To give dd2 her sisters room when sister leaves for uni?

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Dd2 is in a tiny boxroom and has been for 12 years. There's a raised single bed and a tiny desk and that's it. When dd1 goes to uni next September wibu to let dd2 have her room and dd1 have the small room when she comes back in the holidays?

Swap them now and tell them you can do it again in 12 years time. Get her a queen sized bed for the small room of it fits, if not they’ll just have to snuggle up.

I did it last year when ds went to uni. He’s been home the grand total of 5 weeks since last September. Spent most of his summer away or with friends. He comes back here and basically sleeps so the small room is all he needs.

Do it. I was bumped into a tiny box room a few months before heading off to uni for that very reason - to give my sister a bigger room. I didn't like it at the time, or the holidays when I came home, but having grown up a whole lot since then I understand that it was the fairest way of doing things.

I would swap them, though you might consider waiting until say Christmas, so that stuff can be sorted out once you’ve done the initial move out.

Do it. No debate.

A prison officer told me that at the young offenders' institution where he worked many of the teenagers who came in were pleased to have their own room for the first time in their lives. A secure place of their own was a revelation to them albeit 'secure' in another sense.

OP I think you're doing the right thing for DD2 but it's better if DD1 moves her own stuff across the landing before she goes away.

I’d do it. I think it’s reallg selfish to expect a room to stay empty for most of the year ‘just in case’.

Plus, is she expecting a double bed in halls for this boyfriend to stay in?! If so she might’ve be disappointed!

She and bf can sleep on a blow up double mattress (20 quid) in front room when he comes to stay

I'd get a double bed into the box room but take off the door to make it possible - then tell her to enjoy herself with her new boyfriend...

Completely reasonable!

DH and I managed just fine sleeping together in single beds as students.

In my experience this is fairly normal practice. As is squeezing into a single bed with your university boyfriend.

I don’t believe this thread, more thought has been given to the non existent boyfriend than DD2 who has had a tiny bedroom for 12 YEARS!

My parents did this to me when I went to uni. My younger brother got my huge room and I got the smaller one. I thought it was totally fair.

When I moved back in after 3 years he had just moved out so I moved back into big room. I then swapped with my younger sister half a year later as I was away most weekends.

“My parents did this to me when I went to uni”

Did this to you?

Hasn’t one person on the thread actually offered this to their sibling when they moved out? Good grief...

I left home to go and live in London, I came back for a visit and my *cking father took my bed to the dump.

So she should consider herself lucky.

I didn't want the bigger room to sleep in when my DS left for college but used her room as a social and study space instead when she wasn't around. Would that work?

Off course your younger daughter should move into it now. Your older one is technically breaking free.

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As a PP has said, could you fit a small double in the smaller room? That might be a way to mollify both sisters (if you can afford to shell out for another bed, of course!)

I was musing on this while reading the recent similar thread. There were three of us and I was the oldest but I had the smallest bedroom and I can't remember why. So we pre-empted that particular problem, at least!

I don’t know why this is even a question!

What are you going to do with the room if not, leave it as a shrine?!

And I’m with @allright on the sex thing. It’s weird!

Shrine or sex room... or you could just be fair and let your younger daughter have it for 12 years like her sister did.

I shared a room with my sister who's 10 years younger than me. Then my family moved 500 miles away in my first term at uni. I used to sleep on the sofa when i came back.

Not having my old bedroom didnt bother me but coming back to a strange city in the holidays did.

Even before I went away to university, I had the box room (I'm eldest, with two younger brothers that shared a room not that much bigger than mine tbh).

Now, this room truly was a box room. Smaller than a double bed - it fit my single, a bookcase and a small chest of drawers, and not especially comfortably.

When I first moved out for university, it was cleared out and a futon moved in for me for holidays. Later, a bed was moved back in, which was mine again for the year or so I lived at home before moving out with my partner. By this point, the only furniture in there was the bed, the bookcase, under bed drawers and some wall shelves, so I had a bit more floorspace than when I was a teenager.

In that time, my partner stayed with me numerous times, just about managing on a futon mattress on the floor or squeezing into the single together. It's more than doable.

Nowadays, that room is my youngest DB's, so staying at my parents' is never ideal (they have a futon in the conservatory, but it's always either too hot or too cold depending on the time of year). We make it work.

If your youngest DD has had the box room for 12 years, it's definitely her turn for space.

Of course her sister should get to move into the other room. It doesn't matter how long her summer holiday is, she's still going to be living away for more than half the year with the room sitting empty.

Once she's involved in uni life she may end up going on loads of cheap holidays with her mates in the summer anyway.