To be so irritated over a once a year party

[oppossum]

We have a normal house, but a few doors along is a HUGE house with a small field out back. Basically half a block of houses could fit in their bit of land in comparison to surrounding houses. Every August they get a marquee about the size of my house, have outdoor DJ and decks and basically have a small outdoor festival. It’s equivalent almost to the local council summer music event in the park, full sound system and some years a stage. Significant numbers trailing up the road, LOUD. They seem to get away with it, I bet someone with a smaller house wouldn’t!
Every year I feel a bit more irritated by the sheer scale of it, other neighbours have pretty normal houses, young kids etc. It’s very much a well populated residential area.
Would you be thinking ‘hey, it’s once a year’ and roll your eyes or just be really pissed off they thought it was normal? Until about 2/3 it’ll be a sound level with windows closed to me having the radio on at a loudish volume next to the bed, every word and not just the beat crystal clear.

I’d ask when it was going to be and arrange to be somewhere else.

If this is the only thing that bothers you about them all year I’d say they are good neighbours and I’d suck it up.

My neighbours’ young adult children are fucking loud in the early hours several times a week getting out of cabs laughing and shouting, parking cars with music blaring etc, but no worse than I imagine I was at their age so we say nothing unless they really take the piss.

Basin- our neighbours are young, maybe students, and do the whole drunken returns or odd garden stupidity when it’s warm a bit late. Kinda normal and ignorable

After midnight I’d definitely be pissed off if I could still hear it. I don’t know how people manage to be so relaxed about the idea of being kept awake til 3am? I like an early night, so even if it’s only once a year, it would still feel like a night of torture.
Up until 11pm/12am ish though I wouldn’t mind if it’s once a year. Until 3am is totally unacceptable.

You sound rather jealous of their wealth tbh

Duck- you sound hard of comprehension? Give me the wealth and I’d give a damn good venue, not rows of backgarden fencing as a backdrop.

It’s the volume and time that’s annoying if you didn’t get it...

It's pretty rude not to even let you know what night it's on. Nothing wrong in having a great, once a year, party when you have the space. But common courtesy involves telling your neighbours and inviting them, even if it's just for a quick drink.

Just ask them to put a note through your door every year with plenty of notice to let you have the date so you can make other arrangements? It would annoy me too but I would go round and politely make conversation about it "oh you know you parties you have every year, I don't mind you having them but would you mind giving me some notice so I can make other arrangements so my children don't get waken up" They might even finish the music earlier, they might not even notice how it affects other neighbours? Don't be rude about it otherwise they might not bother or might turn up the volume deliberately to annoy you.

Wouldn’t bother me, but I would want an invite!

For a guide, I’m at the front of the house and it’s out the back 4 doors down. If I put a glass on the wooden table it sort of buzzes and vibrates on the surface to the bass. I’ve had to separate hard objects from touching or they vibrate together. The lyrics are the same volume as someone speaking in a clear voice next to me. It’s not background noise or that muffle and voices through the wall that is house party noise. The screaming is a crowd in unison, not a few people.

Sounds like your more peed off because the have a big garden and don’t invite you

To put into perspective, nearly every night our neighbours who live behind us sit outside, smoke, drink and speak loudly. If it's not them, it's the other Neighbours who do exactly the same but with loud music added in. I would say around 4 nights a week every week, and always till gone 2am.

I don't think you're unreasonable, but you're very lucky it's only once a year, particularly with the weather we had this summer.

Other neighbours in the row do chat and smoke outside and play the radio out there etc, up to around midnight a few times a week. City living norms

Other neighbours don’t actually have a DJ announcing songs and a live act either to the best of my knowledge

Why the heck are you annoyed by a 'once a YEAR' party?

YABU obvs!

If it only happens once a year why can't you put up with it? Alternatively you could go out/away for the duration.

What I don't understand is why you aren't invited. You might feel differently if you were.

Agree with duck. You sound jealous, and pissed off that you are not invited.

And no I don't have 'comprehension issues...' It's pretty obvious you're jealous.

I know every other person, but I don’t think any of us have spoken to these particular neighbours. They drive it seems, are rarely seen. I’d hazard a guess it’s not a main residence, but that’s a pure guess. No one is invited form surrounding roads, I know because people mention it the morning after every year. No one knows them to look at

I can see why it would be annoying, but I think if it’s once a year and if you don’t have work in the morning it’s best just to put up with it.

Ok Katie, for pure randomness I’ll put in:
I think you are projecting your own situation and feelings onto me.
I can’t relate to your summary, and I’m basing my assumption in as many facts as yours. Maybe if you assess your own feelings of inadequacy or jealously you’ll be able to step back and understand this is just as simple as thinking it’s a bit of a piss take

There's a massive difference between neighbours having a party & a full on festival with DJs & an outdoor stage and stuff.
Do they not need a licence for an outdoor event?

Oh God, can I swap you for our sweet little 94 year old next door neighbour?

She is lovely but very deaf and very forgetful.

She leaves the radio blasting away all the time, all night!, in an upstairs room, with the window open. So much so that the people from several houses down came to our house to complain!! They just assumed it was us as we have teenagers.

One night a year would be bliss by comparison.

I’m going to go against the grain here and say YANBU.

Those saying ‘plan to be somewhere else’ - even if advance warning was given why should people have to stay out of their homes, possibly spending money they may not have, because other people are selfish? Who cares if it’s only once a year...loud music past a certain time is annoying. Don’t know what to suggest OP but feel for you.

My parents house backed onto a field that was about 10 acres which their NDN owned. They would have big parties with marquee etc a few times a year and smaller ones throughout the yr. They’d invite my mum and dad, who were in their 80’s and would decline the invite. The lady of the house would always take my mum and dad cakes and other treats, so they were very cool with it.

The last time I was visiting they had a big do and found myself singing along in my bed when they had their end-of-the night- singalong. 'What a happy bunch of people' I thought.

I don't think that it's 'pretty obvious you're jealous' oppossum.

I’d be furious. Nothing to do with jealousy. You’re entitled to peace in a residential road. Can’t you phone the environmental health out of hours telephone number?