Would this be a reason to leave?

[Ladymillion28]

Hello, I think I know the answer to what I'm about to say and maybe I actually just need somewhere to vent. Basically I have a kitten (he's about 6 months old) and DH hates him, to the point he'll say it many times a day. He's very playful but also so loving and affectionate and just wants attention which I will happily give to him. Tonight he scratched DH feet as he walked past him which resulted in telling the cat to f*ck off and saying to me that it's getting to the point that he's going to end up kicking him because he makes him so angry! He's always shouting at him and then having a go at me because he hates the cat so much. I know it might sound dramatic but if he was to hurt my cat I don't think I could stay with him! He's loving to me and never been physical towards me or anyone but my cat makes him so angry and I just know what to do about it? I feel so angry and disappointed with him.

God, what a giant sulking, stroppy toddler.

Your DH, that is.

How deeply, incredibly unappealing.

It seems he has a problem with the kitten’s crazy and skittish behaviour as it disrupts the order of the home, but seems fine when it’s still and calm..... I’d be concerned he’ll have a similar issue when your baby becomes a toddler and leaves a trail of destruction behind them.

It seems the need to control may behind this. He can’t control what a kitten does so he goes mad.... A young child will be similarly unpredictable once they start moving.

OP my ex would sometimes show compassion to my cat but when he got angry he was awful which escalated to him kicking the cat and hurting me- I never thought that would happen. He is showing his true colours and do you want your DC to think that's how you treat poor defenceless animals.

I think you should leave but if you are not going to please rehome the cat for its sake.

So you went on and on and on til he gave in to the cat and now you’re surprised he doesn’t like the car?

I’d rehome the cat. He didn’t really want it and you didn’t take his views properly into account.

And fgs don’t get another pet.

*cat

It sounds like he's scared of the cat when it's in hyper-kitten mode. He might not admit it though.
Have you got a toy that's a feather on a stick that you can distract the kitten with? It would work as there would be distance between the kitten and the person. Or a laser beam toy could work quite well.
Also once the kitten is neutered it will calm down considerably and have fewer hyper episodes.
It sounds like there is no issue when the kitten is asleep and calm and he hasn't physically hurt the kitten so there is some hope.

Get rid of the cat. OH has some kind of phobia.