DH thinks he’s King Fucking Solomon

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DH just returned from 10 days overseas. He brought back one of those hotel-branded teddy bears you get in fancy hotel rooms. Just one. We have three young children who pounced on it like a rugby scrum. Cue screaming and wailing and bear tug o war.

I have maintained an unnatural level of demented serenity for the last 10 days but lost it at this point and binned the bear while DH made pathetic mumbles about the kids getting the bear on a weekly rotational basis. Which, as he works long days, would be up to me to enforce.

WIBU to bin the bear?

Tell the children he's a free spirit who can't be owned.

😂😂😂

Oh I’d be keeping that bear. Every time my DH wound me up, I’d be taking it out of its storage spot and quietly leaving it on its pillow. Each appearance of the bear would buy me at least a morning’s repentance.

What a tool.

I actually think it’s your kids that are being unreasonable. How feral must they be to behave so appallingly over a bear? My little angels would never do that. Clutches pearls.

*his pillow, not its pillow

I dunno sendintheaardwolves i don’t really think about it, I just assumed it was a room freebie, I didn’t think that there might be a hotel shop that could shaft you sell you more!

In that case, here’s my first ltb op.

Bin the Bear! I agree with that, out of sight out of mind. Although I'd take your three kids to stuff the bear or what ever it is called and let them have fun making their individual bears.. (if you can afford it) make a day out of it with icecream, so they don't feel its their fault. Its not. Added advantage of them not throwing this back on you when they are teenagers (almost guaranteed) Mum you are the Bear Binner, you actually threw our bear in the bin!
Your dear OH is as the Irish say "an awful eegit altogether," Sit him down and explain

1. he has 3 children not 1
2. they all want individual acknowledgement and would have been happy with a packet of maltesers each.
3. None of you have seen him for 10 days and he has to think more carefully about what he wants his homecomings to be like by simply connecting his brain to the rest of his body and buying some small token for each child in duty free. If his boss does not give enough allowance for him to buy 3 toblerones after 10 day trip then he needs a new job.
4. if still incapable of doing this, I'd buy 3 small presents for them for him to give them (enabling, but better than the horrid Bear experience you've just had to go through. All would be happy and you show him by example how handling things differently actually works and if he's got the brains to go on 10 day business trips then he's got the brains to sort out 3 small children. Sorry, I think you touched a nerve with me here LOL.. I say all the above in jest.

Sorry - didn’t really think about it

My kids share toys, can’t they just share it??

I think he needs punishing by making him take all 3 kids to build a bear. That’ll teach him!! 😈

Fortunately I am already going away on a pre-arranged child and DH-free break this weekend.

Maybe I should hand DH one icecream cone on the way out and leave him and the kids to it.

All four of them have found solidarity over big meanie mummy and wife who refused DH’s master plan to divide the indivisible and are currently sulking together in a bedroom. Win for me- I am being left alone for the first time in 10 days.

I don't think its really about sharing it tho. Of course they have to share things, I think its about Bright Spark coming back from a 10 day trip and upsetting everyone. No present at all would have been better and probably avoided it all.

How does the bear feel about this?

I’m glad you get a weekend away! Such visible evidence that he spent about 3 seconds thinking about his dc while overseas would have had me contemplating king solomoning him.

Me too stillnot! 😂

Yadbu to bin the bear and add to landfill. At least send it to the charity shop 😬

As punishment he should take all the children to build a bear this weekend and buy them one each. That'll teach him.

Having spent a good part of a day last weekend with a teen girl who was forced to throw away bears that have gathered dust for years and bloody years, can I suggest you just bin it now.

She had to say goodbye to every bloody one of them, as of course they all have names and I had to hear the full story of how she came by each one of them and got the full life history of each.

There were tears.

Bin the bear!

My kids are older now and for a moment I was cuching my pearls about your badly behaved children. Then I remembered the time DH came home from the shops with a box of washing powder that had a single toy penguin attached (Mumble from Happy Feet, in fact). After world war 3 had raged for some hours, I recall that Mumble went to live on the top of my wardrobe.

So you have my sympathy, and the knowledge that this will soon pass.

What a tit

Could it be said Bear cost an arm and a leg like these thing do often especially when from places where your a captive audience.
Not that I’m defending any man as that’s against all my better judgements

Poor bear! Illegally kidnapped from a lovely hotel somewhere and now reduced to biding his time in a smelly domestic bin (before taking the long journey to the landfill site and an inescapable end...)

Anyone reminded of the toys heading for the incinerator in one of the Toy Story sequels???

P.S. You are not being unreasonable to be annoyed with your husband. Enjoy your break away...but don’t bring back any bears

What a twit. It is be the sort of thing that a clueless but well meaning uncle or aunt might do but parents really should know better

Did he bring back anything else?

Rescue the bear and use it as a modern language tool re rp, nrp, shared care and co-parenting.