To give dd2 her sisters room when sister leaves for uni?

[Twistella]

Dd2 is in a tiny boxroom and has been for 12 years. There's a raised single bed and a tiny desk and that's it. When dd1 goes to uni next September wibu to let dd2 have her room and dd1 have the small room when she comes back in the holidays?

She hasn't been trapped in there for 12 years. We do let her out occasionally

Absolutely right!

Only if dd1 is ok with it. She'll likely be home for reading weeks and holidays which are longer than the school ones. University years usually finish in May.

Switch them, but bet dd1 will dislike the new plans

Dd1 is being surprisingly stubborn about the idea so I wasn't sure if iwbu

Of course swap her rooms and explain to DD1 why.

Yeah course, she'll have to learn to let go!

She would begrudge her younger sister a bigger room because she will be home roughly 5 months of the year.

Swap the rooms and tell her she's had a good innings, it's someone else's turn now. Someone else who will be in the room every day.

Definitely switch, DD1 had the bigger room for 12 years... it's DD2s turn now. Nothing unfair about that.

Yeah, sounds fair enough to me.

Tough titties if she doesn’t like it TBH. It’ll be character building for her to realise the world doesn’t revolve around her.

My mum did when my brother went to university and we redecorated both rooms.

I can redecorate it and make it nice. It doesn't fit a double bed so apparently that's not fair if she has a boyfriend to stay!!

Think we had a similar thread 2 weeks ago. It would be useful for you, OP, but no idea how to find it.

Definitely swap them round.
Of course DD1 will make a fuss. You couldn't leave DD1 in a tiny room and leave the bigger room empty for most of the year.

OP...I have the same issue. DD1 was initially not so happy about it. Then she was okay... but DD2 is leaving for Uni in 2 years time and now doesnt want the hassle of moving all her stuff/giving her room a good tidying and cleaning.

It's quite a job clearing out all the stuff you've accumulated over the years.

So we've agreed she can use DD1s room when she needs more space.

Her room isn't a tiny box room though...but a smaller than DD1s.

Tbh I'd like the extra wardrobe space myself..so I'll spread out a bit once she leaves too.

You mean if you allow her to have a boyfriend to stay, don't you?

I'm thinking impressionable 12 year old....

Also dd2 will be going into year 9 with more homework and will need a bigger working area, plus being able to have friends to stay!!

Tell her her mythical boyfriend staying over once or twice a year doesn't trump her sister's right to have a decent room 365 days a year.

I would swap them. If DD1 keeps fussing about it, try making her see it from her sisters point of view. Maybe that'll make her see that she's being a little selfish.

Yes I am about to say that if things get serious! It's just low level grumbling at the moment. I think dd1 is a bit nervous about going which probably doesn't help.

I dont know why you are even entertaining the idea of not swapping them, that would show massive favouritism towards DD1. Dont ask her, tell her that it is your house and this is whats happening.

I think it’s fair. My DH’s parents did the same when his oldest brother (who’d had his own room) left for university. Youngest brother moved into the box room vacated by biggest brother and middle brother (DH) landed the largest room. DH has to share the big room with his older brother in holidays.

*had to share. Past tense. They’re in their 30s now. They don’t have to share a bedroom anymore.

I lost my room completely when I went to uni, had a sofa bed when home. It didn't even cross my mind to be annoyed about it.