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To think people should think before they get on a plane

218 replies

AndSpinAround · 07/08/2018 09:08

Yeah yeah I know some people are scared of flying, but right now I have no sympathy.

Yesterday DH was on a 7pm flight from London to Barcelona. We live in the outskirts of Barcelona.

Everyone got on the flight then one woman decided she didn't want to fly after all. She got off the plane. This means that everyones hand baggage has to be rechecked. Then just as they are about to go. Another woman decides she is scared and wants her and her family off the plane. The second woman had hold baggage so that had to be taken off, then all hand baggage checked again. Because of this the runway slot had been missed so they had to wait again.
The plane landed after midnight.

The last train for DH to get home leave Barcelona centre at 11.55. The flight was due to get in at 10.20, no problem. Because of these two he had to get a taxi to another part of Barcelona, then a night bus. He got home just after 2.30am.

He's knackered and can't work today.

These two woman should have thought before they got on the fucking plane.

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ShotsFired · 07/08/2018 10:07

determined to make my husband somehow the bad guy. It's not rocket science, 2 women delayed a flight a lot, my husband is knackered and it was a long journey to get home.

Don't be daft. I agreed that it was a shit turn of events in the first line of my first reply. I'd be fuming if it happened to me as well.

I just don't think one late night should render a grown man completely unable to work the next day. How is that making him a "bad guy"?

Thatsfuckingshit · 07/08/2018 10:07

There loads of jobs that travelling until 2.30am would mean they couldn't go to work.

I work in a bloody office and we have a rule that states if we arrive home from a work trip after 11pm, we don't work the next day. Wether this is due to delays or just the way it works.

My boss would be horrified if I flew home from a meeting, got in at 2.30am, got up for work at 5.30am and the drove into work. Luckily, I can work from home, so usually just log on later.

I suffer from bad flight anxiety and think the OP has every right to be a bit pissy. One flight I was on, I really wanted to get off. Like a primal fear. I managed to keep my mouth shut until we took off and it was too late.

However I also hate that everyone who acts like a dick 'must have anxiety' on MN. These women may have anxiety. They may not, they may just not give a shit.

Either way it's annoying, wether it could have been avoided or not.

Clairetree1 · 07/08/2018 10:07

He's knackered and can't work today

HIBVVVU

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HelpmeobiMN · 07/08/2018 10:09

I agree, that is ridiculous. Nobody spontaneously develops a fear of flying that intense - they must have known in advance in which case they ought to have found a way of managing it or not travelled by plane. It isn't compulsory to fly anywhere!

LEMtheoriginal · 07/08/2018 10:09

They may just not give a shit? Honestly? Because flying isnt a major hassle and bloody expensive at all is it?

ShotsFired · 07/08/2018 10:11

Also, all the people piling on to say OP/her husband should be more sympathetic or kinder. Bollocks.

You are 100%allowed to be pissed off at a lengthy delay while at the same time understanding that it probably wasn't maliciously done. The two aren't mutually exclusive.

All the right-on handwringing about how cool and fine some people claim they'd be about an event like that is just out and out virtue signalling.

LEMtheoriginal · 07/08/2018 10:12

You are selfish because you are directing your ire at someone who may not have any control over their predicament.

As an anxiety sufferer you should know better

I didnt say you were selfish to be annoyed but selfish to be annoyed at the women who needed to leave the plane.

PurpleTrilby · 07/08/2018 10:12

To AveA: some people are really weird about travel. I suspect that family group who failed to board in good time have form in this area. My gran was very strange like that. One time on a coach trip to France, just a day trip, she wandered off when everyone else had boarded the coach for the return trip, was gone for several hours. Everyone was really pissed off with her, she just didn't get it, world of her own. I have a generally fucking weird family on that side, though!

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AndSpinAround · 07/08/2018 10:16

You are 100%allowed to be pissed off at a lengthy delay while at the same time understanding that it probably wasn't maliciously done. The two aren't mutually exclusive.
Thanks ShotsFired this is pretty much exactly how I feel.

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Glumglowworm · 07/08/2018 10:17

YANBU and I say that as someone who has anxiety that at times has stopped me doing things.

Anxiety, like many mental health conditions, is selfish. If the women were so anxious they had to get off the plane, they weren’t thinking about the disruption to hundreds of other people.

That doesn’t mean it’s ok for hundreds of people to be disrupted or that the op and her DH can’t be angry and frustrated

HolyMountain · 07/08/2018 10:18

Anxiety, like many mental health conditions, is selfish

What?

mostdays · 07/08/2018 10:21

I'm sure your husband will feel better after a sleep. His amazing ability to diagnose whether or not someone is truly panicking or not just by looking at them probably won't be permanently affected, either.

Of course yanbu to be miffed that there was delay, but yabu to be so unpleasant about the women concerned and so aggressively determined that they didn't have real anxiety or fear.

BeyondRadicalisationPortal · 07/08/2018 10:23

Another one for AveA - my parents missed a flight recently cause they were sat in the departure lounge watching the wrong queue... 🙄

rinabean · 07/08/2018 10:25

Your husband does not "know what a panic attack looks like, a full on one", because there isn't a way that they look, yes even a full on one. If you believe he has this magic power, you're both delusional.

Selfcentredbigot · 07/08/2018 10:26

Aybu if your only response to people having a medical crisis is fury towards them because your husband was late home last night?

Yes, OP, I rather think you are.

Why didn't he get a taxi all the way back home or you go and pick him up rather than pissing around with buses?

PowerPlayed · 07/08/2018 10:27

Twice in the last month this has happened on flights I've been on and a total of four times this year.

I've been flying for 40 years and regularly for the past 10. Never experienced it prior to this year. It's very bizarre behaviour.

Mookatron · 07/08/2018 10:28

I sympathise, but I'm thinking about how scared I would have to be to dare embarrass myself by actually getting off and I feel sympathy for those people (who yes should've thought about it before).

Selfcentredbigot · 07/08/2018 10:30

Presumably if they have anxiety they have given more than a little thought to flying.

SuburbanRhonda · 07/08/2018 10:31

I have a fear of flying and for some reason I once watched Final Destination the night before a trip.

Cool story, bro.

BigSandyBalls2015 · 07/08/2018 10:31

That is a pain in the arse but I don't see how your DH needs a whole day off work! Getting into bed at 2.30/3.00am, up at 9, that's six hours sleep! Far more than most people have with teething babies, this heatwave, out late at night, loads of other scenarios.

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AndSpinAround · 07/08/2018 10:33

rinabean He's seen mine for the last 15 years, so yeah he does.
He said the first woman didn't seem to care, the second looked very nervous.

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Skyejuly · 07/08/2018 10:33

Hindsight is a wonderful thing hey ;) I have flight anxiety but I have a right to get on or off as much as the next person.

FiveShelties · 07/08/2018 10:34

I am doing a 17 hour flight tomorrow and will be well cheesed off if we have to offload because someone changes their mind.

Selfcentredbigot · 07/08/2018 10:34

I agree. I think there's more to this story. Does your dh often duck out of everyday responsibilities for spurious reasons, OP?

PolkerrisBeach · 07/08/2018 10:35

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