To be worried have inadvertently become a CF?!

[LartenCrepsley]

MN jury, am I a CF? All the recent CF threads have got me questioning this...
I teach at a small independent school. I’ve been there several years and, although it pays significantly less (£10k-ish) than teaching in a state school would, there are several perks to working there, the biggest being reduced prices for my two DC. I’m charged no tuition fees. I know I am very lucky in this respect.
It’s a private school so obviously uniform is a big thing. The uniform is very specific and the policy is strictly enforced (by me and my colleagues). The uniform is only available from one shop and it’s eye-wateringly expensive (one summer dress is £45! A blazer can cost up to £85.). However the uniform is very good quality and lasts well. We regularly get donations of pristine uniform pupils have out-grown. These donations are sold at school to boost our funds a bit. The used uniform sale brings in around £50 a year, so it’s not a huge amount. I have been helping myself to uniform to kit out both DC. I have not been donating any money in return. When the uniform is finished with, I will return it all to school.
AIBU? CF? Or is this ok?

I’d like to stop posting now. Again, thank you for engaging and sorry for drip feeds. I really do need to stop posting because I’m worried that I might be drawn into revealing too many identifying details.

Have a great day, everyone.

"Borrowing it"!!! Only if you are an actual Borrower are you "borrowing it". You are taking it for your own use for free. Bearing in mind that you get 2 sets of school fees for free as well, I am astounded at your CFness. Make a donation NOW!

Sound very CF to me. You should contribute like everyone else. But then I suspect you know that as you started the thread. When most people confirmed what you already knew you started backing off. It's not the biggest of deals but you did ask.

Sure you did OP. Sure.

I hope someone does recognise what school it is so the parents can be made aware that the HT is giving their donations away to staff!

If it wasn't a private school but a state school and you happened to still be paid less for whatever reason, would you still help yourself?

In view of your recent update, I think both you AND the head teacher are CFs as I bet the other parents are unaware their donations go straight to you.

I wouldn't say extreme it seems inadvertent in some ways - just make a donation - it clearly doesn't cost much if it raises 50 quid a year so a £5 er should do it.

Personally, I would be concerned about the kids being bullied for being in a private school and wearing second hand uniform. No, I'm not saying that I think there's anything wrong with it, but some kids are mean!! Especially in private schools

So you steal it?

I think the least you could do is make a donation to school funds!

Good idea not to reveal identifying information given the issues that would arise with the Charity Commission. I know it's only a small sum, but the HT's attitude (if this is for real!) has really annoyed me!

My gut feeling is that the school seem happy with the arrangement so, technically, you aren't a CF. However, given you aren't paying any school fees, nor are you spending any money on uniform then, morally, you are a CF.

I think that you probably agree with me here otherwise you wouldn't have bothered posting in AIBU. Would it really be such a hardship to pop a few quid (£10?) into the pot at the school fete? That way, you have a bargain and an easy conscience. I've spent at least that kitting out 2 DC, even at Tesco/Matalan prices.

You should make a donation.

Sounds quite cheeky fuckeryish to me.

I think you know that you are stealing from the school. I don't think anyone has given you permission to do this, or looked the other way when you have been taking the uniform.

Put in a large donation or risk losing your job.

How could you be so stupid as to risk a job that has such huge perks?? What this do to your children and their future?

You are/have been unbelievably stupid.

If it was me that donated them I would be annoyed if I found out you took them without donating.

On the back of this thread I phoned the boss/owner and explained that I was feeling a bit uncomfortable about accepting the uniform. He has said he won’t accept any money for it.

Of course you did, of course he did

Why would you not donate?

He has said he won’t accept any money for it

Which makes him a CF too and still doesn't make it right.

I think it's disgusting tbh.

No wonder they only make £50 if you are taking it for free - others will donate and pass it back.

You're a total CF and I don't believe any of your drip feeds.

There's no way that second hand uniform deal only raises £50 pa. I've been involved in this as a parent. It makes a lot more than that!!

I love the use of the word 'inadvertently' in the thread title

Nothing inadvertent about it at all.