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What is the worse First date you have ever been on?

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Lorddenning1 · 30/08/2018 13:47

I am newly single and in the future I will want to date again, but I feel like I am out of touch with the whole dating scene. There are several unspoken rules that you try to follow when it comes to a first date - not eating garlic and who pays for the food etc

But does anyone have any stories of the worse first date they have ever been on?

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MawkishTwaddle · 31/08/2018 07:45

A matinee performance of Hook, surrounded by kids, because he had tickets to an evening rugby match that he didn't want to miss.

I married him.

Then divorced him 15 years later.

SusanneLinder · 31/08/2018 08:03

Met this guy at a club ( early 80s). Looked quite nice ( in the dark!). Anyway asked me out!
He said we were going to a hotel ( thought we were having dinner etc). So he turned up with all his brothers in the car..Hmm.
He is spotty with greasy hair , leather jacket, rolled up jeans and creepers ( think Kenickie from Grease). This was during Mod/ Rocker revival. I dressed in ( toned down) , Mod gear, smart black and white two tone dress, bobbed hair...the works.
Turned out we were going to a Rockabilly concert in the hotel. Silence in the car was deafening.Grin Mods and Rockers used to fight in the 60's, and it resurfaced in the 80s.
The stares I got at the venue was frightening. I was scared to go to the loo...
I phoned my mum after half an hour, and she rescued me. Didnt even say cheerio and never heard from him again. Thankfully.
Don't even remember his name, but I will never forget that date.

Cuttingthegrass · 31/08/2018 08:17

The dirtiest fingernails eveeeeeerrrrrrr

Couldn't even bring myself to shake his hand.

CuriosityDoor · 31/08/2018 08:21

Online date, he was good looking and easy to chat to. Had a few cocktails where he got very tipsy, very quickly. He then leaned in and whispered in my ear "I'd really love to spank you!"

Such a shame my train was due so I had to run to catch it....Confused

silkpyjamasallday · 31/08/2018 08:23

I went on a date with a guy I'd met at a party, he had seemed really interesting then, but during the date he related absolutely everything we talked about back to Alan Partridge. I was 11 years younger than him, I've never watched Alan Partridge so didn't understand and it was odd that he kept doing it even after I'd made it clear I had no clue about anything Alan Partridge related. We then bumped into his colleagues and they discussed work stuff for an hour or so. When I was leaving he asked if I wanted to come back to his flat to watch Alan fucking Partridge. I declined, and he stole the cab I'd flagged and went off in a huff.

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NameChangingParanoid · 31/08/2018 08:35

A friend of mine recently went on a first date with a guy she met online.

They just went for a coffee, she said it was ok but probably wouldn’t go on a second date.

He followed up their one cup of coffee by sending her a dick pic - charming!

Tobuyornot99 · 31/08/2018 08:38

Went on a date with a guy I'd met online. I was living in a different city to the place I'd grown up. When I told him where I was from (small, out of the way place) he knew it, but wouldn't say how....turns out he'd been to prison there for his part in a major drugs distribution ring.
Another OLD chap was a good foot shorter than he'd said he was. I was probably a bit jaded with OLD at this point so said I hoped his tape measure he used for work was more accurate than the one he measured himself with (he was a carpenter) he stormed off and left me where I stood Grin

Fishypieandmash · 31/08/2018 08:41

Online date.
Had a laminated photo of me from the site in his wallet.
Said he would like to see me in black latex.
His hobby was shooting magpies from his bedroom window.

MeMyselfand · 31/08/2018 08:43

I've had two bad dates, first one we went to a bar never asked me a thing about myself and he spent the night telling me about his lads nights out, how it's tradition for them to go to brothels. They always end up in one after a night out then go for a curry after. I didn't see him again 😦

Second bad date I met him for a coffee. Chatting away fine through it and near the end he asked if I want to meet up again the following Saturday to go to a house party because his friends mum was away for the weekend so they were having a party, they had put it on Facebook, he was 30Confused that's not the worst part though. He said at the end don't worry I will be finished my course of antibiotics by then for the sti I have 😐

Had a good date with a guy but never ended up meeting again, both just busy with work. Turns out I seen him last week on the most wanted list by the police 😱 that was a shocker

Jenwen22 · 31/08/2018 09:10

Oooo Difficult one. I'd say it was a close tie between the guy who licked my face when I went to give him a goodbye kiss. As in licked my face. Like a dog. No callback there.

Or the one who went on one date, then wanted to go exclusive and move in together (Because that is what his ex did) then continuously go off on one that I was cheating on him when I didn't a) respond quick enough to his messages b) saw that I was on POF. After one two hour date. Hmm Told him to do one.

Or the one who messaged me asking to have sex with him while his mother was in the house.

Or the one who asked me on the first date if I had ever considered pretending to be a frog during sex....still to this day have no idea what that entails. Possibly some wierd squatting position while going ribbit, ribbit with every thrust....

However I did meet my OH, soon to be husband, after all this so yeah you have to kiss a few frogs (Just kiss mind, nothing else) to find your Prince...

....OLD is a minefield. Tread carefully, and be picky! And don't be afraid to shoot them down...

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Lorddenning1 · 31/08/2018 10:29

some of these are horrendous :(

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WhatsUpPussycat123 · 31/08/2018 10:48

My first online dating date was my worst. After about 15 minutes he admitted to me that he wasn’t that interested but was hoping I could get him into the swinger’s club down the road because they wouldn’t let him in as a single male. I declined.

Mehaveit · 31/08/2018 11:15

Bloke came to look round my work to quote for a job. Got chatting seemed nice. Swapped numbers and met up. I'd swapped numbers with him in daylight but when we met up he looked nothing like I remembered! If definitely was him to a sufficient extent to know he hadn't sent his mate but I had no idea what I was thinking swapping numbers. He regaled me with lots of anecdotes where he made silly decisions and got angry with how things had worked out (leaving window open getting burgled kind of stuff). He dropped hints about the long walk home but I didn't offer a lift nor even a peck on the cheek. He kept asking me out on dates to meet his friends. I told him he and I just were too different and fortunately he took the hint. He also fortunately didn't get the job at my work!

Pieceofpurplev · 31/08/2018 11:18

The guy who turned up to collect me in a reliant robin three wheeler van. He took me to the zoo and we had an ok day. He later suggested we hop in the back of the van for a 'cuddle' and he kept a mattress in the back of it.

Two things. Ugh no. And secondly wouldn't it tip up??

Fuzzywig · 31/08/2018 11:33

Lol Pieceofpurplev I need the interest of Mumsnet and science I believe you should have explored that possibility. Then again no.... just no.. yuk

Graphista · 31/08/2018 11:35

"boy who decided his soup was too hot at the restaurant so cooled it down with ice cubes from his drink." I'd happily date this guy! Practical, problem solver and self confident.

Blind date with friend of a friend SOOOOOO dull maintaining any kind of conversation was like pulling teeth and I'm a Chatty Cathy normally! Friend is life and soul I have no idea how this friendship exists!

Guy from OLD my first OLD date, it was a fairly new thing at this point. We'd chatted for a couple weeks, he was a well educated, mc, senior management type. Seemed like a nice friendly classy guy... Went for a meal, all fine good in fact, then drinks after where he got very drunk, very quickly and attempted to shove his hand up my skirt in full view of everyone in the bar!! Pushed his hand away and asked him what the hell he was playing at?! To which he basically said "oh come on everyone knows single mums are slappers that will go with anyone, with what I paid for dinner I expect at least one fuck out of you" so I proved him right - slapped him and walked off!

Catspyjamazzzz · 31/08/2018 11:46

Just placemarking Grin

catinboots9 · 31/08/2018 11:49

We went for a carvery ( low key, not far from home) and he piled his plate so high that gravy ran down his wrists, and made the arms of his wolf fleece soggy.

This has just killed me. Am shuddering on the bus Grin

HurricainBiancaDelRio · 31/08/2018 11:51

my worst date ended up in the newpapers so would be incredibly outing to share Blush

CripsSandwiches · 31/08/2018 11:55

One bloke I went on one date with decided to announce two minutes in that I shouldn't expect a free ride and to be wined and dined for free. If woman want equality they should damn well pay for it. The rant came out of nowhere and went on for about 10 minutes. I have never expected a free meal from a bloke - always pay my way and based on his job this guy wasn't insanely well off either (think very standard - below average graduate job) I was doing a generously funded PhD and probably had more disposable income than him. I made my excuses and left early. I later heard through mutual friends that I was just after him for a free meal and once I found out he wasn't going to be taken for a ride I ran off! I imagine this is something that happens often to him!

Ginosaji · 31/08/2018 12:05

I had a similar experience to @Sallycinammonbangsthedruminthe

This was an ad from lonely hearts column in newspaper, i answered an ad and we swapped numbers, swapped texts for a couple of weeks, got on quite well, so when he suggested meeting for film/drinks i said yes

He was polite & friendly enough etc, but there was just no spark & i got an odd vibe from him

The next day i text him to say thanks for the film etc but that didn't think it would be a good idea to meet up again as i didn't think we were suited, he begged for days for me to change my mind, but i stayed firm and refused (politely, if a little blunt) he then kept threatening to kill himself, i just ignored him at that point, and after i ignored a few texts he gave up

Bout 3 weeks later i got a text from his number, but the person said they were a friend of my date and that he had slashed his wrists the week before all cos of me and had bled to death all alone in the bath

I didn't believe a word of it and just told the person to go away and leave me alone, I didn't get a reply so thought nothing more of it & deleted the number

After about a month my phone rang, didn't recognise the number and answered it, only to have my date start speaking to me! He apologised about the suicide threats and pretending to be his own friend to try and get at me, and asked if he could take me away for the weekend to apologise Shock

I told him to fuck off and hung up, and then called my provider and got my number changed

CryptoFascist · 31/08/2018 12:07

You're not the poo window lady are you, Hurricane?

HurricainBiancaDelRio · 31/08/2018 12:15

no CryptoFascist much worse than that.

Mrskeats · 31/08/2018 12:18

One where the guy said to me he was just dating whilst he decided to go back to his wife as she was obviously desperate to make it work. He was so arrogant.