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For reporting cousin for prostituting herself. Has two kids...

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cousinconfusion · 10/08/2018 12:18

I'm in need of some advice about my distant cousin who is prostituting herself online with her two young children in the house.
I found some accounts belonging to her on twitter and Instagram that contained explicit photos and videos of her, (these accounts are public for everyone to see).
She posts private videos too on a website that you can subscribe to for £10 a month.
She is also inviting strangers over to have sex with, I can only assume this is happening in her house and not in a hotel.

My concern here is for the children and their welfare at home, I worry for her safety too, these men know her address and could become dangerous.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

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Emmageddon · 10/08/2018 12:50

I would raise concerns with social services. The welfare of her children is paramount.

However, I would make sure I was 100% sure of the facts and not just listening to malicious gossip.

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cousinconfusion · 10/08/2018 12:50

@YeTalkShiteHen
Except, I do know the facts I have seen all of the videos online.
Surely this is enough evidence?
I find it hard to believe that some people on here are defending this.

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Sockwomble · 10/08/2018 12:50

"he is unable to leave as their relationship is very complex"

What does that mean?

glintandglide · 10/08/2018 12:50

You sound really over invested in someone you seem to barely know. You sound quite vendictive actually.

Whilst I am not quite saying MYOB I don’t understand why you are taking on this drama when your family all know about it and she isn’t trying to hide it anyway. You don’t even know how the children are affected if at all

OlennasWimple · 10/08/2018 12:50

Nice drip feed about the kids rummaging in the bins for food Hmm

Why haven't SS been involved before? If you know that there are kids who have to go through the bins to get food, why haven't you been in touch with SS or the NSPCA long before?

YeTalkShiteHen · 10/08/2018 12:50

I’m not defending it. You misunderstood my post.

Are her children present in the videos? If so, you’re absolutely right to report.

If they’re not, you still have no actual facts.

DelphiniumBlue · 10/08/2018 12:51

Is she a junkie?
Either that or her partner is forcibly pimping her - the whole story sounds awful - children rummaging through bins, sex with strangers while they are in the house, but partner won't leave ( or give his children breakfast?)
Has anyone contacted social services, or the childrens's school?
And if partner knows what she is doing, but isn't leaving, although that would protect the children, then he is complicit in all this.
If he is pimping her, that's a criminal matter.

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cousinconfusion · 10/08/2018 12:51

@DearMrDilkington
It's definitely not her partner.
He has a full time job and is seeing other women.

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cousinconfusion · 10/08/2018 12:53

@DelphiniumBlue
She has been reported to SS before.
I don't know the reason for this though.

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Figlessfig · 10/08/2018 12:56

If all you say is true, the children are at risk and you should report this.

Call your cousin’s local council and ask to speak to the Duty Social Worker.

Due to the different ways councils operate across the U.K., she may have more than one local council. If there is a County Council, it will be the one with a statutory responsibility for child protection.

But don’t worry, just ring the number you find first, and they’ll either put you through to the Duty Social Worker or give you the correct number.

I’m not totally convinced about this thread, but if it is all true, you should ring them right now. Don’t worry about lunch breaks, there will be someone there to take your call.

Stirner · 10/08/2018 12:57

As usual plenty of people have piled on to mindlessly defend the woman's right to neglect her kids, attack the op and find ways of shifting blame. Typical of the mumsnet sjws.

glintandglide · 10/08/2018 12:58

What’s a sjw?

The Op doesn’t know a thing about the children. That’s the point

ShesABelter · 10/08/2018 13:00

So where's her kids dad whilst the kids are raking through the bin for food cause she won't get up and why would they just get food out the cupboard instead of the bin. Weird.

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cousinconfusion · 10/08/2018 13:00

@Figlessfig
Thank you, that's really helpful and I'll definitely call her local council now.

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cousinconfusion · 10/08/2018 13:02

@ShesABelter
Well you can only assume the obvious - there was no food in the cupboards.
Read between the lines.

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HappilyHarridan · 10/08/2018 13:02

Why wouldn't you ring the social services when you knew the kids were going through the bin for food, but you would if she is having sex for money?? If you really cared about the kids welfare I don't understand why you didn't call them about the food situation?

SomeKnobend · 10/08/2018 13:02

OP you are being really, really odd. You are apparently aware of neglect going back years, but have decided to get involved all of a sudden now, seemingly because you disapprove of the cam videos you've seen, not any escalation of the neglect. You also say this woman has a partner who is staying to look after the kids - well if he is then they won't be in the house while she's prostituting and they wouldn't have had to look through the bins for food. Either they are both neglecting/abusing the children and are equally responsible, or they are between them making sure the children are cared for. I don't get why (or how, if you're of normal intelligence) you are choosing to try to paint her as the bad one and him as the good one, in a household with 2 parents of allegedly neglected children.

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cousinconfusion · 10/08/2018 13:04

@Stirner
Exactly.
I should've know people would comment trying to defend her actions.

It's one thing for a woman to become a sex worker, that's a their choice and I'm not here to judge that.
The difference here is that the kids are involved and are suffering as a result.

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Stirner · 10/08/2018 13:09

@cousinconfusion - it'll apparently be your fault for flagging it up as well.

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cousinconfusion · 10/08/2018 13:09

@SomeKnobend
You're missing the point.
I'm not defending her partner, and I'm aware that I should have reported her before.

I didn't come on here to have people scrutinise the situation trying to find mistakes in my post. I came on here for advice as to how I should go about reporting her.

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sourpatchkid · 10/08/2018 13:10

Stop engaging in debate on MN and just report it. If there is no problem social services won't investigate. If there is you're saving a child from a life of trauma (I'm a therapist- I have several clients who were raped by an adult male who was invited into their home for sex with their mother outside of a relationship) your concerns are valid. Just speak to a professional about them rather than MN (who are so bloody PC they'd tell you to mind your own business whatever you saw)

ADastardlyThing · 10/08/2018 13:11

You seen the videos? On the subscribe website?

All your family know but done nothing?

Gosh, all sounds.........odd.

glintandglide · 10/08/2018 13:11

Surely you didn’t want advice on how to report her? REALLY? Do you not know how to pick up the phone or google SSs number?

RachelAnneJ · 10/08/2018 13:12

Why have none of the people she does see done anything? They're just watching this happen?

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cousinconfusion · 10/08/2018 13:13

@ADastardlyThing I only found her accounts last night.
And no, I didn't subscribe to the website (it costs £10 and would show that it was me who subscribed). The videos I saw were on her public social media accounts.

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