(D)H ate all the cake!

[TwittleBee]

So fuming atm, there was a lovely chocolate cake on the side from when my grandparents came over (only 1 slice had been eaten, by my nan). I said to him last night that he could have a bit after dinner if he wanted. This morning I go to grab some to take as a snack for work (we are tight on money this month so all I've got is a peanut butter sandwich otherwise) and find he's eaten the whole thing! He ate a load last night and this morning apparently.

AIBU to be fuming with him? I told him I'm upset and he said he doesn't see the problem.

He was rude and selfish. As an adult I won't look too kindly on being given permission to eat cake by my spouse, though.

Yeah I think the context of the saying he can have a bit if cake is being way taken out of context 🤣 he was sais he was hungry after dinner (which he never cooks btw) so I said he could have a bit of cake to him casually as a suggestion (knowing he isn't the sort to actually cook up anything healthier to eat)

That’s incredibly selfish.

My ex used to do shit like this. I ended up hiding anything nice.

I must be odd, because I don’t find that kind of greedy, selfish behaviour funny. It just shows that he feels his wants/needs are more important than yours. You’re short of money, but he decides that he can eat all of the cake and you can go without, then treats it as no big deal.

On the plus side, too much chocolate works as a laxative, so hopefully he’ll get the shits. 😁

My dp does shit like this. Once my friend bought me a fancy box of chocolates. I went out to do errands in town, came home and he'd eaten the fucking lot. Well no, that's a lie, he ate all but the last one... then he bit the last one in half! That's a he left me, half a chewed up chocolate. I was so astonished and angry at the sheer greed and selfishness that I almost cried. He hasn't done anything quite that bad since, but ANY sweet stuff in the house it's a case of eat what you want now because it'll be gone by the morning. I find it repulsive personally, it's the no.1 thing that annoys me about him (that and his ability to suddenly "put his back out" whenever anything needs doing .

Assuming a normal sized cake YANBU.

my teenage dc is unpredictable like that sometimes. oops its all gone. i think they cant stop themselves, its yummy. tell him you were very disappointed when you couldnt find any for yourself. and you may do the same sometime?

Positively Nobody else thinks it's funny either

My 9 year old is an only child and he would check whether anyone else wanted some before finishing anything.

You don't eat cake because you're hungry do you?

Okay in an added layer he's now saying he ate it all to do me a favour... fyi I'm not fat, I'm a size 6/8

Why do women put up with this sort of crap?

It’s almost as if they think men as a sex aren’t capable of normal decent civilized behaviour and it’s somehow a bonus if one of them shows it!

Sorry to hear money is tight this week OP. He was greedy and selfish and he probably knows it really. If he apologised you'd probably feel better but he's decided to be a child. When money comes in again make yourself a lovely chocolate cake, and tell him that this one is just for you. Make sure you eat every slice in front of him.

If you're going to have the poem, you must have him performing it!
<a class="break-all" href="https://www.google.co.uk/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&url=m.youtube.com/watch%3Fv%3DuPoskC8t94I&ved=2ahUKEwiWtsHLlPvcAhWDF8AKHYRpD64QwqsBMAF6BAgJEAU&usg=AOvVaw2OMSOcyctuwUuFLEBXNqsu" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.google.co.uk/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&url=m.youtube.com/watch%3Fv%3DuPoskC8t94I&ved=2ahUKEwiWtsHLlPvcAhWDF8AKHYRpD64QwqsBMAF6BAgJEAU&usg=AOvVaw2OMSOcyctuwUuFLEBXNqsu

Does he do this sort of shit often? I'm all for sharing but if my DH ate ALL the cake and then had the nerve to tell me he was doing me a favour I would leave him. Theres lots of assholes out there in the world, no point living with one.
Sorry he ate your cake OP, I'd get revenge and cook a dinner just for me, but I'm passive aggressive

... and your DH is a twat. "Favour"?!!

Why oh why, do women accept this lack of respect in their relationships?Before anyone trots out the ‘its a man thing’. No it’s not, it’s a selfish Tucker that sees his wife/partner as ‘less’ than them and is often a tiny part of everyday selfish behaviour.

Why does he never cook?
What’s his favourite meal you make? Cook a portion tonight; waft the smell around; sit down and eat it all When he’s outraged, ask him why you are expected to make sure he has fair shares but it doesn’t work the other way round. Point out you at lesast made the lasagna/ curry/ stroganoff you ate, the cake he polished off was made by your nan for both of you. Tell him he can start to cook more.
Everything doesn’t have to be 50/50, but even if you like cooking, I can’t believe you like it everyday, when you are knackered, headachey or for the 8th day on the trot.
He knows that was greedy and selfish, sounds like he assumed the negative consequences would be minimal so time for you to be less of a pushover.
I can’t believe he didn’t even leave a slice! That’s a twat’s trick.

How the hell would anybody think that being offered a slice of cake meant "the whole fucking thing" hes obviously a glutton.

I once ate the last slice of a cake without clearing it with my now DW and it caused a major rupture in our relationship at the time. I've never made that mistake again!

Missed the “doing you a favour” update. Ah well! I hadn’t thought about that angle. I suppose running around after him like his mum, is actually helping you keep your figure, without which of course, you are nothing.
As you were.

@iwantacampervan

I have just wasted 2 mins of my life reading that bloody awful poem about chocolate cake. 😩

What a piglet ! A whole cake? Either Miss Trunchbull has been round or he was vair, vair drunk?

The doing you a favour thing? Is he joking? If not, seriously .

He's now saying I'm blowing it all out of the water as it's only a cake and that I said I didn't want snacks for work (I said that because I said I would choose us having extra veg in our dinner than me having snacks for work whislt we are tight on cash!).

Like I get so upset when he does stuff like this. He can be so selfish with food. Idk I wouldn't say he's a bastard or that he sees me as just there to serve him as we do actually have a nice relationship where he supports me in lots of other ways. But times like this I feel like his mum and he is a greedy teen.

What Bertrand and PERF said. Fuck that shit. I'd never cook for his greedy arse again. You need to loose your shit with selfish twats like this.