To be so irritated over a once a year party

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We have a normal house, but a few doors along is a HUGE house with a small field out back. Basically half a block of houses could fit in their bit of land in comparison to surrounding houses. Every August they get a marquee about the size of my house, have outdoor DJ and decks and basically have a small outdoor festival. It’s equivalent almost to the local council summer music event in the park, full sound system and some years a stage. Significant numbers trailing up the road, LOUD. They seem to get away with it, I bet someone with a smaller house wouldn’t!
Every year I feel a bit more irritated by the sheer scale of it, other neighbours have pretty normal houses, young kids etc. It’s very much a well populated residential area.
Would you be thinking ‘hey, it’s once a year’ and roll your eyes or just be really pissed off they thought it was normal? Until about 2/3 it’ll be a sound level with windows closed to me having the radio on at a loudish volume next to the bed, every word and not just the beat crystal clear.

The only thing I can suggest is wax earplugs or to find out when the next one is and go away. You shouldn't have to but that's what I would do.

Airbnb have heard of big houses being used as festivals with entry fee etc

There is I believe a law that says about 11pm and noise there after so I’d have thought a compliant to the police would have to be answered after that time.
And if course you could always suggest lots if drink and people driving away or even worse.

If you’re going to have a party that loud and big you at least inform the neighbours

Our neighbours have s big “do” every year and it’s a pain in the arse as it goes on until 4am at least, but they at least let everyone know. And this year have paid for the elderly couple in the street (only 8 houses) to stay in a hotel locally as the lady mentioned going away to avoid the noise.

It's once a year, it's a Saturday. I get that noise pollution is annoying but it's an occasional part of having neighbours. You have made quite a few digs about them having the big house, you being the poorer neighbour and how you can't afford to get away to avoid it. It's possible you're not aware of it but it does sound like your perception of their wealth in relation to yours is adding to your annoyance

Until 11 I’d suck it up, maybe even sit in the garden and enjoy, but after that I’d be calling the council.

Politely ask them to inform you of the date next time so you can stay elsewhere as your family finds it hard to sleep.

Then let them get on with it, gotta let people live their life in their own home to a certain extent, once a year is fine.

Yanbu op. I hate inconsiderate fuckers who do this shit to their neighbours. Regardless of whether it's "only once a year" it's still really antisocial. Anything that goes on past 11pm in terms of noise nuisance should be a criminal offence.

Basin - because people shouldn’t have to ship out if they don’t want to. Some people don’t have places they can go and stay. They may have family/friends they can visit for a day, but they aren’t able to stay over. The alternative then is having to pay to sleep in a hotel or similar and I know that I couldn’t afford to do that. Even if people knew the date in advance and ‘saved up’ they shouldn’t have to use the money to go do that if they don’t want to. People should be more considerate.

Where we used to live our neighbours used to do a party twice a year until 3/4am, never on the same dates. Very annoying but kind of bearable. Over the past 3 years they’ve taken to doing it almost every month - music banging until 3am, talking/shouting loudly. Since May they’ve been out most nights until well gone midnight drinking and talking extremely loudly. Their garden backed on to ours. We never said anything to them about it but I’m really glad to be moved from there. We didn’t have family locally to just rock up and spend the night. We couldn’t just pack the kids up and travel when they were having a big party and definitely couldn’t afford to have to stay out at hotels.

Glad it seems to have not been a particularly noisy one OP.

Collaborate do you really imagine that all the people suggesting that once a year is not excessive live in that mythical Mumsnet enclave where no one ever does anything that might conceivably disturb the neighbours ever? No, none of us lives on Mars either. Living near other people means sometimes we have to suck up other people's less than perfect behaviour and loud parties are a fact of life, if it's just once a year, meh, I'll take it.

This summer alone we've had a wedding with 200 guests and a very loud DJ'd sound deck; a quinceanera with 100 guests and full Mariachi band (have had Cielito Lindo as an Earworm ever since)though to be fair, we were at that party; and a graduation pool party for 80 over-exuberant 18 year olds with who knows what playing on a very loud sound system - all on neighboring properties. Properties are acres apart but noise really carries out here at night. We shrug, let others enjoy themselves, sleep in a little the next day and life goes on.

But, if you still think I am oblivious or unaffected by nighttime disturbances, do by all means come by in the early hours and make a racket outside my house. I'll ask the coyote packs who regularly wake me (and every hysterical farm dog withinin a five mile radius) with their yipping, snarling and howling to take that night off. Try not to get eaten by the mountain lions though, they sometimes come down out of the hills into neighborhoods looking for water at this time of year.

So just because you’re ok with it that means everyone else should be as well?

It's really selfish. If every one did something like this once a year you would end up with massive noise every weekend. So the people saying just once a year

Call the environmental health team at the council.

Also as a few others have said I do think it is entitled as they're in a big house. If it was in a small house it would be chavvy.

Agree with BarbaraHepworth ; whenever we've had a loud party going on late in to the night (very rarely, maybe once every two or three years) we send a letter around to all our neighbours, explaining when it will be, the duration of the party, apologising for the noise in advance and any inconvenience caused. (It's always on a Friday or Sat night during the summer when family are visiting and when quite a few neighbours are away.) We also include our phone number in case they have any complaints on the night and we've never had one. I think it's because we are careful to end it exactly at the stated time so people know what to expect. We can't invite all the neighbours sadly as there are blocks of flats on one side so too many all at once!

Where did I say I was ok with it. I said 'life goes on' because fuming and getting all bent out of shape about a once year event is a pointless waste of energy. Sure, go ahead, call the cops, check the local licensing authority if you think they're doing something illegal but in the absence of any evidence to the contrary the OP clearly isn't arsed enough about it to have done either given that it's been going on for years.

If my neighbors who had the wedding were to become a dedicated wedding venue with similar every weekend or the Mariachi band became a permanent fixture I'd be straight on the phone to local authorities to try and stop it but they're not.

As for the proliferation of said annual event to every week copied by everyone in the neighborhood, Ncobvs well that demonstrably isn't happening is it? Otherwise the OP would have said so.

Don't move to Spain. Huge disco event there started 11.30pm finished 8.30am! "When do they ever sleep mummy?". Five nights in a row!

YANBU. It's all very well saying it's once a year, but if we all had a really loud noisy all night party once a year without bothering to inform or invite the neighbours that would be a lot of one off parties.

They should inform the neighbours, and make sure the music is turned down and taken indoors at an agreed time.

Just go along!! Why the fuck not

We had something similar last night
We live in a big semi. We have 2 young girls
Our neighbours are about our age (30s) but don't have kids
Last night loads of people started arriving at their house. About 6pm. BBQ loud music etc. Ok it was early
By 8pm I got dd2 into bed it didn't seem to bother her so that's good. By 9pm the music and general noise cranked right up. A knock at our door. A man I've never met said hi I'm so so's dad sorry but I've just found out they didn't inform you about the party which they should have if it get too much let us know and we can turn it down
I said it was ok thanked him
By midnight it was full on drunk people in their garden and all of them singing to Whitney bloody Houston.
My partner went round and they said they'd turn it down which they did...for all of 10 mins
This went on until 4am!
I'm shattered!
Then today they've apologised said its only once or twice a year and they were that drunk they couldn't remember by partner coming round
I think it was really inconsiderate that they didn't forewarn us even if it is just once or twice a year!

It honestly sounds like you are more pissed off at their wealth than anything else.

I'd be pissed off.