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To ask for your CF wedding tales?

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DuggeeRulz · 04/08/2018 13:56

A guest’s plus one (someone I’d never met before) wore a white mini dress to my wedding. I laughed it off at the time (more focused on getting married!) but lots of people were a bit outraged on my behalf that she wore white.

Anyone got some more lovely tales of CFs trying to steal wedding thunder? I do love a good CF story!

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Loonoon · 04/08/2018 15:19

A friends mum ran off with the photographer halfway through the daughter’s reception. That was over 30 years ago and she hasn’t spoken to her mum since then.

Summernamechange · 04/08/2018 15:21

My friend didn’t invite colleague to wedding (she was invited to evening do). Colleague thought they were much better friends than they were.

However she did turn up at church in a very bright outfit and put herself in the front of every photo.

Rockyrockcake · 04/08/2018 15:26

My brother’s FiL was stealing drink from our bar and loading it into his car. Everyone had a sit down meal after the wedding, but my neighbours did the evening buffet and ran a bar. It was in the village hall. My dad went out for a smoke and caught him loading cates of Brown Ale into his car. The worst thing was that he had a great job, but my dad, who,paid for the wedding, had been out of work for 6 months with cancer,

Limpshade · 04/08/2018 15:26

When my DM remarried, the wedding was held at the local registry office and was very low-key. Me and DSis were not bridesmaids as such, but we did all arrive as a family and DM told us to go ahead and sit in the seats that had been reserved for us on the front row.

Unfortunately when we entered there were already two elderly women sat in our seats. We assumed they were related to the groom and given their age, perhaps needed those seats as they were next to a second, exit door. So we just found seats among the other guests - no problem, it was only a small room.

When DM entered and the celebrant began speaking, clearly the penny dropped for these two women that they were not in the right place as they quickly began hissing and gesticulating wildly at each other, before rustling around under their seats. When they stood up it turned out they each had ARMFULS of plastic Tesco carrier bags (think weekly shop), and they left in a real fuss, banging their bags against the other guests sitting on the aisle seats as they did so. Sadly for my DM, it was all anyone could talk about during the photos!

It still makes me laugh when I think about it. But DMs was the only wedding taking place at that time, so it wasn't like they were missing the wedding they should have been sat at - why they couldn't have just waited 15 minutes and not disrupted the service...

Sugarhunnyicedtea · 04/08/2018 15:28

SIL drank our very expensive bottle of champagne (gift from friends) that had been put on a table for us. Denied it but she was seen. I hope it was warm

RoboticSealpup · 04/08/2018 15:28

Actually, come to think of it, a friend (who, to be fair, had travelled a very long way to attend, but I had spent a whole evening with her when she arrived) spent the whole reception moaning at me and guilt-tripping me for not making enough time for her when I also had 79 other guests to make time for, including my divorced parents who I don't see very often as we live in different countries but who do not like being near one another. At the end of the evening she got drunk and me how great my life was compared to hers and slurred something that sounded like she "didn't know if she wanted to live anymore", although I wasn't sure. Confused

I felt bad for her but I was also pissed off that she added stress to my wedding day.

BrazenHusky74 · 04/08/2018 15:30

At my wedding a bridesmaid's husband got so drunk after drinking all the dregs out of any glass he found (not necessary, it was a free bar) that he spent the evening vomiting into all the empty glasses at a dining table, in full view of everyone. His brother, who was also a guest, took the full glasses away and returned them washed for him to fill again.
It was disgusting, but also very impressive, he was capable of controlling the flow so that no glass overflowed.

AveABanana · 04/08/2018 15:31

We had a guest rock up in jeans and a fleece for a country manor house hotel wedding with sit-down meal etc. Jeans and a fleece I tell you.

UpstartCrow · 04/08/2018 15:34

Family wedding, Other Woman turned up. Grooms face was like a slapped arse.
I've seen that at a family funeral as well.

eggsandwich · 04/08/2018 15:37

Someone we know was eating a bag of chips at the back of the church as bride and groom walked back down the aisle, I was a bit Shock when I looked at her, we were having a sit down meal shortly after.

lacticacti · 04/08/2018 15:38

MOB had a crying-storm-off-dramatic meltdown because the groom was so choked up and emotional during his speech he had to stop a third of the way through and just thank everyone (it was actually lovely to see how happy and emotional marrying his wife had made him) because she had 'put a lot of effort into her speech' and he clearly hadn't 🤔 she was just as ridiculous the entire run up to the wedding too, extremely demanding (insisted her 4 buddies from work could come and they should come on the hen AND they should get top table) and just all round childish.

LaBelleSausage · 04/08/2018 15:43

My cousin wore a floor length champagne coloured gown to my wedding.
From the Phase 8 bridal section.
You know, wedding dresses for the Bride, not wedding guest dresses Hmm

Some of DH’s old uni friends who I hadn’t met before were evening guest only. More than one congratulated her.

Not as bad though as a wedding we went to where the ceremony had run late. The original plan was for speeches before dinner but they moved them to afterwards as the food was ready.
The brides father was so annoyed that when the time came to do his speech he stood up, said ‘well done you for getting what you wanted, like always’ and then walked out and didn’t come back.

Annonymiss123 · 04/08/2018 15:48

Family wedding, Other Woman turned up. Grooms face was like a slapped arse.
I've seen that at a family funeral as well.

😲😱

TakeAChanseyOnMe · 04/08/2018 16:03

There’s a mother and daughter in my home town that go to everyone’s weddings in the local church. My neighbour had a very tiny wedding (immediate family only) in a small church in the parish and they were even at that!

Littlecaf · 04/08/2018 16:05

At my friends civil partnership 10 years ago, another friend couldn’t decide which plus one to bring, her actual boyfriend (who’s name was on the invite) or the bloke she’d just met on holiday......the grooms were not pleased! She brought the bloke she’d just met...... he was nice but he didn’t know anyone as it was a bit awkward when one of grooms’ mums asked “how is boyfriend X....”

Fast forward 10 years and the couple in question ‘upgrade’ their partnership to a marriage. This time the same friend mentions to another mutual friend she is bringing her current boyfriend - another one we all thought she’d split up with. Cue the grooms’ saying “erm but as you’ve split up, he isn’t invited, his name wasn’t on the invite. Erm, sorry”. Not sure she realised that guests don’t get a random plus one for every event.... Hmm

TakeAChanseyOnMe · 04/08/2018 16:05

I think it’s ok for mothers to wear white if the bride is ok with it. My mum wore an ivory dress at my wedding, it was nothing like a wedding dress though!

At my cousins wedding, a guest wore an orange strapless dress. Unfortunately for her, it was almost identical to what the bridesmaids were wearing! She was a girlfriend of one of the ushers too. She felt very awkward! This is why I wear patterned clothes to weddings.

bokkleorandoove · 04/08/2018 16:10

My friend got married a few years ago and her two daughters were bridesmaids, wearing ivory colored dresses to match her ivory wedding dress. Quite tasteful. Her sister in law and her daughter turned up in matching purple bridesmaid dresses (horrible crinkly things from the 90s) and ended up looking like they were the bridesmaids in all the photos as they really stood out. My friend was fuming but didn’t say anything.

TakeAChanseyOnMe · 04/08/2018 16:18

@bokkleorandoove they would horrible!

DH’s aunt messaged me before our wedding to make sure the dress she was buying for her 7 year old daughter wouldn’t make her look like a flower girl! We had a small wedding so didn’t have any attendants.

cadburyegg · 04/08/2018 16:19

Both of my bridesmaids took over the whole dressing room with their stuff so I had nowhere to get ready. One of them had stuffed her bridesmaid dress into a rucksack. She then asked me to take pictures of her getting ready so she could send them to her Mum . I then made her a cup of tea (why?) Her bra was showing underneath her dress, my mum is handy with a needle and safety pin so asked her if she wanted her to fix it. She could have just said no thanks but had to follow it up with “women wear bras so you’ll have to get over it”. I might not have minded so much if her bra wasn’t purple (light green dress).

One of my friends got ridiculously drunk, tripped up over my dress and told me off.

My half brother left straight after the ceremony.

cadburyegg · 04/08/2018 16:23

Oh, the worst one was my dad deciding an hour beforehand that he wasnt going to do a speech (he said he would beforehand). Luckily my mum gave an amazing one that she made up on the spot!

thecatsthecats · 04/08/2018 16:23

Oh dear.

I was chatting to a friend with anxiety problems the other day about what she's going to wear to my wedding, and after I said she could wear white if she wanted, she did say she had a white dress that she felt comfortable in. She really does feel very nervous in certain social situations, so I said that was the important thing and she should wear it.

It's only just occurred to me that she's my fiance's ex! Grin I have no problem with it as she's my friend obviously, but I suppose it won't help her anxiety if other people make a thing of it.

RaptorInaPorkPieHat · 04/08/2018 16:26

Two of our guests were literally cheeky fuckers.

In the ladies loos.

The woman's husband was on the dance floor at the time. Shock

cadburyegg · 04/08/2018 16:27

At a friend’s wedding, one of her other friends told the bride “your hair looks nice but you look like shit”

haribosmarties · 04/08/2018 16:33

RE white dresses: my friend turned up at my wedding in a short cream lace shift dress with bare legs and cream ballet shoes.... my bridesmaids were pretty much wearing the exact same outfit except the pattern of the lace was different... but of course you could only see that up close so she did spend the day looking like an extra bridesmaid whod lost her flowers somewhere lol

That is why you shouldnt wear plain white or cream of any length to a wedding!

I wasnt angry or anything because she didnt have a clue what the bridesmaids would be wearing so its not like shed done it on purpose.. just perhaps been a little thoughtless about her outfit

DSHathawayGivesMeFannyGallops · 04/08/2018 16:34

Best friends wedding had a few low level moments. Her mum turned up in a cream dress & dress-coat. Couldn't be mistaken for her daughter but looks a bit off in pics.

Same DM had a shit fit that the 2 BMs had been asked to witness the wedding and not her. The groom's father was dying, so his parents couldn't attend. B&G had thought this was fairer as they couldn't equally ask a parent each. Ended up with the bride's DM & a random great aunt of the groom who looked like she'd gone through a hedge backward & really looked awkward/like she'd have planned a posher dress if she thought she'd be in the featured people pictures.

Frenemy of the bride, on hearing the colour scheme "oh I'm wearing that colour to your wedding". Erm.... you've got a year to find another dress! She later sulked because her new bf wasn't invited and turned up in a huge, view obstructing, hat & a dress that matched the wedding colour. We hemmed her in so she couldn't catch the bouquet.