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Am I unreasonable to not take daughter to hospital?

123 replies

evietw · 29/08/2018 20:31

My daughter has a balloon of a hand. It's extremely bruised and swollen. However, she has no problem moving it and just slight pain when it's proded at. Absolutely no pain moving it.

My mum thinks I should take her and she will have to end up taking her Hmm

Opinions please?

OP posts:
Charolais · 29/08/2018 21:17

My husband still remember when he was little and broke his arm. His dad told him it was nothing and did nothing. His older brother drove him to the doctors.

Passmethecrisps · 29/08/2018 21:19

I didn’t mean to come over as harsh genuinely. I just find it weird to post on a section of MN not known for giving careful and considered opinions.

I simply can’t a post which essentially describes what sounds like a nasty injury and defends her decision not to take her to hospital. Not taking her is fine - The parent can actually see it and knows her child more than any of us can. It just feels like setting herself up for a flogging

I was more confused pondering than having a proper pop

minisoksmakehardwork · 29/08/2018 21:20

If nothing else take her to minors in the morning. Otherwise I'm going to assume there was more to the incident than just hit by the car door, and that there might have been an argument, slamming of doors etc and you're scared of your dd saying something.

Either way, it looks so much worse to just do nothing.

nervousFTM · 29/08/2018 21:21

Please go tonight!!!!

PhilomenaButterfly · 29/08/2018 21:21

Same here Charolais. I lived with my grandparents. They didn't take me to hospital for 3 days. I had a broken elbow.

This was 46 years ago. I really should get over it. Blush

Anonymumm · 29/08/2018 21:23

I think this is what they created the acronym FFS, for - FFS, no brainier - take her to hospital ASAP!

LifeHackQueens · 29/08/2018 21:25

Another one say take her to A&E.

schooltripwoes · 29/08/2018 21:25

I'd take a trip to minor injuries tomorrow. Not really necessary to visit A&E, especially in the evening as you'd be there for hours.
A dose of of ibuprofen may make her more comfortable tonight.

Witchend · 29/08/2018 21:26

Ds managed a week with a fractured wrist after playing football. Slight swelling but not enough to see with the naked eye (clear when measured round though) didn't complain about any pain. Got on doing everything he normally did. Until he tried playing tennis, then it hurt. So we went to A&E (with him protesting the whole way that it was fine and I was being fussy)

BlueBug45 · 29/08/2018 21:27

OP just take her.

If she is a child it is unlikely to be there for "hours" as other people have said.

They will see if she fractured it and check for infection.

Jackieyoulooknice · 29/08/2018 21:36

@1CantPickAName I'm not being harsh, it's harsh to leave an injured child because you can't be arsed.

aspoonfulofyourownmedicine · 29/08/2018 21:37

I haven't read the full thread, but I'd take her.

My son fell when he was 18 months old, cried for a little while and nothing. His arm was bent. Took him to A&E and even the nurses were confused why he wasn't in any pain etc. He'd broken his ulna in 2 places and required manipulation under GA to have it corrected. He's 9 now and still has a slight bend in his forearm.

I nearly didn't take him to A&E but my DGDad persuaded me to. He was right!

aspoonfulofyourownmedicine · 29/08/2018 21:37

and then nothing - that should've said. Sorry!

Drummingisfun · 29/08/2018 21:39

I fell of a horse and hurt my hand. Was a but swollen but could move all fingers and wrist as normal, not that painful. Drove home, went to bed. Got up next day and couldn't even hold a spoon to eat cornflakes. Went to A+E and left in plaster.

I think you need to take her.

YouBetterWORK · 29/08/2018 21:39

Another vote for take her in!

gamerchick · 29/08/2018 21:41

If it’s broken what can a & e do?

I can't wrap my head round that, is a&e not for broken bones these days? Confused

BabySharkDooDooDooDoo · 29/08/2018 21:44

Id take her to make sure its not broken

Catmum26 · 29/08/2018 21:45

i fractured my ankle and managed to walk on it so her being able to move her hand doesn’t mean she hasn’t done serious damage. i don’t understand why you wouldn’t want to take her?

aspoonfulofyourownmedicine · 29/08/2018 21:46

I should've added to my post that my son broke his wrist in May, just as they broke up for May half term. He was knocked off his bike by an adult on a bike. Hand swollen and pale but could move it. DH said 'ahhh wait til morning and take him to minors'. I bundled him straight into the car to A&E, turns out it was broken and spent 4 weeks in plaster - including half term. (I appreciate that it looks bad that my son has broken his bones twice! I don't disagree). As much as I didn't want to sit in A&E and passed back and forth to Xray, then to fracture clinics, consultant surgeons etc, I had to be sure my son was ok as my priority.

I really hope you're on your way to, or are already at, A&E. and I hope you're daughter is ok.........

Racecardriver · 29/08/2018 21:47

I had a similar experience. Very little pain. It was a fracture.

aspoonfulofyourownmedicine · 29/08/2018 21:47

If it’s broken what can a & e do?

They'd at least prevent further damage by x raying and immobilising the hand until the child can be seen in a fracture clinic Hmm

ChanandlerBongsNeighbour · 29/08/2018 21:51

When I was 11 I fell out of my high cabin bed in the night, had severely bruised forehead and my arm swelled up massively and went purple. My parents didn't take me to hospital until three days later where it was discovered it was fractured and put in a cast for six weeks! (my parents are great and my mum still expresses sorrow to me about this delay). Apparently it was my head that broke my arm as I instinctively put my arm up to shield my face as I fell, hence the purple forehead!

My point is, even if it's not agonisingly painful, it could still be badly damaged/fractured. Take her to a&e.

ALemonyPea · 29/08/2018 21:53

Echoing the majority and saying take her! Why wouldn’t you?

Nothisispatrick · 29/08/2018 21:53

If it’s broken what can a & e do?

😂 what does this even mean?

Obviously take her to a&e, what a fucking ridiculous thread

FruitCider · 29/08/2018 21:57

I'm a nurse that deals with a lot of hand injuries.

If it has ballooned in the manner you are describing I would take her to A+E or at least somewhere with X-ray facilities without delay.

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