In thinking SIL is just lazy..?

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Bit concerned that Dbro's OH is being taken advantage of.

They DBro and SIL have a 4 yr old with ASD. She gets DLA and carer's allowance for her. SIL doesn't work (DBro works 50 + hours per week) and SIL is a PT student, changing to FT this Autumn when their DD starts school so will no longer receive carer's allowance I assume. I don't think they are entitled to any other benefits.

Depsite long hours at his job, they are just about scraping by. SIL refusing to look for a job because she wants to finish her course. It's with OU so why she can't study in the evening I don't know. Their house is always a mess too.

AIBU to think she should get a job to help DBro out? Should I say something to him?

Any mother of a child with ASD would not need MN to tell them they're far from lazy!!

I’m not sure about that. People are plenty happy to be ignorant fuckers about parenting kids with disabilities. Sadly, all too often. Gobshites.

@TatterdemalionAspie Is it International Pretend To Be A Complete Cunt Day today?

Baaaahaha love this and yes, given what the OP has said, I think it is!

No! She's studying and caring for a disabled child, that's fine.

Oh god sorry OP last page just loaded and I see it's a reverse! Never mind, the sentiment still stands for whoever said this to you in the first place!

I’m glad it’s a reverse as hopefully nobody that stupid would belong on MN and now you have had some reassurance.

I get it, I really do x

ASD parents unite. Here's to us

I work full time and study with the OU part time. Part time is 16-20 hours a week studying, if she is going full time that will be nearly 40 hours a week.

YABVU to expect her to do that, plus work, plus care for a SN child.

Why is it any of your business anyway?

Sorry didn't see it was a reverse, your smashing it! Ignore the haters! Good luck going full time!

You are out of order. Don’t stick your nose in. Try a bit of compassion.

Oops, just seen it’s a reverse.

2 autistic kids, work 23 hours a week (when kids are at school), do 90% of the cleaning, cooking, child rearing, bath time, bedtime, all night time waking, shopping, medical appts, organising of their lives. I rarely get a break from 7 am in the morning until 10pm at night (no lunchbreaks!)
One day a week, I give myself 3-4 hours just for me.

My OH think he works harder than me doing a 70 hour a week job where he only ever has to focus on his job and nothing else.

Your lovely replies have made me cry. Thank you everyone. Sorry for having you on xxxx

Sounds like your OH should spend a week in your shoes Flobalob

OP, the reverse doesn’t bother me. In fact l reckon you got more honest replies that way. BTW l wasn’t swearing at you, it was your alter ego l was targeting. All the best.