I said his girlfriend is acting like a bitch in this situation, I still think she acting like a bit of a bitch in this situation. I think that because I have never stopped him seeing his child (and she will always be his child no matter how old she is), or put obstacles in the way of him seeing his child. At the very least she is putting obstacles in his way and I think that is a very bitchy thing to do. I have only called her a bitch here, briefly I might add, I haven’t called her that in front of my daughter. My daughter is old enough to make up her own mind and, as well as never stopping her dad from seeing her, I have never been one to bad mouth her father to her and I wouldn’t do that with his girlfriend either. My DD loves her dad and I want their relationship to be a good one, but I feel I have been watching it slowly begin to fail which is the main reason why I posted.
My daughter would be pleased if she thought her dad was happy, but she is concerned he isn’t happy at all.
I never said the girlfriend shouldn’t have some say in what happens in her home at the weekend. Indeed, it seems perfectly reasonable that she should have a say in what happens in her home. I would also say that the same should go for my daughter’s dad, but that doesn’t appear to be the case. The girlfriend has her three children there almost all of the time, my ex has his daughter their very rarely. He has been meeting my daughter at his relatives homes. Surely he should be able to have his daughter visit his occasionally without his ex trying to stop it/putting obstacles in his way.
I’m not encouraging my DD to blame other women for the failings of men. He’s not dealing with the situation at all well imho, but the situation seems to be caused by the problems that are, at least in part, being caused by his girlfriend. That doesn’t mean I am letting him off the hook, I do essentially think he should man up and stand up to his partner and I’m really surprised that he hasn’t already done so.
The point about the holiday was that she is not being included in her dad’s new family. Apparently against her father’s wishes.
She is not being made welcome in numerous ways that mainly didn’t seem like much on their own, but altogether seem to a pattern. For instance, my DD was eating something and went to the loo, when she came back her food was in the bin and the plate was on the dish drainer. She had an overnight bag for the very odd occasion she was staying over, this disappeared months ago and has never been seen again, although she asked for it several times. My daughter follows a special diet and they never have anything suitable for her to eat, so my daughter bought a few things to have when she was at their house. When she went to make herself something to eat, things had been thrown out, or had already been eaten leaving her with nothing to eat, again.