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AIBU?

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To think adults sharing rooms with their grown children is odd?

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Gravitatewhere12 · 01/08/2018 22:54

My colleague booked a holiday today for her, her husband and their 32 year old daughter. She was annoyed because the hotel she wanted didn’t have any rooms for three adults. It turns out the three of them always share a room. They always go on expensive, long haul holidays, seem to go business class (said just to demonstrate that they don’t share the room because they can afford nothing else).

My friend’s boyfriend goes away with his parents every year and they share a room too. She’s been invited but declined, largely because they were expecting her to share the room with them too.

AIBU to think it’s really odd for grown adults to be sharing rooms with their parents on holiday?

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crazydoglady6867 · 02/08/2018 07:20

I think families are all different. I remember stopping at a friends house one night and I got up in the morning and she wasn’t there so I got up and there she was sat in her mum and dad’s bed with them all drinking a cup of tea!!! She was 23/24 years old and I said you don’t have to do that I wasn’t asleep, and she said oh we often sit in here on s Sunday morning! Everyone to their own.

Babdoc · 02/08/2018 07:22

I’m widowed, and when I holiday with my adult DDs we often share a room. It’s a nice chance to catch up and chat and have some of the togetherness we shared while I was raising them alone from babyhood.
It also means we can afford a luxury hotel! Three separate rooms would be extortionate.

BolleauxtoBankers · 02/08/2018 07:24

I wish we could afford not to, and so does our adult daughter, I'm sure! We try to get "family" rooms, which have a bit more space and enough beds for three of us, but still work out a lot cheaper than paying for another separate bedroom or a suite. If it's that or not have a holiday with our daughter at all, I'll take the sharing a room, we've done it all our life since we had her!

immortalmarble · 02/08/2018 07:28

Blimey, I’ve shared a bed with my adult DD

I am going away next week and will be sharing a room (though not a bed) with my adult DS. I’m not made of money!

runningkeenster · 02/08/2018 07:29

I agree it's not weird to save money, I shared a room with my mum earlier in the year because two rooms were ridiculously expensive but on another trip we did together we had separate rooms. It also depends if its for one night or longer - one night is fine.

Years ago I went away with my parents when I was in my early 20s and had to share a room, wasn't very impressed but my father was tight-fisted. On the plus side there was a bit of an alcove that my bed was in, so I had a bit of privacy.

When we go away we try to have a suite or larger room so ds (15) has some privacy too. It can be quite difficult finding family rooms in some hotels because they don't want you to have them if your child(ren) is/are over 12 because presumably they want to charge you for 2 rooms.

xotyl · 02/08/2018 07:51

Oh good god no. I wouldn't go on holiday if it was more comfortable to be at home. Bad enough sharing with dh! Really wouldn't want to miss out on holiday sex. This is probably why we have pretty much always hired a villa rather than stayed in hotels.

serbska · 02/08/2018 07:52

I share a room with my mum if the two of us go away together to a hotel. Single supplements are expensive! If we go to an AirBnB I’ll book a 2 bedroom tho.

serbska · 02/08/2018 07:54

Oh and we’re flying business because I’ve used my flying club miles to upgrade us both...

OliviaStabler · 02/08/2018 07:55

I've done this on a cruise. They had a large cabin that slept three adults. If we had to book two separate cabins , it would have cost a great deal more than it actually did as I'd also have to pay a single supplement.

There were no issues, I have very fond memories of that holiday.

greenlynx · 02/08/2018 08:41

I wouldn’t share a room with my parents and I wouldn’t go on holiday with them even if we are in separate rooms. They are really bad in keeping boundaries and too interfering. I have no problem with sharing a room with my own DD now and for the future but our relationship is different.

JaceLancs · 02/08/2018 08:48

I often share a room on holiday or even bed with adult DC - partly cost partly company
If all 3 of us go away together we book 2 bed apartments and often swap round
If they bring partners I wouldn’t dream of sharing
Last year we rented a 5 bed villa so had rooms to spare

MrsAidanTurner · 02/08/2018 08:58

I had one night in a family room and I hated it years ago due to space.
I think it could be cost related

mildshock · 02/08/2018 11:54

If it were just my mum and I on holiday, then I'd share with her.

I have also shared a room with DPs Mum (DP wasn't there), but if we were together, or if our mums were with partners, then we'd get separate rooms.

The only time we have shared a room (me, DP, DPs Mum and his sister) was because our DS was in hospital for emergency surgery and we were so far away from home, that they'd given us a room specifically for hospitalised children's families. DPs Mum and sister drove 7 hours to be there for us.

But no way we'd share a room as a group on holiday.

S0fasurferz · 02/08/2018 15:23

I've shared rooms with family and friends. I travel slot, it keeps the cost down

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