Would you charge 24 year old child rent?

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Hello,

My daughter has just finished her degree. She has moved back home. She is now going travelling, but not proper travelling. Random cheap holidays away, etc.

She has money saved for this.

She may be at home for a few weeks at a time not doing much until the next trip.

Would you charge her for the time she is at home?

Thanks

Can she not get temp work with an agency for the weeks at a time between trips?
I would be encouraging some kind of work really. Regardless of if she gives you some of the money, she should be out doing something.

At 24 I'd assume she'd already done some travelling/ had some nice holidays, but if you can afford it I would give her a date 1/3/6 months away, and tell her rent starts on that date. If she can't afford to pay, then she does chores around the house to earn her keep.

As she won't be around much, a peppercorn rent/nominal amount. Then when she's working igy bigger nominal amount: unless you're really struggling.

child
tʃʌɪld/Submit
noun
a young human being below the age of puberty or below the legal age of majority.
"she'd been playing tennis since she was a child"
synonyms: youngster, young one, little one, boy, girl; More
a son or daughter of any age.
"when children leave home, parents can feel somewhat redundant"
an immature or irresponsible person.
"she's such a child!"

I usually use child in the context of the first definition.
Seems op is going for the second two.

Yes, my mum charged me rent when I was living at home as a student. Not the full rental value, but it covered meals and laundry.

Yes, I would charge an adult daughter for a contribution towards household costs. Why not?

No, I wouldn't.

If she's only home for a few weeks at a time I personally wouldn't bother, unless she's planning to do this for more than about six months or you can't afford to keep her unless she contributes. It doesn't seem worth it for sporadic bits of money here and there. I would expect her to pull her weight around the house though, and not treat her time at home like an extension of her holidays.

I think have a conversation and perhaps point out that if she is not paying rent she needs to contribute in some other way whilst she is at home. Laundry, cooking 3 days a week, cleaning etc.

Yes I obviously don't think 24 is a child, but they're my child. I put it because obviously a 24 yo lodger would be expected to pay

The op's daughter is not a child but she is still her child, her daughter, one of her children. I understand what she meant, not that she was infantalising the girl.

As she isn't yet working full time I would not charge her rent. If she does settle down back at home when she has a 'proper' job, a contribution from her towards household expenses is quite a reasonable expectation.

Depends. My parents don't currently charge me rent and actively help me out with costs, but I'm disabled and far too anxious to go on a nice holiday.

I do agree with a PP that the world we're expected to live in is shit and having some time to breathe would be nice, but in the end it's for you and your daughter to negotiate.

I've only started charging now my son works full time. It's £20 a week.

I tried asking the council if I could not
pay rent when I was 24 and living in one of their properties but they said ?
Well of course I didn't I was an adult with a year old child struggling to make ends meet and I paid rent and food and bills. The adult living under your roof that's related to you should be paying their way and if they are not? You're been taken for a ride

24? Child? Those don;t go together, sorry. At 24 you're an adult whether you're still living at Mummy and Daddy's.
Yes, there should be some rent or bills paid.

No I wouldn’t charge, but I can afford not to.

Why are you asking OP?

Its one of those questions where you will get lots of different answers, and it really is down to you and your circumstances. Its a very personal thing I think.

You don't give any context e.g. whether are you working, have you enough £ for holidays etc, has your DD got debts, etc, what are her plans, are you OK to just be a base for her fun, young life etc etc...

If she's got the funds to go on multiple holidays, she can afford to chip in for her living expenses.

I was charged rent from the age of 16. I was a full-time student and worked part time in retail at a weekend. I think I paid £100 reduces down to £80 when I argued about it.

I personally wouldn’t charge rent, but that’s because I would never do what my mum did. Very unfair!

If you can afford to keep her, don't charge her. It's a different matter altogether if a parent or parents are hard up and need the 'keep' money.

I'd certainly expect a contribution to household expenses if she's moving back home at her age and can afford random travelling. Does she realise that you will, for example lose your single person's council tax discount?

Depends...if you don't need her to contribute and If she's a decent responsible human being I would just expect her to do a few household chores and let her enjoy her freedom without eating into her savings. Let us know what you decide. X

She has no problem contributing, she already has bought various food shops, etc. I know to most 24 is old as you had kids. Hell I was married in my own home with 2! But she has just got done at uni, went a little late for personal reasons and I do still see her as young. I don't need the money really. Just wondered if morally I should/should not charge her and what people thought. Thanks for replies.

@rainbowsandsmiles she is still my child though? Why are people being so weird that she's my child. She could be 60 and still be my child

I'd go for the household chores route, rather than rent, as she'll only be at home sporadically. I always emphasise the fact that DD (only 13, but slightly taller than me already) is physically capable of doing any chores that I can do...and she's 30 years younger.