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To wonder if anyone else will admit to being a soap dodger?

703 replies

blueberrycoconut · 18/08/2018 13:20

I often can’t be arsed. Dh has to prompt me. Anyone else?

OP posts:
AhNowTed · 18/08/2018 18:12

@StorminaTCut

Of course? Nah.

Admittedly I'm one of the lucky 20% that doesn't smell. Never use deodorant. Shower on a work day, and as a PP said, If sex were on the cards (chance would be a fine thing) I'd give it the once over.

Otherwise I'm clean enough.

Tunnocks34 · 18/08/2018 18:21

I don’t shower every day to be fair. I’d say maybe 4/5 times a week. I don’t shower on Saturdays at all to be honest.

I mean if I don’t shower I wash my face and give my armpits and downstairs a babywipe. Always wash my hands though 😂

RoseWhiteTips · 18/08/2018 18:31

This thread makes dreadful reading.
🤢🤮

MeyMary · 18/08/2018 18:37

I do occasionally have greasy hair. I sometimes don't have time to wash and dry it so I'll just put it up in a plaited ponytail or bun...

But I do showers pretty much everyday. And wash my hands frequently. Before going to the toilet (unless I'm home, then I occasionally don't), after going to the toilet, before eating or cooking, when I get home...

So yes, YABU imo.

MeyMary · 18/08/2018 18:39

*showering doesn't necessarily include hairwsashing for me...

I get super dry hair and (more importantly!) a dry scalp if I wash my hair too often...

puppymouse · 18/08/2018 18:45

Can't ever go to bed without a shower these days. Full hair wash 3 or so times a week but wash the front and sides every day over the bath which keeps it fresh as I wear it up all the time. Wash hands after toilet.

This is more than I had drummed into me as a child though. Don't remember hand washing being a thing really for some reason. But I wanted to teach DD it was important.

meadowmeow · 18/08/2018 18:46

I can't get my head round the sex aspect of people not washing.

blueberrycoconut · 18/08/2018 18:47

Just have sex

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meadowmeow · 18/08/2018 18:48

I wouldn't want to.

Lethaldrizzle · 18/08/2018 18:53

So you only have sex if you're clean?

CaptainBrickbeard · 18/08/2018 18:54

If you can’t be bothered to wash waist length hair, get a haircut! Better to have short hair that you can keep clean than long hair that is greasy and horrible.

I wash my hands a lot and I have sensitive skin, I just use moisturiser on them after I wash. Again, it’s no effort but it is a lot less disgusting than using a toilet and not washing hands after. It’s really not a chore to keep clean. If your husband is regularly saying ‘ffs wash’ then things are not good!

Smallhorse · 18/08/2018 18:57

Me too op.

I’ll shower about every second day, sometimes less.

If I lived alone and didn’t work I’d do it far less

katielouise3 · 18/08/2018 19:04

@toothtruth

Unless you are very overweight and have issues with sweating, or are incontinent or have some other issue.... then having a full shower every single day is massive overkill, and a horrendous waste of water and soap.

What a load of nonsense. So you are saying that you have to be a hugely overweight obese person who sweats like a pig, and regularly pisses themselves, to have one shower a day. Some of us like to be clean all the time, even if you don't. Hmm

@PettySpaghetti

On the flip side to this, my DH has to be told REPEATEDLY to get in the shower. If left to his own devices he would shower once a week. I tested him once and didn’t ask him to have a shower- if took him 11 days to hop in and that was only because he wanted sex. That along with only brushing his teeth once a week can really make you feel bitter towards your partner. It’s disgusting, disrespectful, and makes you feel like your partner is actually another child that you have to care for. Please try and be considerate OP, it’s really hard living with it on the other side.

This in spades! I would not ever stay with someone with such poor hygiene as the OP. I am actually quite shocked that she thinks she is funny. Imagine having to be told by your HUSBAND that you stink, and have poor hygiene? cringe^

Don't know why she posted this thread. But I bet she expected more support. Wink

PerverseConverse · 18/08/2018 19:08

There's some mingers in this world, that's for sure. An ex of mine used to have to be told to wash his hair. He smoked, cycled to work and at work and would only wash his hair once a week. He had a shower more often but didn't wash his greasy locks which seemed bizarre to me.
My eldest is 11 and puberty is giving her smelly hair. She needs a daily shower and hair wash.

katielouise3 · 18/08/2018 19:10

Only having a shower when you are about to have sex, even if you only do it every 10 days?! 🤮🤮🤮

I bet these people don't even have a shower AFTER sex! Shock

And LOL at the posters who think they don't need to shower very often coz they are one of the 'lucky few' who don't smell.

Dream on. 😔 Everyone has a smell. Bet these same posters have dogs, and insist their house doesn't smell of dog! 😬

Lethaldrizzle · 18/08/2018 19:12

I generally go to sleep after sex

buckingfrolicks · 18/08/2018 19:14

Many posters seem really passionate about cleanliness! It's weird imo to be that determined to be clean at all times: it doesn't make you a good person just because you're clean. It's like you've been suckered by the endless adverts telling us that being clean is essential to life, success and happiness. When it isn't.

Fucking wet wipes, are you mad? wet wipes are horrendous things and should be banned.

katielouise3 · 18/08/2018 19:16

Who said it makes you a good person if you are more clean @buckingfrolicks? Confused

You sound very defensive and angry!

Some of us just prefer not to stink, and to practice good hygiene.

No need to get your panties in a bunch.

DianaPrincessOfThemyscira · 18/08/2018 19:17

I haven’t had a shower today. Might not before bed either.

Meh.

katielouise3 · 18/08/2018 19:17

And what on earth is 'weird' about wanting to be clean all the time @buckingfrolicks?

How odd your post is.

And why are you so angry?

Rednaxela · 18/08/2018 19:17

So I'm anti social and disrespectful of my work colleagues because I don't shower every morning?

This thread is like the twilight zone.

Nice drip feed about your hair length OP! Mine is very thick and takes ages to wash, condition, towel off and brush. I can never be bothered.

blueberrycoconut · 18/08/2018 19:18

Not really a drip feed. Do you want my height, weight and tit size as well? Hmm

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katielouise3 · 18/08/2018 19:18

I havent had a shower today and may not have one before bed either

'Meh....*

Good for you Dianaprincessofthemyscira!

StorminaTCut · 18/08/2018 19:19

It doesnt take an advert to convince me to use soap, I would probably agree with you if I was spending hundreds of pounds a month on Chanel toiletries, and Clarins face care, but a 50p bar of soap - no.

Its basic hygeine, like brushing your teeth & wearing clean knickers every day.

Anything else makes me think of Waynetta Slob.

knicksfan · 18/08/2018 19:19

How often are you Ill? Surely just for hygiene you should wash regularly?