Nursery put nappy on potty training child

[Smarshian]

So we have been following "oh crap potty training", did 3 days at home with quite a bit of success. By day 3 DD was peeing on the potty in clothes and letting us know when she needed to go (with about 2 seconds warning), she had 2 accidents that day where she had a pre wee then told us and we rushed her to potty.
Today was her first day in nursery, they were prompting her all morning and popping her on potty even though I told them that she doesn't really like to be put on there - she has just been telling us when she needs to go.
Anyway by 10.30 she hadn't had a pee so they decided to put a nappy on her as they thought that she was getting scared of the potty?!
I'm really annoyed as she hadn't had any accidents just been forced to sit on there when she didn't need to go. Aibu to be annoyed and what should I say to them when she's next in on Thursday. I also think they think she is too young as only 20 months, but she came home and asked to use the potty twice and went for a pee.

She's not ready .she can't hold it and that's a physical development that has to happen in its own time

Just for clarity I do now a girl who successfully potty trained at 18 months (and it worked fine, as she managed a day out at a theme park a couple of weeks later with no accidents - was happily saying wee-wee and getting to the loo, which was not close!).

The rest of us were all slightly shocked (with similar aged toddlers)

FWIW, 6 in an anti-natal group and the potty training range was 18 months for the first and 4.5y for the last....

@DieAntword

As the little princess says: nappies are yeeeuch. Why would anyone stick with them longer than absolutely necessary? Do you like getting poo on you? Smelling it? Wrestling a child that doesn’t want to wear one? Trying to keep a child who is covered in poo still while you clean them up before the run all over the place with poo falling off them? I hated those things and wanted not to have to deal with them.

My thoughts exactly. DD is 6 months and for the last few weeks (since she had been able to sit up properly) we have been sitting her on the potty in front of cartoons first thing in the morning to do a poo, she doesn't poo every day, but so far we have only had one day where she has pooped in her nappy. So I'd say about an 85% success rate. It is so much easier, especially with weaning poop, and DD is so much happier, as I don't think she has ever been a fan of pooing in her nappy and held on until it was rattled out of her with a car journey, or a bumpy pushchair ride.

I'm not going to push her to early potty train for wee's as we are out and about so much, with groups and walking the dog that I'm not sure how it would fit in with our lifestyle.

@OP trust your instinct, if you think you DD is ready then I'm sure she is. I was potty trained before 18 months, and haven't regressed....yet!!!!

Ah well she went back to nursery today and I had a chat with them about the method they were using there and what we were doing at home. They agreed to do as we were at home.
Anyway she had 2 accidents this morning but then after her nap had a dry afternoon and gave them plenty of notice for each wee, so I'm feeling much happier about it all and she is clearly getting the hang of it all.

You’re a childminder and you believe children should be 1 week clear of accidents before returning to setting? Are you serious? 😂 also, 20 months is a good age. Mine started using a potty herself at 15 months old, we trained her out the nappies at 18 months old.
Also, you are aware that children can still have the odd accident here and there after they’ve been trained for a long time right? Or do you send them home and tell parents they can’t come back for a week 😂
wow I’m glad my nursery and childminder were better educated than you seem to be in this area. If you can’t work with a parent to establish potty training the issue lies with you. If a setting puts a child in a nappy that came in underwear, who is actively potty training, that screams laziness. The fact they are constantly putting her on the potty instead of listening to what the mother says is ridiculous. There’s no excuse. This child is able to use the toilet, work with her.
I bet you’re a nightmare to work with with an attitude like that 🤦🏼‍♀️@Boofay
just because many people choose to wait until their kid is 3 doesn’t mean That children aren’t capable to do this under that age. 20 months is pretty good. But I guess the difference is the childcare we choose for our children. There’s always a few eggs unfortunately