To think I can wear what I want in my own house?

[Practicallyperfectwithprosecco]

New neighbours and I think they might be slightly mad.

Few weeks ago she complained about me and oldest dd being in the garden wearing bikinis ( not even teeny bikinis ) as she has a husband and a teenage son and they might see us. I tried hard to make sure if I was out there sunbathing I was away from her garden and moved the kids pool so it would be harder for them to be seen from their fence. ( - the only way they can see in to our garden is when on trampoline, their raised patio or looking out of upstairs window)

This morning I was cleaning kitchen in my pjs (vest and shorts so not revealing) dd was stood by open patio doors chatting to me in shorts and a crop top she sleeps in. Next thing mrs next door is banging on my front door telling me I'm continuing to disrespect her and her family by the provocative way we dress! If we continue to flaunt ourselves she will be complaining to my husband!

I wasn't quite sure what to say - I suggested she maybe wanted to refrain from looking into my house over her fence if we were upsetting her.

She is totally unhinged!

Agree with PPs. She’s mental and either being totally paranoid or her DH and DS must be perverts. Might be worth keeping a note of her bizarre behaviour incase it escalates but hopefully she’ll get bored and find something/someone else to object to if you ignore her.

ReggieKray There is a farm cat that I frequently find under my bed if I leave the back door open 😂 She’s quite sweet though, I’m half tempted to try to adopt her.

Dance naked under the full moon

Ridiculous. It's a good job they don't live next door to me as I tend to potter around in my pants, although I do try to remember to slant the blinds

I really don't understand why you are humouring them or changing your behaviour? You know perfectly well you are not being unreasonable.

Just carry on as you are op and on no account let her bully you or your dds!

Involve authorities if you need to

What did she say when you said that she should stop looking OP?

YADNBU! Like PPs I would start keeping a record of any encounters just in case. You know you aren't doing anything wrong. Carry on

I think it's time you got your dh to practice tantra and yoni massage on a Sunday morning.

Cheeky cow she is! LOL, she is obviously jealous.

I just used to throw a tennis ball at my husband's head when he ogled the slim, fit younger woman who used to live next door!

To be fair, she was hot...

Ignore the silly moo.

I'd be tempted to go round and use your best sympathetic head tilt, say you are so sorry her husband and son are struggling but perhaps she could get some support with their behaviour eg www.lucyfaithfull.org.uk/stop-it-now-helpline-campaign.htm

This is absolutely about them not you.

We have lived her for 7 years always had nice neighbours then this lot moved in!

Oh wow, sorry op, am having a major anxiety episode and this post has properly made me laugh. Thank you so much for posting!

You are definitely not being unreasonable, and I should think your dh will be howling at the thought.

I agree with the posters saying next time you should tell her to concern herself with the perverts she lives with rather than worrying about what you are wearing

How on earth have they coped this summer, have they totally avoided all parks, pools, beaches etc? Madness. Yep as others have said, log every interaction and if she carries on report her for harassment.

And yeah, it's not YOUR fault (or your daughter's) if her husband is looking at you! It's HIM she should be having a go at!

They sing religious songs together in the garden....? Tell us more about this!

Ramp up your bikini wearing - it’s the only way! And if your husband is complained to, he can smirk and say he requested that.

Buy DH a mankini & a mini trampoline

If my DP was home I would have shouted him to come to the door, someone wants you to keep me in check. Think he would have doubled over in laughter at the idea of being able to control me.

But I do worry about her husband and son, especially the son if he is being raised with the idea that he isn't in control of his actions around women if they show skin (shorts and vest top so what arms and legs???). Will he think that means it's okay to perve, attack and everything in between?

I'm interested in what she wears and what her DH & DS wear. Try to catch them without a tshirt or in shorts and go and complain! haha

I would tell her that if she continues to 'perve' on your family in your own garden that you will complain to her husband and the local constabulary.

Bloody ridiculous.

Tell her to get lost

What did she say when you said that she should stop looking OP?

She said it was hard to not look as we were flaunting ourselves- at that point I used dd favourite phrase "whatever" and shut the door in her face. If my 6 year old hadn't been stood there it would have been "oh do fuck off" but he is the child that would go to school and retell the story with a few embellishments.

Bonkers. Of course you can wear what you like in your own home.
How weird and unsettling to have new neighbours acting like this. I feel for you OP.

Oh no she's trying to make you decent so you can join their happy clappy group! Engage emergency procedures and continue as you want in your own bloody home!
I'd suggest a tin foil hat next time she knock on your door

What does your neighbour wear?