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Going out of my mind with this baby

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CornishFairing · 09/08/2018 00:42

Dd 8 months has a cold, tonight so far has been a repeat of last night. She can't / won't sleep lying down. Cot won't tilt up so I've got her in pram tilted up with white noise playing , humidifier on, dark except for nightlight, she has had calpol. She's crying uncontrollably. She only stops when I pick her up. I'm alone with her and am scared of falling asleep holding her. I'm so tired and I don't know what else to do!!!!!!!!!

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CornishFairing · 09/08/2018 00:45

She cried so much she started gagging so she's in my arms watching a relaxing sensory video on YouTube ..... Ffs

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Saltandsauce · 09/08/2018 00:46

Awe bless you, it’s absolutely no fun when babies are ill :(
Can you put anything under her mattress to prop it up at one end in the cot, a folded up pillow or blanket? Sorry I’ve no other advice, hope the wee scone feels better soon xxx

Scientistic · 09/08/2018 00:46

Hey, hope you are ok. Could you hold her until she sleeps then put her down? If you stand you're not likely to fall asleep? Sending Flowers

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CornishFairing · 09/08/2018 00:48

Will try .... she doesn't seem to tolerate her cot at all .... I don't think I can take any more crying . I might take her for a walk. She looks almost as insane with exhaustion as I do.

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CornishFairing · 09/08/2018 00:48

Thanks for listening!!!

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gluteustothemaximus · 09/08/2018 00:48

Many times I remember resorting to you tube in the early hours with a sick baby. Doing a great job, it will pass...Flowers

Aintnothingbutaheartache · 09/08/2018 00:48

Oh love so sorry. Remember if she’s screaming, she’s breathing!
Can you touch her, ie rub her back while not holding her?
It can feel very lonely at night. You’ve done calpol, humidifier, you’re doing well.
Keep posting. I’m sorry I’m not more help

WobbleTime · 09/08/2018 00:49

Oh I remember nights like this. If you need to tilt her cot put something under the mattress at the head end. I think I’d probably just take her into my bed though and try and settle her next to me. You can sleep on your side facing her with your arm around her so she can’t roll out.
Hugs.

Thesearmsofmine · 09/08/2018 00:49

Why not put her into bed with you? Poor little mite is feeling poorly and wants her mummy close by.

littlemissblue · 09/08/2018 00:50

Can you prop yourself up with pillows and sleep half upright with her on your chest? That's the only way my dd would sleep when newborn. Xx I feel for you the night feels never ending when they are like this

gluteustothemaximus · 09/08/2018 00:51

I don't know what to say about sleeping as all 3 of mine slept on me whether ill or not! I happen to lie dead still in one position though.

Will she sleep with you in your bed?

WobbleTime · 09/08/2018 00:51

And do you have any baby nurofen syrup? I think ( please check the instructions) that you can give this along with Calpol if that might help her feel better

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CornishFairing · 09/08/2018 00:52

Thanks guys ... i would have taken her into my bed but she's an avid roller now and just scared she'll roll out bed not really set up for co sleeping . I might have to do it though

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jazzyfizzles · 09/08/2018 00:54

Plenty of cushions on the floor and put some at the edge of the bed under the sheet so they stay put!

I've heard running a hot shower and sitting in the steamy room is good for babies that are congested. Hope she perks up soon xx

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CornishFairing · 09/08/2018 00:54

Can push chest of drawers up against one side of bed and put her on that side of me

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Rednaxela · 09/08/2018 00:55

Safe co sleeping is your solution here.

Even if you do not fall asleep deeply you will be able to rest somewhat.

Duvet no higher than your waist. Baby on flat clear sleeping surface. Lie in a c shape with your arm out so you cannot roll.

Givemeabreak01 · 09/08/2018 00:55

Babies with colds are shit it won’t be the first nor the last.... my little one used to get a cold every tooth cutting.... that’s a lot of colds.... do what you feel is right people co-sleep all the time so long as you’re safe.... ie not drunk nor a smoker you should be fine.... but that’s my opinion

VforVienetta · 09/08/2018 00:56

I co-slept whenever mine were like this or just for the snuggles so can only think of that as a solution!

If you're not comfortable cosleeping you can as a PP suggested build up one end of the mattress so her head is raised - i'd recommend using towels, pillows could be too squishy.

Sympathies tho, DC1 had colic, silent reflux, and we've now learned proprioceptive problems, so would only sleep on me for his first 7 months...

Hope you get some sleep soon.

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CornishFairing · 09/08/2018 01:07

Thanks all, now on my bed with her , towels under sheets and furniture shoved down one side of bed. She's currently writhing about crying but fingers crossed. Might show her the YouTube vid for a few mins, seems to distract her. Where would I be without midnight mumsnet!!

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wetsnow · 09/08/2018 01:27

Hope she settles xx

MakeItRain · 09/08/2018 01:27

Hope you get some sleep. My dd was like this; turned out she had silent reflux (acid reflux). Infant Gaviscon prescribed by a doctor helped, alongside ranitidine. I also remember reading that lactose intolerance could cause the same sleep issues.

Take her to the doctor in the morning. What you're going through isn't "normal" (although you'll probably be told it is by well meaning health care practitioners! My health visitor told me to leave her to cry and to stop over-feeding her - when in fact feeding would temporarily soothe her reflux pain.)

It's likely to have some medical cause that can be helped. I remember the night my dd first got Gaviscon and pretty much slept for 8 hours after months of 40 minute stretches. It was like a miracle! Lots of fluctuation after but never as bad as those awful first months of screaming wakefulness!

Btw She's 12 now and I can't get her out of bed in the mornings these days!

ConfessionsOfTeenageDramaQueen · 09/08/2018 01:30

Oh you poor poor thing. I had a fair few nights like this (DS was a terrible sleeper until we sleep trained at 12 months) and it is the absolute worst.

I hope you're both getting a bit of a snooze now. Is there anyone who could take the baby for a walk tomorrow so you could nap?

Flowers
Mousefunky · 09/08/2018 01:50

If you don’t already have one, try getting one of these things www.boots.com/snufflebabe-nasal-aspirator-with-case-10076203
they were an absolute lifesaver when mine were small. Pretty gross concept, I know but work well to clear their airways.

Try propping the cot mattress up at one end with pillows underneath to see if that will help. If not, co-sleeping as PP’s have suggested. It is warm enough to not really need the duvet on so no risk there, keep her away from the pillows (my advice is take the other sides pillows away if you are alone and keep her away from yours).

Hope she’s feeling better soon for both her sake and your sanity Flowers.

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CornishFairing · 09/08/2018 01:53

Still awake, still crying like mad :-(

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delphguelph · 09/08/2018 01:54

Dunno about you tube, all that blue light might stimulate her. Sing a song instead, or hum to her.

Flowers it's brutal

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