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AIBU to not do this favour for old neighbour?

119 replies

Forgodsakethinkofthekids · 04/08/2018 11:53

Hi all,
Haven’t posted much before but am a long time AIBU appreciator!
I wondered what your perspective would be on this situation.

I used to have a neighbour across the road who moved house around 2 years ago. We were on polite terms but nothing more.
Her kids were totally different ages to mine- my boys were 10 day 11 and she had a baby and a toddler.

Anyway, haven’t seen her for ages and today a note isn’t popped through my door. The house she has moved to is just out the catchment for our local primary and she wonders if I would let her use my address so she can get her eldest a place. She’s left her mobile etc and says this is her last attempt as she’s been refused at an appeal meeting. She also says how her mum pick something her daughters cousins up there and if she’s doesnt get her in she will be really stuck for childcare.

I spoke to my husband and he says
It’s a really bad idea.

I’ve always been a people pleaser but this from a virtual stranger is odd isn’t it?!

OP posts:
BunnyCarr · 05/08/2018 03:41

What a CF!
So glad you said no.
Once she's rumbled, and it would be inevitable, she'd just stand aside and let you take the fall for this.

Monty27 · 05/08/2018 03:54

Does she think you are a mug? Cheeky fucker even deserves a full name.
A. It's fraud
B. She should have thought of that before
she moved.
C. Why is she asking you to do it?
D. Tell her to fuck off because she's an asshole Angry

Mmer · 05/08/2018 04:12

Just for that lovely response from her, I would inform the school.

BedtimeTea · 05/08/2018 04:21

How rude of her sending the last text with rolling eyes, her reply should have been something like "Fair enough, I understand, thanks for your time"

tildaMa · 05/08/2018 04:23

A whole new level of cheekyfuckery.
This is not a favour, it's fraud.

I'd be sending copies of this to the school.

luckycat007 · 05/08/2018 05:21

@Forgodsakethinkofthekids not harsh at all : it's not your problem. You have no reason to feel obligated to this person.

Nomad86 · 05/08/2018 07:49

We live by a school where even catchment kids don't always get in (realistically you have to live within 0.4 miles). We had an email recently saying people have been lying about addresses and encouraging people to call in if they have information.

mydogishot · 05/08/2018 08:17

I live a very good catchment area too.
Had a few people ask if they can "move in".

All met with the dead eyed silent stare until they realise the errors of their ways.

Have you thought about contacting the school?

They would be interested in sure especially if they suddenly arrive announced that they are living on the doorstep.

I'd do that but I'm a bitch Grin

Fluffyears · 05/08/2018 13:56

She can go to her own catchment school. That’s how it works in Scotland you go to your catchment school unless there is a space at another. My friend came to ours as her nearest school was awful but her mum had to go through various meetings etc first.

GinghamChicken · 05/08/2018 14:53

Misses the point but 'chuck it in the fuck it bucket'? I just have to find the opportunity to use this sentence! Grin

Elephant14 · 05/08/2018 20:09

Gingham if you pop over to NetHuns you'll be able to slot that in anywhere. HTH. !!

Monty27 · 06/08/2018 04:43

There's a lot of it around atm elephant.
Sigh

annastasiabeaverhausen · 06/08/2018 06:30

@Elephant14 is that a common nethun's saying? Confused. Misses the point of the thread

Elephant14 · 06/08/2018 16:18

anna its a bit like hubs and LOL, bit naff. Sort of thing NetHuns would post on their facebook pages and then everyone comes on and says "wos up hun you ok" and hun comes back and says "just sayin some people karma will get dem PM me"

And all that sort of carry on. We're definitely missing point of thread !!

annastasiabeaverhausen · 07/08/2018 04:55

@Elephant14 ah I see I see. I didn't know they were allowed to say fuck on nethuns. Grin

Greenyogagirl · 07/08/2018 05:03

I’d be so tempted to reply ‘you’re welcome!’

Shampooeeee · 07/08/2018 05:08

I would photocopy the letter and send it to the school.

Monty27 · 07/08/2018 05:40

Absolutely elephant
Just like yesterday and the day before and the day before. Confused

Ninabean17 · 07/08/2018 08:16

Glad you said no! If she texts you again, tell her you'll send the school a screenshot of everything. that's what I'd do

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