To ask for your CF wedding tales?

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A guest’s plus one (someone I’d never met before) wore a white mini dress to my wedding. I laughed it off at the time (more focused on getting married!) but lots of people were a bit outraged on my behalf that she wore white.

Anyone got some more lovely tales of CFs trying to steal wedding thunder? I do love a good CF story!

My centrepieces were stolen too - by a member of staff at the venue! They were only Ikea vases with flowers in, but I was so sad.

They also nicked the picture frames I'd hung up with the names of who was sitting at each table.

DH created merry hell when we found out!

I also had a guest arrive in an ivory dress...complete with ivory shoes, handbag and headpiece with birdcage veil. Bitch.

Dh best man at extremely grand massive wedding a different culture to ours. The wedding planner totally out of her depth went home early. Dh had to coordinate vast numbers of people retrieving coats etc some of the elderly but extremely grand older ladies thought he was staff and treated him accordingly. He was exhausted by the end running about being ordered around by posh grannies

I gave our centrepieces to our aunt's as they left. Went to get one and a girl I had never met demanded to know what I was doing because she was taking it home! I just stared her out and said coldly, "No, you bloody aren't."

Groomsmen's brand new girlfriend (think 2 weeks), invited herself to my hen do, snuck herself into all of the group pictures, and pulled her chair up to the wedding table to sit next to her boyfriend.

He dumped her a week later, and I'm stuck with a person whose name I can't even remember in almost all of my wedding photos.

Here’s my thread about being given a toddler flower girl as I was going down the aisle (I didn’t ask for any flower girls).
Also bridesmaids late to church with no apologies or explanations amongst other things.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3327281-Bridesmaids-late-and-other-shenanigans

When I got married I was working in a pub. Exmil was working in the British Legion who very kindly offered their function room for free and did a lovely buffet at cost for us. We got married on a £250 budget because we were skint and only had an afternoon drinks and food do with about 60 guests.

Exmil insisted that her mother's sister had to be invited despite the fact we'd never met her. Her cantankerous mother had recently reconciled some family rift (which she caused) after 30 years of not speaking. She also refused to allow us to invite exh's half brother and his wife as he was a constant reminder of her exh's infidelity.

My work colleagues from the pub all said they were coming but in the end none of them did as the landlady (who is a total narc) refused to give people time off and said anyone who went would get sacked. She'd been invited but she was a very nasty piece of work.

I wish I'd never got married. It's costing me twice as much to get divorced.

At our wedding we asked all the guests with children if they were bringing them or had arranged childcare (Didn't really have a preference either way just wanted to know for catering) One set of friends said that they were going to enjoy a child free day. Fair enough. Then on the day they showed up, not with their children but with a random teenage nephew we had never met, who was wearing a t shirt and jogging bottoms. Bizare.

At my hen lunch conversation turned to what kind of weddings people had. DM asked MIL if she had a big traditional wedding or what did they do.

MIL informed us all that when she heard her sister was getting married she decided they(her and FIL) should aswell. So she called the priest, told him he was to do both at the same time and the hotel to add on extra seats for FILs parents and no more. She essentially gatecrashed/piggybacked her sisters wedding as a surprise and told us all about how clever that was as she didn't have to do 'much' organising for her wedding. Her sister was sitting beside her as she told us this....

Not me, but there was a thing on YouTube a while ago where someone leapt up before the speeches at a wedding reception and proposed to his girlfriend. The bride's face was a picture...

At cousin's wedding the best men all brought +1s. None had regular girlfriends. One best man just asked the temp from his office. None of these women were ever seen again and cousin has three people in all her photos who she doesn't know. (Meanwhile all of bride's family relegated to tables at back, including bride's mother! Cousin married weird control freak man.)

Some of these are utterly outrageous!

We had 3 random gate crashers at our wedding. We knew nothing of it until the photo album came back for approval and we couldn't quite suss out who these 3 people were. Turns out we didn't know them at all, they had come to the wrong venue and they didn't realise until after they had their photo taken. They were overheard laughing about their error and apparently enjoyed several "drinks for the road" from the free bar before getting on their way.

My (renowned for being a total CF) Uncle INSISTED on a +1 for his girlfriend who nobody had ever met.
They RSVP'd and then 3 days before the wedding (so after final numbers and monies etc) he emailed to say she'd had to go to Finland (home)
Me: "oh my gosh, I do hope everything's ok"
Him: "yeah, just a holiday."
I wanted to throttle him

Aforementioned uncle rocked up at our traditional (formal) wedding in kaki chinos, an unironed shirt, bumbag, socks and sandals.

The 15 veggie guests meals were dictated by the one (now former) friend and their +1 who had decided to become an evangelical born again vegan between being invited and RSVPing. We could select one "meat" menu for all and one "veggie" menu for all.
So instead of the delicious and varied veggie meals on the menu that we were anticipating serving our guests, we had to select the one vegan option. Fruit starter, stuffed peppers, fruit dessert. Absolutely awful. I STILL regret it because of CF's behaviour at the wedding... This person preached to their entire table during the meal, compared battery farming to the holocaust (I mean WTF?) got smashed and ate meat canapés.
Fucking twat.

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Some people really seem to have no shame!!

Went to get (a centrepiece) and a girl I had never met demanded to know what I was doing because she was taking it home!

I really do struggle with what goes through the mind of folk like this. I can just about get a polite query about something that clearly can never be used again, but just to take whatever you fancy when someone else has paid good money for it??

Call me dense but it just doesn't compute

My xdh was the cf at ours. turned up 20 minutes late to start..fair enough got thru the ceremony and he decides to tell me that rather getting in the wedding car he was going to drive to the reception with his friends so my dad was left riding in the wedding car with me. got ro reception and had to spend 20 minutes standing outside as his cousin was inside with all the guests blessing the room and making all our guests pray for the marriage on entering the room found out she had dismantled the cake and served the middle tier to everyone(could have went for her at this point) and halfway thru reception xdh decided him and his guests were going clubbing leaving me with guests and our 2 week old newborn 🤔 and ppl wonder why it lasted 5 months 😂

*Couple of weeks ahead I asked if I could bring anything (being polite, was obvs going to bring fizz anyway) she asked me to bring a bag of salad to go with the lasagne.

I couldn’t believe it, all this money on a huge wedding of dreams and she was making be bring a bag of salad. Salad. Couple of quid bag of salad. Seemed a really weird thing to be tight on. I went all out and brought two*

Sounds completely reasonable to me. You asked if you could bring anything and they gave you something easy and cheap. I think it was more likely 1 less thing for them to think about rather than anything to do with the money. Really odd thing for you to complain about!

I have another one. I was MoH at a wedding and had a beautiful posy of white roses. It really was quite lovely. I had also arranged to have the brides bouquet freeze dried after the wedding. The reception venue manager caught me on the way in and asked if I wanted her to pop them in water in the fridge to preserve them for the following day, which I did.

Following day, having launched the bride and groom, cleared the assorted guests, made sure everything was sorted, etc, I asked the manager for the flowers. To be told that some random aunt had announced that the bride had said she could have them and taken them with her! Yep, she took the brides bouquet!

How long has it been the rule not to wear black and/or white to a wedding ?! I went to one about 20 years ago in a white blouse and black skirt and hat as it was the smartest outfit I had at the time looks paranoid

Before my nephew's wedding a guest rang up and asked dsis for a "special meal" for her ds (aged 10). It was a buffet so there were varied options, for vegetarians etc. But no, this woman said her ds would eat a fillet steak. When dsis said she didn't think it was possible to cater for this, the woman said she would ring the reception venue to arrange it . Apparently the venue told her no too. Can you imagine one Little Lord Fauntleroy sitting there with fillet steak when all the other guests were having rice salad etc? (Actually it was a gourmet buffet, not a 70s one!)

@MrsPeel Black and white in combination is fine. Traditionally black is the colour for mourning so wearing it to a wedding shows you wish the couple ill/disapprove. A white/cream dress is a no-no as it can look like you are trying to upstage the bride.

I'd say black and white in the right combination is ok! Remember a friend's wedding, middle of summer, at which one (adult) guest wore a black skirt paired with white woollen cable tights that might possibly have looked cute on a toddler, at Christmas.

I think that if you wear un-relieved black to a wedding it's not really the done thing, but it's not completely off to wear black as part of your outfit.
So I had one friend who had a lovely "little black dress" that she wore with a cerise hat and matching jacket and shoes - that was fine, in my opinion.

The wedding after ours at the registry office though - someone rocked up to that in a beige handkerchief dress of minimalist proportions - she was also very tanned so she looked almost naked! For all I know, she might have been the bride - but if she wasn't, I reckon the bride might have been rather put out as all eyes were on this woman!

I was a wedding recently where the mother of the groom wore a long white dress. Everyone was talking about it.

Other CF stories:
A small wedding and the bride’s sister throwing a strop because she and her four kids werent on the top table. Sister wasn’t a bridesmaid despite being asked and the top table was a traditional set up.

My own wedding had my in laws taking it upon themselves (despite having the guest list) to invite four people we had never met to the day. It was a intimate, family only wedding and the people invited were not immediate family and total strangers to us. They didn’t tell us or even ask if they were invited (and it should have been obvious they were not as their names weren’t on the guest list) but my in laws decided to go behind our backs and invite them and tell us it was happening. They even had the cheek to book them hotel rooms.

Needless to say that didn’t happen.

Minor compared to most of these...but MIL insisted on inviting six "close" friends, four of whom we have never heard her mention since. I had never met any of the four. They came to the wedding, not so much as a card from any of them, didn't bother to say hello to us and then left. Combined with four no shows (no warning - nothing afterwards) I remain pissed off to this day that 8 people I would dearly loved to have had there but had no space for could have come

Not massive compared to a lot of people but we had quite a bit of wine left on the tables that we planned to put behind the bar for the evening but some of our lovely guests decided to leave early taking it with them to drink in their hotel. I’d only had one tiny glass so I never got to enjoy the wine we’d spent lots of time carefully choosing.
I still feel quite resentful to the people who did that.