Am I being unreasonable?

[Zoe614]

Hi!

A quick question for you all. So a bit of background, I’m 24 this year, and always spend it at the family home as I’ve no partner etc. I do still live at home at the weekends, but have to travel with work Monday to Friday.
My parents and I usually stay in and just have cake and watch a film etc. or go for a walk in the countryside.
However, this year, my dad is a season ticket holder at the local rugby club - and one of the matches falls on the Saturday of my birthday.
I approached my dad and asked him not to go and miss the game, as I want him to spend the day at home with me, but he is adamant that he refuses to miss it. He says that it is the one thing he has in his life that he enjoys to do for himself, paid all that money so doesn’t want to miss it. He said life shouldn’t all be about me all the time (as I often make it that way).
It is only for two hours in the afternoon yes, but I can’t help feeling really upset by it all, and like he doesn’t care about my day whatsoever. We have had huge arguments over it all.
Am I being unreasonable? Honest opinions welcome.

I don't think I've spent my birthday with my parent in years. Actually I lie, I did last year for the first time in what 15 years.

YABU

I assume your mum will still be there even for the 2 hours your dad is at the rugby? Do you need both of them there for the whole day?

Very unreasonable.

You're 24. Celebrate with your friends and let your parents live their own lives.

YABU

you’re 24 years old! Grow up!

You don’t have special plans that he is missing, you just want him to sit at home and eat cake and watch a film! Of course actual plans (rugby game) trump that!

You’re an adult. Your parents world should’ve stopped revolving around you many years ago! Time to cut the apron strings.

Blimey, I thought something like “WIBU if I buggered off for the whole wkend and didn't see my family on my birthday?“ was coming not that you were trying to tie your dad down. I think the things he said were a bit hurtful, or at least could be hurtful to you as it's obvious you love having a special day but give the man a break! Or arrange something so ridiculously exciting (other than a country walk) that he couldn't possibly refuse the invite. Or go to a spa for the day with your mum or friends and then have a meal in the evening with both parents.
I'm of the age now where a bday is an opportunity to skip doing the washing, have a take away and let the husband bath the kids. It's not about a celebration necessarily, just an excuse to treat myself and/or ignore the daily grind for 24hrs. Happy days.

Sorry but YABU, when you're an adult people don't care as much about your birthday as you do - you could still do something nice around the rugby, but insisting on the whole day is too much.

Surely this is a wind-up!

Op what have you done on all other Birthdays?

Are you the type that stayed off school as your birthday was on a school day?
Actually if its soon you are lucky having an August birthday and always being off.

Good lord, OP. Are you sure it's your 24th birthday and not your 4th?

YABVU.

Wow - weird or what!?
Go out for a nice lunch with your mum.
Come back home after the rugby and have a few bevvies and watch a nice film together.
My DD is 20 and we are good friends but she would NOT want to spend the whole of her birthday with me!!

Yes unreasonable- are you 24 or 8?

🐎 Looks like the OP has fucked off into the sunset with her one post.

This has to be a wind up

Your 24 just do something in the evening.

I'd understand if your were 10, but you're being rather silly.

This HAS to be a reverse.

If not, you sound extremely spoilt. You are being extremely unreasonable and you may wish to consider growing the fuck up!

What do you expect to be doing with him for the whole day? Do you do anything in particular or just sit and watch tv?

Lol wtf

He clearly loves you - he's your dad, he raised you, he lets you live with him (as does your mum) at 24 years of age when most people are making their own way in the world. He has told you kindly that a lot of his life seems to revolve around you. That's not very fair, you're not a baby any more. He has earned the right to indulge himself in the hobby that he has paid for and looks forward to. He probably wants to try and foster a little more independence in you as well, it's not very healthy to get upset about you dad going out his own house for 2 hours at 24 years of age xx

My money is on this being a reverse.

Oh my word, Yanbu! Get a life!

I think this is written by the Dad. The words in brackets (as I often make it that way) sound off unless written by a parent, or a disgruntled Dad.

This cannot be for real , surely?!

You're nearly 24 ffs. Not 4.
YABU

You're not a child bloody hell, yes yabu

I don't think this is real. No 24 year old could be that spoilt, surely?