If you have boy/s then a daughter...

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Is having a daughter a much ‘better’ more fulfilling/easier experience?? I don’t mean do you love them more- I’m assuming you don’t. Just is the actual experience of raising a daughter really that much better than a son?

I have seen so many gender disappointment threads on here and have felt it myself from time to time (I have 3DS’s). I adore my sons completely but all I hear on here and in RL is about women wanting daughters/how much easier/more fun girls are and how much closer the relationship with a daughter is than with a son. It makes me feel that I must be really missing out.

Please be honest- if you have both, especially if you had a girl after one or more boys, is it everything you hoped for/so very different?

I wanted a girl. I had a girl.
I won’t have another because I simply do not want a boy.

And to add ...a lot of women think girls will be all frilly dresses and pink and Barbie dolls.
My girl was happiest in t shirts and leggings and used to borrow her brothers t shirts (I have a lovely pic of her in a shark t shirt waving a toy alien around). She refused to wear dresses. So you might get your girl after a few boys but she won't play the pink princess role. Happily I just wanted my kids to be themselves or I would have been disappointed.

I had a boy then a girl. Dd was so much easier from the get go. Both adults nowand she is still a nicer person

I have one of each. At the baby/toddler stage DD was an absolute delight - no bother at all. DS was more difficult with sleeping, difficult in shops, always wanting to run if etc etc.

As they are growing up though, DD is much more difficult, naughty, rude, hard work. DS has his moments but is mostly much easier and just tells me all the time how much he loves me!

If I had another child (which I wouldn’t!) I would def rather have another boy.

I have 2 Autistic sons aged 9&11.... I also have 1 DD aged 7.... Honestly...if we'd had our DD first ...she'd be an only child !!!!!!!

I have both but my dd came first.

I found my son harder when younger, many more tantrums and stubbornness.

He's now 11. Very funny, creative, self confident but very sensitive and emotional. We chat lots about friendships and gossip.

My dd was a moody baby but a lovely child. Hardly any tantrums. She was into Dragons, animals, ghost and ghouls.
She's now 13. Very funny, great company, into photography and film. A few mood swings (but nothing more than the average teenager)
She much less emotional and sensitive than my ds.
We chat lots about friendships and gossip.

So, to sum up this very scientific study - I found them pretty similar in the 'easy' stakes.

Yes Dd is a bit of a tom boy too. She loved pink when she was younger but she had a lot of friends who were boys. She has always liked comfy clothes, messy untamed hair and at 13 still isn’t into make up, hair do’s or fashion, posing and pouting etc.

I was never one for excessively wanting a girl. In fact I hoped for two boys as I could reuse lots of first DC's stuff.

When I found out I was having a girl I felt very confused but excited.

But really it's made no difference. I don't treat one like a boy and one like a girl. I don't feel like I get more out of one child than another.

OP I don't have children but people always tell me boys are more fun so it just goes to show, it's just people's opinions

I have 2 boys and a girl. I honestly cannot say having a girl was in anyway different from having a boy, except you can buy prettier clothes for girls.

I'm now very close to DD in a way I can't be close to my son's but that doesn't mean I love her more, or even that we're better friends it's just different, but that had only happened since she's been an adult.

If I’m brutally honest I enjoy my daughter much more than my son. However he isn’t NT and is very hard work - which whilst I appreciate isn’t his fault I am only human and it does grind me down. He also did not sleep through until he was nearly 6. Prior to that he was up three or four times a night.
My daughter is a very different child and I’m much less ‘on edge’ with her than I am with ds.

But it is probably down to their own personalities and additional issues to be honest.

The boy has been far more "difficult" for me - a needy baby, much more defiant, needs a lot more exercise and to be out every day (which does not suit me personally as I am a lazy bean and could happily spend all day on the sofa, as could my DD - but I bet an athletic person would love having my DS)

I totally relate to the exercise thing! I'm the least sporty person ever but my ds is super sporty and I've spent a lot of time standing in a freezing park in goal!

I have 2 DSs that are brilliant! Loud, boisterous, helpful, kind and smart. Then we had DD2 and we are all besotted with her. She has a good sense of humour and a happy outgoing, personality (So far, she’s a toddler). She loves handbags, bikes, and swimming and getting mucky. When I look at her I don’t see a girl, I see a toddler. It’s hard to explain, but it’s not on my radar that she is a girl, I see her personality instead.

I love my daughter but my god she's hard work. She's 18, always been a drama queen.

Her brother is a calm loving child who helps round the house and gives us little grief.

I have a good relationship with both my children but my daughter is the one turning me grey 😂

Two boys then a girl here. Whilst having a daughter is not 'better' it is very different.

Both boys slept through early on, weaned off the breast easily, had sunny, easy going personalities. Although fairly timid and barely said a word before the age of 3.

DD is the polar opposite. She has only just started going through the night at 3.5 (before 3 months ago she hadn't slept more than 4 hours at a time). She is boisterous and an extrovert. She said her first words at 9 months and was talking in sentences by 18 months (when she finally stopped wanting to breast feed). She has nearly killed me (semi lighthearted).

BUT is that because she's a girl? Who knows, I'm not risking another to find out

2 boys then a girl-my daughter was a relatively easy baby, but this was probably to do with her being a third child and me not jumping every time she cried!

Now she’s a pain in the backside age 6, far more than the boys. Love her desperately, but she’s much more hard work (is brighter than the boys were at this age so the two are linked I think; she knows her own mind far more than they did!)

The only time I would favour having one gender over the other is when choosing cats.
The girls are excellent mousers and I don't want vermin

I have two daughters and a son, and my boy is by far the easiest of the 3! Do these people also have sons or just daughters?

it's strange- i hear all htese people saying their daughters are harder work than their sons, but I NEVER see this in real life! All the girls I know are so much better behaved/ more compliant/ less rowdy and earlier to learn self care/ independence type things than my boys and their male friends. Maybe it's the parenting but it just seems to come so much more naturally.

For eg- I organised a baby shower for one of my friends. Several people brought their toddler daughters with them. the DDs sat, played, were quiet and generally didn't disturb the adults. None of my 3DSs would have EVER been able to sit through an event like that without causing havoc. Similarly weddings/ restaurants etc etc.

I have two sons and a daughter- yes it was nice when she was a baby to dress her in ‘girlie’ clothes but she soon refused to wear skirts or dresses and ended up in jeans or leggings.

All three have had their moments and I wouldn’t say having one is easier than another, anymore than second child is easier then the first!

All three of mine still come for hugs and cuddles on the sofa and heybare you nag adults now 😊😊

Of course, those last few words should say ‘they are young adults now ‘!!! 😱😱

I wonder this too. 99% of gender disappointment threads are women wanting girls. 99% of threads on gender swaying are women wanting advice on ‘swaying’ for a girl.

You wouldn't have seen my daughter when she was a toddler because I couldn't take her anywhere, it was one long tantrum. Now the hard work is mental, you wouldn't notice how I am working out what she is up to and anticipating her next move.

That's why I have more toddler pics of ds than dd. She was usually throwing a tantrum and didn't like having her photo taken.
Not now. She's always posing on fb lol but to be fair if I looked like her maybe I would too.

I have a girl and a boy and they are like chalk and cheese.
My daughter is 'easier' in that she prefers to spend a lot if her time doing crafts or reading, or other stuff that generally involves staying in one place and being quiet. Whilst my son seems unable to sit still for 10 seconds, is constantly doing everything at full speed and volume, and he has absolutely no sense of fear.
However, my daughter can be sneaky, devious and manipulative. Whereas my son is honest and straight talking. So he is much easier in that sense.

My son is also significantly more loving and affectionate than his sister, who only ever really wants cuddles or affection when she is poorly or injured.

I love them both with all my heart, but in different ways and I have very different relationships with them both.

Pre children, I had always wanted to have a girl (not that I didn't want to have boys too, but I really wanted at least one girl). And I did have a girl first. However now, if I was to pick just 1 gender based on my experiences so far, I'd probably pick a boy!