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To ask for your CF wedding tales?

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DuggeeRulz · 04/08/2018 13:56

A guest’s plus one (someone I’d never met before) wore a white mini dress to my wedding. I laughed it off at the time (more focused on getting married!) but lots of people were a bit outraged on my behalf that she wore white.

Anyone got some more lovely tales of CFs trying to steal wedding thunder? I do love a good CF story!

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Goldilocks3Bears · 06/08/2018 19:10

My wedding:

  1. Friend showed up half cut just before I did at the church. She was wearing a black corset dress and walked down the aisle slowly to make sure everyone saw her.
  2. Wedding crashers but they were lovely
  3. XH’s cousin first refused to come because kids were not invited and then suggested to his mom that she should stay home and babysit. She came and he stayed away.
  4. A couple gave us a used Pernot bottle wrapped in a newspaper as a gift.

Other weddings:

  1. Step Brother of the bride hijacked the suit fitting to do his own shopping
  2. Same dude then bossed the photographer around and when the couple got the pictures it was full of him and his gf
  3. The brides best mates from uni found out where they were going on honeymoon and all booked in for the week “as a surprise”.
  4. This insane wonan worming in pr loudly and showily pulled her laptop out during the drinks and kept checking it during the dinner because she was so important and had urgent work to do.
HunterofStars · 06/08/2018 19:14

@puzzled, They weren't assistance dogs. I think the person who brought the dogs had initially asked the bride if they could make an exception for her and the bride said no, as other guests were putting their dogs in kennels for one day, including bride herself.

HunterofStars · 06/08/2018 19:14

@puzzled, They weren't assistance dogs. I think the person who brought the dogs had initially asked the bride if they could make an exception for her and the bride said no, as other guests were putting their dogs in kennels for one day, including bride herself.

BeefTomato · 06/08/2018 19:16

My cousin cancelled the day before because the train fares would be too expensive. It would have been £25 max (less than £15 if she'd booked it a week in advance) and she was far far wealthier than me!

ClaireAnne1976 · 06/08/2018 19:21

My MIl and both of her sisters wore head to toe white to our wedding and she cheerfully told me about how she had tried to talk her son out of the marriage the morning of the wedding.
Also my husbands work friend told him he’d come then didn’t but when he saw him next said the verbal rsvp didn’t count 😡.
My SIL asked to bring a friend who then kept ordering drinks then leaving them around as they were “free” then ordered about 20 shots. At that stage we stopped the “free” bar.
I’m still annoyed by all these now.

memememum · 06/08/2018 19:28

TakeAChanseyOnMe
According to the CofE a marriage is a public ceremony which at the least all parishioners are entitled to attend. and there’s the legal right of members of the public to interrupt proceedings: Anyone is entitled to raise genuine impediments to the formalisation of the marriage.

JayneW63 · 06/08/2018 19:37

A lot of my family, my Mum certainly, wear their corsages and button holes pointing down. On the other hand we've never worn flowers to a funeral, so I'd cut your MiL a bit of slack.

Mine sat in my chair at the reception, on the grounds the place mark said Mrs W63, and argued with me that it was her seat. Center top table with a massive cake in front!! I pointed out I was Mrs W63 too now and she screamed.

Puzzledandpissedoff · 06/08/2018 19:48

puzzled, They weren't assistance dogs

Somehow I didn't think they would be Hmm

What I really don't get, though, is why anyone would even ask to bring their dogs to a wedding ... frankly it just doesn't compute

DeegeeDee · 06/08/2018 19:50

Oh blimey JayneW63. What happened next - are you on good terms?

sweetpb · 06/08/2018 20:02

got asked a couple of weeks before the wedding if bil could invite girlfriend, i don't even think i had met her they had been together about 4 months, sat her with dh family..... she moved her chair up to the top table!

Kahil · 06/08/2018 20:10

I'm getting married in a few weeks. My dad asked me if he could bring a plus 1 today. This plus 1 is a woman he met on the internet about a fortnight ago!! I don't even know her name.

fuzzywuzzy · 06/08/2018 20:15

@starlight13 maybe your MIL wasn’t being horrible.

Women wear corsages with the flower pointing down on the right side and men wear their button holes flower pointing upwards.

Maybe she thought men’s button holes are worn the same as the women’s?

baristagirl · 06/08/2018 20:23

At my sisters wedding, I caught one of her "friends" shoving bottles of wine into her bag, telling my to help myself as there were free. 🙄 They went over their bar budget by 15k

JayneW63 · 06/08/2018 20:27

She shifted, and thankfully me and DH had left the building by the time she had a fight with the DJ, and put on a cassette tape ( it was a long time ago) of DH playing show tunes on his organ. Of course no one told us this until about 15 years later.

TrainRager · 06/08/2018 20:28

Just remembered another at my own wedding. DJ for the disco disappeared for an hour although music was still playing. He was found availing himself of the free bar, having popped on a "Now..." compilation CD, thinking that was adequate. He was unceremoniously marched back to his rightful place by DH and a couple of burly mates and advised that his fee would be reduced considerably.

divafever99 · 06/08/2018 20:30

My sil announced her first pregnancy at my wedding. Shock the thunder stealing still annoys me over a decade later!

MyParentsSuck · 06/08/2018 20:45

My mother told me a few days before my wedding that she hadn't written her speech yet (which she insisted on doing) because she had nothing good to say about me.
Then had our wedding planner tell me on the day of our actual wedding that she wasn't doing a speech.
She also insisted her husband sit on the top table and told my wedding planner to make sure they had her favourite drink in stock even though they wouldn't normally have it.
She didn't want to chose from the menu available to everyone else but chose something different for her and her husband.
She insisted we go to the same wedding shop she had used for her dress and they screwed my right dress up.
Basically she was a total nightmare.

Hazzleton · 06/08/2018 20:57

I think my ex almost SIL does well for this thread.
Was pressured into making her a bridesmaid (only had 2 very close friends who I’d known since being a toddler).
This was like maybe 2 months till the big day. Immediately says she hates the colour scheme, can we change it. Nope
Take her to go find a dress that will go with the ones the bridesmaids already have (they didn’t go up to her size). We were paying for Bridesmaid dresses and accessories btw. She finds this swamp green satin dress that absolutely in no way is even close to the others or the colour scheme. Was double the budget we had for the dress and accessories combined.
She then proceeds to say she wanted it so she could look way better then the other bridesmaids. Did not get her the dress. We took a bit of a break from each other.
Then MIL says she found a dress maker to make a similar one. What a lovely compromise, she also offered to pay. 3 of us go to this dress makers house and exSIL proceeds to talk over me the entire time about what she wants the dress to be like, basically nothing like the others or colour scheme.
We go away. At this point I’m pretty upset and she’s made loads of other comments about our wedding. I say to my now husband she can’t be a bridesmaid I don’t care if his entire family hates me.
Tell her she’s out of the bridal party and turns out a lot of his family secretly hated her and we’re very pleased!

Another friend also rang me up very soon after my engagement to ask to be a bridesmaid. Said I was only having the 2 very close friends. She didn’t even bother coming to the wedding. Kinda wished she’d been a bridesmaid now as that would’ve been interesting 😂

Wavingnotdowning · 06/08/2018 21:00

Cousin's wedding - no children to be invited so as we had two little ones, youngest only a few months and still being breastfed I had to stay at home. Husband arrived and told he was to look after other cousins two young children who had been invited. Not happy.

eteokles · 06/08/2018 21:21

MIL got so drunk at main reception she had to be taken home to bed by SIL - throwing up in hotel flower beds on the way. Left my poor mother to deal with all her nominated guests, which were 80% of the evening reception. My parents were getting into tough water to pay for this, MIL was awash with cash, but wouldn't pay a penny. Apparently she just couldn't stand losing her baby boy---as she mentioned (loudly) for a number of hours. She also broadcast she volunteered in a charity shop and had got her hat for 50p! (outfit from BHS in the sale apparently)...Really good for my self esteem!!!

nicslackey · 06/08/2018 21:36

Got up for first dance with exh and then the parents were invited to join us. My dad and wife, mum and stepdad got up but no sign of PIL. Turned out they were having a quick shag on the nearby beach. Classy.

clarkl2 · 06/08/2018 21:38

My friend's husband couldn't attend our wedding, so said friend brought her Swedish sister-in-law who looked like a stripper. I got the last laugh though because she gets married in two weeks and has put about 4 stone on!!

Clionba · 06/08/2018 21:43

Wearing white isn't about bring mistaken for the bride. White is the bride's privilege and it's bad manners to wear it. There are plenty of colours and patterns to choose from. Why risk offending someone?

tulipbee · 06/08/2018 22:03

My mum & SIL both wore white / off white to my wedding

SnowWhitesRestingBitchFace · 06/08/2018 22:06

I don't know when to start with my wedding to exh when it comes to cheeky fuckers but the cheekiest fucker of them all was definitely exh.

He pretty much let his mother plan our wedding. None of my ideas, suggestions etc were good enough but his mother was the be all and end all with every word she said.

Ended up being pressured into having a flower girl and a bridesmaid that I'd only met a couple of times because they were the daughters of close family friends of exfil.

My wedding dress was picked for me whilst I was away visiting my dad.

Had to go and buy a wedding ring the day before the wedding because the one given to me by my DM went 'missing' (exh had sold it. He had unbeknownst to me a massive gambling addiction. His Mum and Dad knew how bad it was but decided it was better to cover it up and clean up his mess rather then tell me so I had a chance not to marry the bastard).

My own DM disappeared after dinner to her room with a headache (she didn't have a headache, she was distraught I had married this awful man).

Someone who was invited to the evening do turned up at church then the reception (so had to find a place for him) whilst someone else who was invited all day came to the church but disappeared during dinner and came back in the evening Confused

Oh and the girlfriend of one of my work friends wore white.