To not invite children to wedding?

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Recently sent out wedding invites.
We are limited on numbers so have invited children of immediate family only.

There is a large number of children not invited and to invite them would have meant finding 20 additional spaces.

People are already contacting us asking if they can bring children.

I'm starting to worry if we are being unreasonable just inviting immediate families children only (we are making exceptions for children under 1)

Your wedding; absolutely your choice who to invite. Assume you understand some people will not be able to attend due to childcare issues? If so, that’s totally fine.

I don’t think people are being cheeky, just enquiring as I assume that wasn’t plastered over your invites. As long as you are happy enough with potentially having a much smaller wedding than you first thought if people decide not to come because they cannot organise child care then it’s up to the both of you.

Yanbu, dont mind them or feel bad at all. Personnally i prefer child free weddings and even if mine were invited unless it was a very close relative, I wouldnt bring them.

For my own wedding to exdh, we had our own kids and nieces and nephews (youngest was a week old). None of our friends etc requested to bring children. Some of them went home after the church and for the rest I had organised a childcare worker from the play school to come mind them. Worked well and then she brought our own kids back to our house for the night.

Maybe its an Irish thing, but I have never heard from any of my friends or relations who have got married having any requests to bring children.

As regards not being able to realise from invitations whether children are invited are not, if their names are not on it or it doesnt say Mary and john and family they are not invited.

"but this is a great opportunity to let your hair down" is the most incredibly patronising and annoying thing possible to write on an invitation explaining why kids aren't invited.

I must say, I do agree with this! As someone who only very rarely has available childcare, if DH and I get the chance to let down our hair on our own, it's going to be in private and certainly not as someone else's wedding!!