I've just been a complete twat...

[AllRoadsLeadBackToRadley]

I think, anyway! Not sure now! So I'll put it to the MN jury...and I'll happily apologize, because I have the ability to own my shit.

Chatting to a friend about going out tonight (after the week I've had, I bloody deserve it!)

She started on a massive stretch about me claiming PIP to "piss it up the wall", I obviously need the disposible income, etc, etc. It was really bitchy!

She's made catty comments in the past, but tbh I thought that was down to me- I have a weird sense of humor, and take the piss out of myself all the time. But never like this.

She said that, if I was independant enough to go out alone (I'll be meeting a friend, but eill be making my own way) I shouldn't be claiming Personal INDEPENDANCE Payment, and that "I'm what's wrong with the government atm!

I sent her a REALLY sarky text in reply, but it's made me doubt myself!

I need to calm down...

PIP can be awarded for all sorts of reasons, but it can be very very difficult to win your claim for The fact that the notoriously difficult DSS/"independent" board has deemed you worthy of receiving PIP says it all to me.Those who matter in an official capacity say yea. Tell her to bloody well take it up with them.

I’m also surrounded by arm chair occupational therapists in my birth family. Ofcourse its all true. I have munchausens. 🙄

No no no. Not an invisible disability at all. Cos I’m not disabled. And to prove the point that I’m not, my brother (apart from threatening me with violence and pushing me over) drove off with me leaning on his car as I was unable to move. I fell to the ground unsurprisingly. But of course. That was just me attention seeking. Prick.

Fuck what’s wrong with the country at the moment. You are exactly what’s wrong with this country. All non able bodied people should have been segregated at the first glimpse of disability to stop this nonsense from spreading. Far simpler all round.

Do you work together? Hope not that could be awkward
You are well shot of a v v v shitty person
It's not like you got pip for a hidden controversial problem but you're god dammed blind
You sound great , enjoy your life and stay away from toxic people

No. You've not been a twat, she's being a bitch. Ditch her.
The clue is in the 'I' - it's to help you achieve independence and do the things that other people enjoy, like going out.
Tell her to do one.

I have an ex-friend who was a volunteer for CAB. She loved to bitch about the clients. I think that's why she did the job, just so she could feel better about herself. Truly awful.

AllRoads you are my new hero and wish I could steal your line to midwife. unlikely now because bits have dried up due to lack of use However, my family is complete. I will keep in mind for others. Also, would fancy any inside out soiled/holed clothing to cuddle up with use as dusters. Us sighted fuckers never stop dusting - at least that's what I tell my MIL x

She's probably pissed off, that being a twat isnt classed as a disability..

She is a massive twat too.

i love you op-sorry not a constructive post

hope you had a good time last night

WOW... WOW... WOOOOW!!!! She is no friend if she is thinking that & i’d have said way worse to her face never mind a txt!
Honestly the cheek of some people. I can’t even bring myself to apply for pip due to how ill I get just thinking about filling the forms in let alone the hoops they will make me jump through to prove to them I am ill! I have a full diagnosis, my doctor is qualified to give me that diagnosis & your a jumped up pen pusher who will tick the yes or no box depending on how your quota is for the day! No thanks right now 😤☹️😔😭

Some people will not be happy until everyone in receipt of benefits lives out their days in an empty room staring at a brick wall. Ignore.

I love this thread

The clue is in the name really PIP (Personal INDEPENDENCE Payment) you get the money to be more independent and help you get out and about! Disability shamming is shocking if the government doesn’t means test PIP then she shouldn’t! Like there could be millionaires on it in theory 🤷‍♀️ You were yanbu but your friend was!

Also my DH is blind too and it helps massively with him being able to work and him not to feel like he is reliant on me or anyone else! You’re just as entitled to have fun and live your life as anyone else!

Radley I think the one to the midwife was a little harsh, it made me slightly uncomfortable, the text to your friend? I've been known to rant like that. I had to explain to DH why DS 27 couldn't make his own supper (cystic fibrosis, permanently knackered).

DS 27 spends his PIP on Lego...

Ah, aspie as well, I've recently been diagnosed as autistic, and I can't resist having a rant. Maybe it's an autistic thing?

She is not a friend. She probably never was, ditch and move on.

I've just been to a PIP face2face meeting to prove my leg hasn't grown back. The DWP have acknowledged that it hasn't but they want to check again in 2022 just to make sure it hasn't. You couldn't make it up!

YWNBU, and you weren't to the midwife either
Too many twats think people on benefits shouldjust pull themselves together or eat beans and veg they have foraged themselves, wear hair shirts and sleep on the floor.
Food banks:
Try to avoid tins. A bag or two of them is very heavy, for someone who may have no car so need to lug them on public transport or walk. Some people using the food bank may have conditions that mean they find this difficult/ painful/ exhausting. Poverty grinds you down too, insufficient snd/ ir crap food, walking everywhere, the sheer mental energy worrying about money, everything is more difficult. Some may not have a tin opener or money to buy one, or be able to use one safely. Packet soup, pot noodle, rice or pasta that you either add boiling water or microwave, pots of fruit in jelly or liquid rather than tins, those pots of no-drain tuna with seasoning John West etc do...for the love of gods please no drain tuna, they may not have a sieve and frankly if you live in a hostel room or bedsit the liquid stinks the place out. I'm not saying never donate tins, of course. Just that there are alternatives.

Blind and spergy – perfect combo, nobody expects you to give eye contact :-D

@Dhalandchips 🤣🤣🤣

If there were a PIP category for lack of empathy, she would be a millionaire (ok, she'd get 100 quid a week)

Just ignore her, she obviously doesn’t have a clue stupid woman, my massive moan and what pisses me off more than life itself is when people say to me. “ you are so lucky getting a brand new car every 3 years.”.... yes sure I am, however I would give absolutely ANYTHING to be able to walk and take my grandson on the beach, or be able to get into every where I want to go, or stop needing 24/7 care from my wonderful husband etc etc, some people are just plain ignorant to other people’s feelings.

Supposed 😂

I’m minded of the woman who bollocked my lovely, painfully shy, intensely private Mum for “taking up the disabled toilet” for apparently no good reason in our local library.

What that fucking awful bint had no idea of was that my Mum had just endured 3 months of radiotherapy, a radical hysterectomy, bowel and bladder removal and had gone into the disabled toilet with my DD (first day she’d felt able to take her out alone) so she could change her stoma bags without worrying about offending other people in the ladies toilet.

It had taken Mum weeks to build up the courage to go out on her own with DD and that poisonous bitch left her so distraught she never did it again.

I guess the point is that none of us really ever know what other people are going through and that a little bit of decency goes a long bloody way!