To be so irritated over a once a year party

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We have a normal house, but a few doors along is a HUGE house with a small field out back. Basically half a block of houses could fit in their bit of land in comparison to surrounding houses. Every August they get a marquee about the size of my house, have outdoor DJ and decks and basically have a small outdoor festival. It’s equivalent almost to the local council summer music event in the park, full sound system and some years a stage. Significant numbers trailing up the road, LOUD. They seem to get away with it, I bet someone with a smaller house wouldn’t!
Every year I feel a bit more irritated by the sheer scale of it, other neighbours have pretty normal houses, young kids etc. It’s very much a well populated residential area.
Would you be thinking ‘hey, it’s once a year’ and roll your eyes or just be really pissed off they thought it was normal? Until about 2/3 it’ll be a sound level with windows closed to me having the radio on at a loudish volume next to the bed, every word and not just the beat crystal clear.

If you were invited would you be so mad??!

I’d try and get an invite it sounds great

Once a year! YABU.

I can’t believe they haven’t invited you! I’d go round with a bottle and a winning smile 😊

It’s one out of 365 days of the year. If it bothers you that much go away when you know it’ll be happening.

Wouldn’t bother me in the slightest. It’s once a year. They should invite the neighbours though - that’s the only thing that would piss me off.

It's just one night a year! Sounds a bit like jealousy talking.

They funnily enough no don’t invite, or speak l, to their poorer neighbours.

I guess in my twenties, jealously... now I just past midnight would like to sleep and not still be up with three kids waiting until the 2 or 3am shutdown.

YABU if they are great neighbours 364 days a year then suck it up!

Once a year? If it bothered me so much I'd have made arrangements to be away.

It is inconsiderate to have music that loud until that late. I would be annoyed. Do you know when the party will be? I would aim to be away that weekend!

I imagine doing this sort of thing if I won the lotto for a group of friends every year. It’d be fantastic, mini festival, glamping, food trucks or outside caterers. I’ll make sure it’s more isolated from neighbours though, so as not to piss them off, or invite them along too

I am surprised they don’t invite their neighbours to such a big event.
Once a year though, wouldn’t bother me particularly.

For once a year YABU, sorry. I appreciate how annoying it is for you but it’s one day of them getting full enjoyment and use of their property.

Once a year? Yes get over it.

We don’t know the date, or I might be elsewhere (though not being free to do so I’m guessing I’m not in the wealth bracket of many responding). At 8:45 there is already screaming over and over to the music, the noise will crank up and up and people will spill onto the road, around 100-200 passing id say in total yelling and running around. I presume young adult children it’s for, it’s a young crowd in the main.

I’m surprised most people wouldn’t mind a full next to them until the early hours tbh, I’m very chilled about house parties- last night next door had the usual 20 odd people and a house stereo out but they wound it down around 11-12 and mainly went indoors as is the norm. I could hear, but not actually confuse it with the sound of a stereo on high next to the bed volume wise

• full festival*

I lived here 8 yrs and I wouldn’t recognise them in the street tbh, big gates, tinted window cars and not seen them every walk out. So not wow neighbours, aside from this though and a few wall cracks from when they sunk a pool and built a basement no bother

Well, I'll go against the grain here and say I'd be very cross if this was going on beyond, say, 1am, particularly with young children in the house. I can't stand noise when I'm trying to get to sleep mind. Aren't there laws against noise that late?

You don’t sound very chilled about house parties. Why are you ok about one neighbours house party, but exceptionally unchilled about anothers?

Our next door neighbours who are attached to us (semi) do this - twice a year. Absolute arseholes.

They get away with it precisely because it is deemed to be 'one off'

But when it's a full sound system to rival any nightclub in Ibiza and it's banging away til 5am, frankly it's a joke.

They did invite us. We have two little ones. It doesn't start til 10pm.

I just wish they'd give us plenty of notice so that we can be away.

All these people saying get over it - how's about people actually booking a VENUE and making this racket somewhere else? So bloody selfish to do it just because you can. Very disrespectful to all the neighbours even if it is infrequent.

They're due one any time soon. This year I'm going to ring the police and say there is drug taking going on - that way, they might actually make an appearance at 3am and cut the party short.

For once a year, YABU. Just ask if they can tell you when It will be in future so you can make arrangements to stay with friends.

Modern times Gatsby?

It would still piss me off. Up to c11pm I'd swear & rant but know that they were entitled to. But after that it's just anti-social.

That’s an odd question thick..

One neighbour has 20-30 people, uses a domestic stereo and goes inside about 11-12pm

The other has a crowd of I’d guess 200, full festival style outdoor music equipment, screaming crowds, finishes at 2-3am and designs the whole thing to be outdoors with massive tents.

One I’d describe as a house party, one I’d describe as a private music festival.

I’d consider it a clear difference