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For reporting cousin for prostituting herself. Has two kids...

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cousinconfusion · 10/08/2018 12:18

I'm in need of some advice about my distant cousin who is prostituting herself online with her two young children in the house.
I found some accounts belonging to her on twitter and Instagram that contained explicit photos and videos of her, (these accounts are public for everyone to see).
She posts private videos too on a website that you can subscribe to for £10 a month.
She is also inviting strangers over to have sex with, I can only assume this is happening in her house and not in a hotel.

My concern here is for the children and their welfare at home, I worry for her safety too, these men know her address and could become dangerous.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

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strawberryHaribo · 10/08/2018 15:23

Not buying this anymore... for someone who hasn't spoken to a distant cousin for years and years... you've spoken to everyone else about them

I suspect the partner is involved in her adult work. Therefore cares for the kids while she goes about this, however she goes about it.

ExFury · 10/08/2018 15:29

He can afford to take out women but not make sure his own children are fed and looked after?

And the children are neglected and in danger from their mother yet he has time to both work and shag around?

NewUserNameTime · 10/08/2018 15:29

I think you should contact SS & not waste time asking people's opinions. If this is as you said there are serious issues at play

ivenoideawhatimdoing · 10/08/2018 15:30

My advice is what I always say.

Report any concerns immediately - if there’s something to investigate social services will do so; if there isn’t then at least it has been looked into.

Better to hurt her pride than to risk her kids ending up hurt.

Underhisi · 10/08/2018 15:51

If any of this is true he is as bad as she is.

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cousinconfusion · 10/08/2018 16:10

@WoodliceCollection
Sorry, I can see how my comment came across.
Of course it's possible for him to leave with the kids, I just can't see him doing that right now.
As PP have said, he is involved in this, and there must be a reason behind his complacency.
I think he probably can't be bothered with the "hassle" of splitting up with her. He's getting off with other women, and she's being paid to get off with men whilst they get to stay living together. It may be that he sees this as a good deal and he doesn't want to have to change things even if that means their kids are not receiving the care and attention they need.

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youarenot · 10/08/2018 16:23

I have to agree with the poster who said it sounds very much like you are the OW. Your story seems to be changing as now you are stating 'you can't see him doing that right now' I'm sorry but he has NO CHOICE to leave if his children are being neglected and put in danger.

Just contact the local safe guarding unit with the information you know to be correct - not gossip - and leave it in their hands if you are unwilling to reach out to your 'family member' to offer any support these children desperately need.

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cousinconfusion · 10/08/2018 16:27

@youarenot
He's 30, I'm 17...
I wasn't going to mention my age at first as I'm wiring this post for my Mum who doesn't have an account/do social media and I didn't want for people to not take me seriously after hearing about my age.
The comments about me being the OW are disgusting.

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youarenot · 10/08/2018 16:31

I was dating someone in his 30s when I was 17...

Maybe you find the comments disgusting but I find the fact that your family is sitting back watching these 2 children be neglected and put in all sorts of danger, whilst doing nothing to ensure these children are protected from any harm (whether that be risk of.. or neglect!) more disgusting.

Bobbybear10 · 10/08/2018 16:32

I will ask again OP,

Why did the father not make the children breakfast before he went to work?

Are you sure the father has not been recording your cousin in secret and uploading it without her knowledge?

Why does the father not stop men entering the house if, as you have been told, she is having men round for sex?

Why does the father not pay for childcare to get the children away from the house?

Are you 100% sure everything you have been told is true and if so how?

youarenot · 10/08/2018 16:32

So you would have been 9 when her eldest was born, which isn't too far off the age her child is now.. Imagine you were being treated in this way at that age and no one at all helped you..

funnylittlefloozie · 10/08/2018 16:33

Oh ffs. Now you're 'writing for your mum'? The Jeremy Kyle auditions are that way, dear....>>>

Original poster
cousinconfusion · 10/08/2018 16:36

@youarenot
I'm aware of that....
That is why my family and I are working together to find a solution that works for the children and their needs.

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HoleyCoMoley · 10/08/2018 16:38

What solutions are you all trying to come up with, why can't someone just intervene, talk to your cousin and take the children for a few days.

Iknowwhoyouare123 · 10/08/2018 16:39

Awful lot of 17 year olds posting social services threads today. Others were deleted.

Original poster
cousinconfusion · 10/08/2018 16:42

@Iknowwhoyouare123
Hmm...
Sounds believable.

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ADastardlyThing · 10/08/2018 16:45

Oh wow, it's getting even odder!

Op writes post for mum saying mum has been on social media looking at videos of her cousin, then writes that the mum doesn't do social media.

Yea, I don't think its your age that is making people not take you seriously love Grin

Skarossinkplungerridesagain · 10/08/2018 16:50

This is complete bollocks, there are so many holes in this story I could use it to drain my pasta.

But just in case it is real, shame on you and your family for not stepping in sooner OP. Disgusting behaviour.

Figlessfig · 10/08/2018 16:51

Why the fuck haven’t you or your mum phoned social services yet?

This whole thread is a piss-take.

HoleyCoMoley · 10/08/2018 16:52

Lots of contradictions on OP post, sad if it's really true and they are all just watching it happen, I am beginning to wonder if it's true though.

FlyingElbows · 10/08/2018 16:56

Omg do people still say "get off with"? It's a dead giveaway, op.

HoleyCoMoley · 10/08/2018 16:59

Flying, they do if they're 17Grin

Original poster
cousinconfusion · 10/08/2018 17:07

@ADastardlyThing
I never said my mum found her social media accounts. At least find a mistake in my previous comments instead of making one up.

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cousinconfusion · 10/08/2018 17:09

@Skarossinkplungerridesagain
Please, enlighten me and point out the holes.
If people genuinely think this whole thread is a fabricated lie then I will ask for it to be removed as I cannot be bothered with defending myself to people who like to make up mistakes and take the piss.

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ADastardlyThing · 10/08/2018 17:13

Erm.....your post @13.13

You say you're writing this for your mum.........