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My DD came home from her first day at big school...

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1CantPickAName · 05/09/2018 19:11

My DD has come home from her first day of secondary school almost inconsolable! She has realised that we didn’t visit McDonalds all summer!!!!
I did take younger DD, just didn’t tell older DD.

AIBU?

OP posts:
londonrach · 05/09/2018 21:23

Something else is going on op. Hug, trip to mcdonalds and find out whats happened at school. Hope shes ok

imadumbass · 05/09/2018 21:25

Bizarre if that's all it is!

QueenOfMyWorld · 05/09/2018 21:33

I really want a mcdonalds now 🍔🍟

peachypetite · 05/09/2018 21:37

I don't get it either??

Dollymixture22 · 05/09/2018 21:40

Over tired and over wehlmed. We have all been there! I have cried over the most ridiculous things, hormones at that age are also totally rollercoaster time!

Poor pet. McDonalds, hug and chat.

CarolDanvers · 05/09/2018 21:43

Secondary school? Really? Does she have additional needs?

How nasty.

LumpSatAloneInABoggyMarsh · 05/09/2018 21:44

I've just realised I haven't been to Maccy D's this summer either. And worse, my Sister and I took our DC once but were 'being good' on our diet trying to out virtue each other so all we had is coffee.

I can feel a tantrum coming on myself!

ChimesOnSundayMorn · 05/09/2018 21:44

I can't get past that you go to McD's twice a week?

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CarolDanvers · 05/09/2018 21:50

All the people being unpleasant, I do wonder if you have a child of an age to be starting secondary school. If you did and they were fine and floated through the huge life change that is secondary, then you got LUCKY. I have a number of secondary school teachers amongst my friends and they all say that it's hard on the new year 7s and the majority struggle. They spend many hours planning transition and there are numerous opportunities created for them to visit the school prior to starting and attend transition sessions and days but even with all that they find it hard. At my dd's school we are told to expect tears, overreactions, regression in behaviour, withdrawal, anxiety.

My parents would react like some of you. Expressing disbelief that children might struggle and behaviour might be impacted, sneering and floating possible additional needs as a reason, nasty and emotionally neglectful.

llangennith · 05/09/2018 21:51

Sometimes when kids have an unsettling day, and they can't put their finger on why, they come up with bizarre reasons to explain their discomfort. Like 'we didn't go to McDonalds all summer!'

Dahlietta · 05/09/2018 21:51

I don't get it either. I can't tell what the OP wants from us.

chocolateworshipper · 05/09/2018 21:59

I am thinking that secondary school seemed quite overwhelming (it's a big step to go from the top of junior school to the bottom of secondary school) - and this is her way of saying "I'm a bit scared about this whole growing up thing - could you please still treat me like a child sometimes"

Dollymixture22 · 05/09/2018 22:05

Wow some people are awful. I have visions of their kids feeling a little lost and tearful and them dismissing them!

Why is it so hard to be kind?

Scabetty · 05/09/2018 22:07

I go back to school tomorrow and feel like crying. Going to get a ‘treat’ at lunchtime Wink

southnownorth · 05/09/2018 22:09

It's very easy on Mumsnet to sit behind a screen and say nasty things. I have witnessed some horrible posts on here.

There was a few in tears this morning going in, they are only 11.

Lweji · 05/09/2018 22:12

If it helps, OP, my son recently went through a fairly stressful few days, and tiny unrelated things were enough to trigger tears. Not often, but it happened at least two or three times.

My guess is that your DD felt somewhat overwhelmed by the school and thinking of McDs triggered the tears.
By all means take her to one and use the opportunity to talk to her about the school and reassure her.

Charolais · 05/09/2018 22:16

I’d get her a happy meal.

RomanyRoots · 05/09/2018 22:20

If you go twice a week, she probably thinks this is another thing she has to change. Some kids with or without sn don't like too much change.
Everything changes when you go to secondary, and of course they're babies again to the older ones.

Hassled · 05/09/2018 22:21

I still remember the MNer who posted ages ago about her first day at big school where they were all sat in the hall and told to write about how they felt when they learned Santa wasn't real. This was news to her, and she sat there sobbing. Now that's a shit start to big school.

TalbotAMan · 05/09/2018 22:22

DD2 started secondary yesterday and is getting very upset that they have put her in a group which does a different language than the one she thought she was going to do.

Three years ago DD1 started. We live in walking distance from the school and on day 1 she walked herself. On day 2 I drove her there because she was absolutely panicking that she had no idea where to find the room she had to go to for the first lesson. I had to find a teacher who could give her directions - to be fair the school had stationed one outside for that very purpose.

I have memories of going to secondary school and being put in a class of 36 (those were the days) where I knew absolutely no-one. The two or three other people I'd known before had been allocated different classes.

It's a tough time.

Scabetty · 05/09/2018 22:24

All this fake confusion ‘i don’t get it, is this a joke?’. Nasty women who love to sneer and judge. Funny how one comments and then it’s like flies round shit. Playground bitches.

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 05/09/2018 22:27

we didn’t visit McDonalds all summer!!!!

Lucky escape I say Wink

llangennith · 05/09/2018 22:40

Dahlietta really? You're that stupid? Or that insensitive?

clumsyduck · 05/09/2018 22:50

No I think it's more genuine confusion

All the posts about secondary school being a big change etc are spot on but then op was like no she just really likes mc ds so people are maybe thinking there missing the point or some in joke perhaps ?

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