To be so irritated over a once a year party

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We have a normal house, but a few doors along is a HUGE house with a small field out back. Basically half a block of houses could fit in their bit of land in comparison to surrounding houses. Every August they get a marquee about the size of my house, have outdoor DJ and decks and basically have a small outdoor festival. It’s equivalent almost to the local council summer music event in the park, full sound system and some years a stage. Significant numbers trailing up the road, LOUD. They seem to get away with it, I bet someone with a smaller house wouldn’t!
Every year I feel a bit more irritated by the sheer scale of it, other neighbours have pretty normal houses, young kids etc. It’s very much a well populated residential area.
Would you be thinking ‘hey, it’s once a year’ and roll your eyes or just be really pissed off they thought it was normal? Until about 2/3 it’ll be a sound level with windows closed to me having the radio on at a loudish volume next to the bed, every word and not just the beat crystal clear.

Serin- sounds like my grandad and the TV I hate to say!

Sentry- thanks, I’m genuinely not. Its not my music, my age or my type of fun. Even when young Id I have preferred a summer rock festival to mums garden and Craig David even if it was big...

It would piss me off immensely, especially if it kept my kids awake. I’d be doing everything in my power to stop it - environmental health, police etc. You won’t be the only ones upset about it, I’m sure.

Char- I’ve met the happy sing a long types, I’d prob join in. This is a bit more TOWIE style, with a stereotype or ten rolled in

Once a year or not it sounds bloody annoying. I would be calling environmental health as soon as appropriate and I would be knocking on the door asking for notice next year so I could be away

I'd be seriously annoyed if your description of the volume is remotely accurate, I'd be forced to wear ear defenders or shut myself in a soundproof room (hearing disorder means high volume causes acute pain). I shouldn't have to do either inside my own home!

YANBU

You and your neighbours could get your own back by playing very loud music outside their door at 9am tomorrow morning. Do any of your kids learn the violin? Or trumpet? It would be an ideal time for them to give a performance in the street

I think the main issue I have with it is the fact that its socially acceptable for them , being in a big house, but if anyone in a medium or small house did it they would be seen as peskersome chavs

Do what pp said, tell them it’s disturbing you and you’d appreciate notice so you can be elsewhere for one night a year.

Being serious, being 4 doors down I don’t think the 6 am idea would work. I don’t think we could be loud enough over the distance to annoy if I wanted to- you’d need... well... a proper festival style sound system to manage that

Oooo... all the lights and music just went off to squeals... 🤞

Any fireworks? Whatever time of day or month? Maybe you live near us if they do . . .

It would piss me off too, entitled bastards.

Well, it might be nice for them to give the neighbour's a heads up with the date if it's an annual event but then it's also, well, only an annual event - one Saturday night in the summer. YABU OP, it's hardly a massive inconvenience given smaller summer parties in people's gardens can be really obtrusive, noisy and go on until the wee small hours.

getorf, I don’t know why people get so affronted on here about the suggestion to make plans to be somewhere else as if they are being thrown out of their own homes.

Surely most people stay somewhere other than their own house every now and then? With relatives/friends when visiting? I’d just plan one of my trips away for that night next year unless completely impossible.

I think the only issue here (for me) is that they don’t give you any notice. Although I guess it is possible they are breaking local bye laws by having an event of that scale unless they do seek the required permissions. Although I doubt they do as I expect one of the requirements would be to give notice to local residents.

Young people fucking? Dearie me

No Carly, thank god. But right now there is total darkness and silence bar Unamplified voices in the distance. Hopefully the fuse board is done...

One day every year? YABU in my opinion but then I live in an apartment block where there's always someone having a party/ making noise/ having domestics

We have an actual festival, started 3 years ago (I’ve been here 11) it’s grown hugely in a really short time, it lasts 4 nights once a year but they us residents cheap tickets as a sweetener. Doesn’t bother me as I know it’s once a year. I’d be ok with a neighbour having a party once a year but my child is a teen, probably be less tolerant with a young child.

Maybe one of your neighbours is even more pissed off about it than you... cheeky wire cutters to the sound system ...

To all those saying "but it's only once a year". PM me your address, and one random night of the year I'll come round to yours and make life unbearable for the night such that you either can't get any sleep or have to stay in a hotel.

FFS people. You wouldn't take it from a stranger. Why on earth does it become acceptable just because it's a neighbour?

If you think there are cars leaving and there has been drinking, reasonable to ask the police to intervene? They won't come for the noise but their presence may end the noise a bit earlier.

The thing is, if everyone of the neighbours had the same sense of entitlement and only had such party each a year then there would be at least one a week, and that presumably wouldn't be ok. For anyone.

I don't think YABU OP.

The issue it seems may not be big actually this year, lights are back but sound seems to be minus a lot of the volume and bass. It’s more a normal garden party level, can here it but not every word and nothing is vibrating. Maybe something blew, but it’s toned right down- lots of indistinct singing along.

I'd hate this too. It's arsehole behaviour.

Btw for anyone imagining a country manor, it’s just a larger house and garden. It’s not that big, like Lotto winner big. They must be pretty shoulder to shoulder. It’s two 4/5 beds put together with generous gardens with double lengths to them merged into one. Very big and lovely for a garden but small to cram in what they are. It must be heaving, not a nice sit in the grass and enjoy it kinda party. Some non city people would I’m sure be rather underwhelmed by the garden