ExH and weed, conspiracy theory shit...

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Donning my hard hat for this one.

ExH and I split 7 years ago. We’ve always coparented well, he pays child support and extras, sees them regularly, takes them on holidays, and helped out last year with after school care when I attended college. We have a DD10 and a DD7.

However. In the last 18 months it’s all got a bit bizarre, and things weren’t quite adding up, but only in the last week have things been revealed that make it all slot into place.

It started off with Flat Earth. Then Anti Vaxx. Then lizard people and the Illuminati, big pharma shills, how I don’t need my medication (Major Depressive, CPTSD, clinically anxiety - I really fucking do need it) That Autism etc don’t exist (me and our second DD going through diagnosis at the moment; suspected Aspergers) Dont trust Doctors, only eat raw vegan food as that fixes everything. Turns off my Google Home when he’s here because they’re listening. There’s no space, we live under a dome. There’s more but this is just a brief idea.

At first I just laughed it off, but he’s started getting our DC to watch these videos on YouTube and is going on and on and on. At present the DC are rolling their eyes (I’m a Biology student so they just think Daddy is a bit thick and doesn’t understand basic Science) but obviously I’m seriously concerned about this now.

It’s also been revealed that he is smoking a lot of weed. Hes single, worked for the same company (and been promoted many times) for 20 years, stable income, stable life, so I’m baffled by this bizarre behaviour.

I’m not entirely sure what to do. My gut tells me that I have to stop contact due to his drug use and the fact that it’s damaging his mental health. We’ve never been to court as we’ve never needed to but I’m not sure how else to protect DC from this, or where I’d stand legally on it.

AIBU?!

Is he using drugs around the children? If not then what are you protecting them from in respect of the drugs?

I can’t say for certain that he isn’t. He says not on his weekends with them, but addicts lie. And even if he’s not, and is smoking it during the week, surely that’s going to have an effect on him? Withdrawal if nothing else I’d imagine. DC have said he naps a lot

I’m stopping contact - that’s how I’m protecting them. I only found out a week ago and I’m struggling to process it and what it means for DC going forward, where I stand legally on refusing contact due to this.

I can’t afford a solicitor, he would likely have a very good one as he’s relatively wealthy, whereas I’m a student and work PT. I’m more than capable of self representation though.

I grew up with an addict parent - I found their drugs numerous times, their behaviour was erratic, disturbing and upsetting, and I practically raised my younger siblings. So I don’t know if I’m over or under reacting. Weed is illegal and causes serious mental health issues - one of my siblings was an addict for over a decade. Hence me wanting to stop contact.

You really should take professional advice before doing anything so drastic as cutting off contact. As you admit yourself, your views are coloured by your experiences and you could be setting the children up for a lot of disruption that is subsequently undone by a court.

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This is why you need professional advice. Not random nonsense from the online tinfoil hat brigade.

@growup1 Weed might be legal for medical use in a few years or so but not for recreational use

As for the anti vaxx bollocks, I won’t even bother explaining why you’re wrong,

Whilst the viewing of the YouTube videos can be seen as somewhat indoctrinating, I think your reaction to cut off all contact is extreme and also if it does go to court and he has hot shot lawyers and you, representing yourself when you don’t even study law anyway, could massively backfire on you.

Weed or alcohol I would be concerned that this is snowballing.
Any prior MH issues?

@LostInShoebiz I was waiting for the tin foils to show up.

I’ll start looking for solicitors this evening.

@growup1 No, it isn’t, and no, it won’t.

No prior MH issues. He admitted the weed use to me last week, and told me I was over reacting when I said I didn’t want him driving the DC around any more.

I’d be more than happy to take them out with him, or for him to see them here, but I seriously doubt he would agree to that. I just don’t feel that they are safe with him. I don’t know the extent of his use.

He absolutely shouldn't be drug driving.
It's as bad driving stoned as it is drunk.
Plus they have roadside swabs now.

Have a read of the Frank site.

@growup1 actually I’ve been tee total for years due to my medication so It’s not even remotely the same thing. All addicts think they can parent well, I think you’ll find SS disagree with that.

www.m.talktofrank.com

@growup1 headdesk Wine isn’t illegal. Weed is. They’re not the same thing. It stays in your system for weeks, it fucks the biochemistry of the brain. Go crack a GCSE text book ffs.

@growup1 My medications are legal, and prescribed by a Consultant Psychiatrist with the consideration that I look after children taken into account.

You really are dumb if you think you can compare that to an illegal substance, I’m not at all high after I take my meds

Sorry growup1 can you explain why the government give kids autism and how? I disagree wholeheartedly but I’d like to hear others opinions, not coming from a place of hate or being sarcy, just genuinely interested!

Another thinly disguised weedbashing thread