking this behaviour isn't remotely sane and more indicative of a child with a favourite toy he doesn't want to share .
Why can't he accept that accidents happen and just get over it. I didn't get a wrench and rip the handle off intentionally. ! Sadly the car is out of the 3 yr warranty by 2 months so I can't get it repaired by the manufacturer and the dealer warranty doesn't cover it.