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(D)H ate all the cake!

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TwittleBee · 20/08/2018 08:02

So fuming atm, there was a lovely chocolate cake on the side from when my grandparents came over (only 1 slice had been eaten, by my nan). I said to him last night that he could have a bit after dinner if he wanted. This morning I go to grab some to take as a snack for work (we are tight on money this month so all I've got is a peanut butter sandwich otherwise) and find he's eaten the whole thing! He ate a load last night and this morning apparently.

AIBU to be fuming with him? I told him I'm upset and he said he doesn't see the problem.

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Gardai · 20/08/2018 09:53

He needs to apologise to you OP and man up.
It’s not about the cake per se. It’s about the selfishness and lack of self control that is the issue.

SlothMama · 20/08/2018 10:00

What a pig, he's an adult he should be able to control himself enough to not inhale an entire cake.

kaitlinktm · 20/08/2018 10:05

I said I would choose us having extra veg in our dinner than me having snacks for work whislt we are tight on cash!

So you are doing without snacks for work so that both of you can have extra veg - and he shows his appreciation of your sacrifice by scarfing down a whole chocolate cake and leaving you none.

It might be "only" cake, but it shows a selfish side to his character.

TheMaddHugger · 20/08/2018 10:08

Taser his balls. I don't trifle with Cake.

ineedaholidaynow · 20/08/2018 10:11

I am amazed someone could eat a whole cake by themselves in less that 24 hours. That's grim before you even start looking at DH's behaviour to OP

HotSauceCommittee · 20/08/2018 10:18

He sounds like a real catch. If you like selfish, unapologetic pigs Hmm

TheMarrowOfTime · 20/08/2018 10:19

He was doing you a favour?! I'd be fantasising about the favours I could do him in return if it were me!

50andgoingstrong · 20/08/2018 10:32

I would be making plans to take the absolute piss out of him relentlessly from now on. Never allow this to be forgotten!

Tell all family and friends he scarfed a whole cake and left you with none. Mention it at all birthday parties from now. Get friends and family to join in. 'Quick, the cake monsters coming, hide the cake!!"

Get the kids to join in too....

Never let him live it down and protect all cake in a tin with a combination padlock from now on.....

ItWentInMyEye · 20/08/2018 10:48

@Nousernameforme I made a delicious icing last week that was butter cream mixed with a (slightly cooled) melted bar of chocolate. It was still soft underneath but 'cracked' when set and sliced

Ellie56 · 20/08/2018 11:04

I hope he gets fat.

BasicUsername · 20/08/2018 11:59

OP, you said that you have only a peanut butter sandwich for lunch, and no snacks so that you can afford veg for with your evening meals. Please tell me that he has just as restricted rations for his lunch?

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TwittleBee · 20/08/2018 13:00

BasicUsername I did try to suggest he is rationed to but he argued he has a manual job so still requires 2 packets of crisps, 3 x fruit and 1/2 a packet of bisuits a day. Tbf he does now cycle to work to save on fuel.

50andgoingstrong I'm certainly gonna mention it to my Nan in front of DH so he can feel bad that I never got a slice

kaitlinktm I agree with you totally. He is selfish with food. But I do have to remind myself he does extras all the time so we can do stuff as a family (tight atm as I lost my job for couple weeks)

sandgrown is frustrating that scenario. One hand it is your OH's issue that he doesn't like anything else and is unfair to not leave bacon for the rest but also it isn't fair for him to not have a filling and enjoyable breakfast if everyone does like the pastries (I have similar issue with my step mum and never quite know how to handle it so I just have extra of everything)

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BasicUsername · 20/08/2018 13:26

That makes it even worse tbh. He still keeps his snacks like crisps and biscuits, but takes all of the lovely cake that your nan made too. That is really, really selfish.

I know that you have said that he is great in other ways, but the fact that he would leave you to eat basic rations, whilst he keeps all of his food, sounds really mean.

Why can't you both have one packet of crisps with lunch, maybe two pieces of fruit for him and one for you (given that he does manual work) and a couple of biscuits each.

I know it's not the point really, but I think it says a lot about a person that they could watch their partner have so little, when they have so much.

kaitlinktm · 20/08/2018 13:33

Grin MagHugger
I don't trifle with Cake

I agree with Basic - he should at least have fewer snacks and let you have something. But to have no reduction in his treat food and then to selfishly consume the one thing you could have had ... how can he think that's OK? Presumably you didn't lose your job on purpose - these things happen. If he lost his job, would he limit his rations do you think? Be honest - would he? (I don't think it would enter his head).

SweetLathyrus · 20/08/2018 14:36

In our house the last piece of cake is always at risk of going to waste because the three of us are too polite to take it - ditto the last banana, or a single serving from a packet of posh crips. (Although, teenaged DS can be a locust if he doesn't notice it's something we all eat).

OP, YANBU to be fuming, as PPs have said, who eats a whole cake between evening meal and breakfast?

mywheatbagismybff · 20/08/2018 15:04

Well isn't he a gem. Eats all the cake, doesn't apologise, gives no shits that you're eating peanut butter sandwiches while he's eating biscuits and crisps, never makes dinner and has a sly dig at your weight. I'd tell him to go fuck himself and eat all his fucking biscuits.

BasicUsername · 20/08/2018 15:06

"I'd tell him to go fuck himself and eat all his fucking biscuits."

Yes! Eat all of his fucking biscuits!

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TwittleBee · 20/08/2018 15:47

Ooo yes You know what I actually might. Well not actually eat them but take them to work with me! Keep them in my drawer and eat at my leisure haha

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50andgoingstrong · 20/08/2018 16:15

Do it. See how he likes it!

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 20/08/2018 16:33

Yeah. Eat all his biscuits and the send him a picture of biscuit each time you eat one.

That'll teach him.

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TwittleBee · 20/08/2018 17:27

Okay so got home from work and he has cooked one of my fav meals and has done all the chores. Feel like he is saying sorry without saying sorry!

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KurriKurri · 20/08/2018 17:58

Sorry would be buying you a replacement cake - I'd direct him to the nearest cake shop.

Missingstreetlife · 20/08/2018 18:03

He should still say sorry. I bet your nan will be mad

BertrandRussell · 20/08/2018 18:04

"Feel like he is saying sorry without saying sorry!"

Grown ups say sorry.

RoseWhiteTips · 20/08/2018 18:08

He must be fat.