To expect DH to occasionally make his own way to the train station?

[AliceRR]

DH and I share a car currently but this is wholly of his making (long story) but it suits him for us to share. I’d rather we had our own cars.

We both work in the same city and get the train. The train station is only a mile from our house so we tend to travel together. We get the same train in the morning as it’s most convenient for both of us and coming home I could get an earlier one but tend to get the next one (half an hour later) so that we can both go home in the car together. Otherwise one of us would have to walk or if have to go back and get him and it just wouldn’t be worth it given the time.

Often, if one of us works late, the other will go back and pick up. There have been times when he has gone out after work and taken the car so I have walked or got a taxi and vice versa.

Tomorrow I have my 16w Mw appointment at 10 am so will not be going into work with him. I let him know and I did say that if I’m up I will take him to the station and chances are I would be up but I did ask that if I’m not awake then please don’t wake me. I’m pregnant and tired and seem to have cold after cold and TBH could benefit from the extra hour (or more!) in bed. I usually get up at 7:15 but could probably get up at around 9 for an appointment at 10 am close to home!

But he seemed put out by this and seemed to think I should get up if I expected to use the car.

It’s easier for me to keep the car BTW as I would otherwise need to make my way to the doctor’s surgery and then down to the train station so would be more to walk or more taxi fares.

This is not a deal breaker obviously but interested in others’ thoughts!

And no one needs a shower after a 3 mile bike ride.

You both should be walking the mile every morning.

@sunstarsmoon not sure I understand? I would be going to work after my appointment so we’d come home together as normal

Thanks again everyone

I’m ignoring the rude / judgey / beyond scope posts. I realise some of you just need an outlet!

Think I know what I’m going to do now 🙂

And as for when I’m on mat leave we’ll deal with that then depending on where we live etc

You asked for opinions - you got them. It's not being rude or judgy to say "blimey, why on earth not walk? A 15 minute walk is nothing!"
It's an opinion. Or are we all supposed to just say "oh no, that's far too far to walk, of course you should both be taking the car!"
Why ask for opinions if you only want to hear what you want to hear?

I cycle three miles each way to the train station every day. I do not work up a sweat, and I go at a decent pace, I use it as part of my daily fitness training

Those saying no one needs a shower after a 15-20 min walk, some people do, so me people sweat a lot more than others do in fact I bet it's more than you realise but those of us that do sweat more than is deemed 'normal' tend to learn how to hide it well, baby wipes, deodorant every trip to the bathroom etc etc so don't assume just because you can manage a 15 min walk with no sweating issues that everyone is the same as you.

Yeah, get bikes with the cycle to work scheme. Shower and change after a mile cycling?? Keep a deodorant at work maybe.

'Rude/judgey/beyond scope'. Aka 'honest'.

"What's his problem exactly? Has he given a valid reason for not wanking? "
😂😂😂😂 that really made me chuckle. I'll be using that phrase but not sure who on!

It would genuinely never occur to me to drive a 1 mile journey.

Same here. For a non disabled adult, a mile is walking or cycling distance!

Mind yourself @AliceRR

Let us know how everything goes when you have your baby etc.