irrelevant details, fed up, is it just me?

[JoanFrenulum]

With DH mostly. I ask him to do a thing, I don't want a blow-by-blow account of exactly how he's doing the thing. I just asked him to sort out seats on a flight so that he, I and DD are all sat together. So he gave me this stream of consciousness through the entire process, down to telling me how he's deciding between calling customer service on the phone or on Skype. I DON'T FUCKING CARE. AIBU? I asked him to do it because I had loads of other things to take care of; if I'd wanted to know about all the details I would have done it myself.

I stayed nice but am boiling inside. Or, also today, over lunch with relatives he treated us all to a blow-by-blow account in real time of him figuring out when his next colonoscopy is, right down to looking up the time difference between time zones. NOBODY CARES WHEN YOU ARE GETTING YOUR ARSE INSPECTED. SPECIALLY NOT AT LUNCH ON HOLIDAY.

He's basically a pretty good bloke. How do I say "For the love of god spare me the liveblog" without sounding like a bitch?

OK maybe I am being a bit U but I need to vent somewhere or I'll say something mean IRL, and I really truly don't know how to ask him to tone down the granularity of the commentary without sounding mean.

Hahaha! There is literally no response you can give to people reading road signs.

The worst of it is that ds2 has noticed and also noticed that it winds me up, so has started doing it on purpose to bug me.

Crying with laughter at this thread. I rather suspect I might be a bit guilty at times

YANBU!!! Although I have to say I think it's so much worse working in close promoting to someone like this all day.

I used to work with a lady who would do this ALL FUCKING DAY LONG.

She'd wait for me to finish a phone call, hanging around my desk (which I also hate) to tell me she was going for a wee in case anyone called, not for a special phone call or anything- she'd do this every couple of hours!

She could have been and gone for a pee in the time she stood there at my desk!
She was absolutely infuriating but a nice person besides her annoying habits, which made it even more annoying because I couldn't even dislike her!!!!

Proximity*!

Hebe, my Mum does that!

Random observations like, oooh house for sale, oooh a tractor, oooh nice dog, oooh that man is fat, oooh George (neighbour) managed to get his car parked, oooh Pat and Terry (neighbours) are home, oooh Tony (neighbour) has gone out, oooh road closed, oooh a shop selling curtains.

Just endless.

Years ago I worked in a bar. There was one man who came in who obviously saw himself as a teller of tales. Every single thing he talked about had to be dragged out, no detail too small to include, and he could bore for medals. I was trapped behind the bar. My heart used to sink when I saw him come through the door, and of course, I had to be polite and listen.

It's definalty down to the telling.
I have friend who is brilliant story teller, raconteur I have low boredom threshold but have listened to his stories on repeat for year, 😂😂 fil on the other hand can only talk in deadly serious, road names times, stats..

Harold😂😂😂

Oh reading signs! My dad, OH and daughter all do this! It drives me mad! And it’s so distracting when I’m driving. I think they’re alerting me to something but no, they’re reading out a bloody sign!

BTW it affects other species as well.
I used to have a cat who often ran a commentary on her life. Obviously in meows not words, so was quite adorable :)

Cat jumps on chair - meow - jumps from chair to window sill - meow - walks to other end of window sill - meow - jumps on the fridge - meow - sits down - meow - gets up - meow - jumps off the fridge - meow - walks to fountain - meow - drinks - meow - goes to check the food bowl - meow - walks to middle of kitchen - meow - notices a fly and turns into silent hunter - chomp.

This is so funny! I definitely do this. I just like a lot of background to stories, stories I’m hearing or stories I’m telling. It helps me picture things. It sends DH into a FRENZY OF RAGE!!! Esp as my mum is the same and we can chat for HOURS, often repeating stories we have told each other many times, while my dad ignores us and well-brought-up DH feels he has to look interested.

It’s just a pleasant burble to drown out my greatest enemy.....silence!

Hebemumsnet I know someone who missed a turn off on a road they travelled on several times a year for over a decade because the landmark was some house's curtains and one year the owner of the house changed her curtains.

I remember standing at my father's open grave after the service and my uncle - his brother - regaling me for at least 20 minutes about the price of organic chickens in various outlets of his county. I've no idea why.

My DH is also a details person whilst I am big picture person. I quite often mistaken the point of what he's saying because I zone out

tilda- my cat never. Shuts. Up
He goes outside then comes racing back in "miaow. Chirrup. Miaow. Howl. Chirrup"
I'm like "yes another cat looked at you, how interesting"

My dh does not pick up a thread so after explaining it in detail so I include all the relevant details he tells me to get to the point. He also gets derailed...
I spoke to Jeanie today and she said Dave is going to the carshow and wants you to go with him. Can you call him?
Who's Jeanie?
How many jeanies do you know?
Well one but you may know more than one.
I only know one Jeannie and Dave
Well it may be someone new.how am I supposed to know?
Dave is your best friend. He has been married to Jeanie for thirty years.
Will you ring Dave to let him know?
Know about what?
Whether you want to go with him
When is it?
Ring Dave and ask him
Did Jeanie call you or did you call her?
What difference does that make?
Did she call you on your mobile?
?
Who is driving?
When is Dave getting his MOT?
?????
You don't seem to know much. Why didn't you ask?
Ring fecking Dave!
On his mobile or landline?
JUST RING him...it doesn't matter which phone.
Don't get snarky, it's not my fault you know feck all.
Sigh

Sometimes i share the detail because i want to share the responsibility.
I do all the organising in my marriage. I started doing it be ause dh was so shit that things kept going tits up but now i begin to resent it.
We were discussing some restructuring of our debt the other day. Its joint finances, i had looked into options but dh needs to make some calls. I was explaining the option i thought was best and he actually interrupted me to say 'can i leave this all up to you? I'll give you my passwords etc and then you can make the decisions.' He said it like he was doing me a favour! But was basically saying, 'dont tell me about this, it's not my job and I'm not interested.'

But perhaps i wouldn't mind that if ALL the organising weren't my job... Hmm

I was left speechless this week when my DM, who could Waffle for her Country, treated me to a 47 minute monologue on the topic of...wait for it...how much her mother waffles on... 🤣.

I’ve made this post deliberately brief... I’ve got to be careful obviously!

I moved to a country where it’s a national fucking sport! DH, his mum, people at events, shop man, neighbour at fence. Sometimes I stand there trying to go to my happy place and I look at them and all I hear is ‘blobbedy bloop. Blabbedy blob’ over and over.

Please people who do this, don’t fucking do this. It’s not even funny.

Omg. DH does this and I always thought I was BU for getting so wound up! I can't tell you how delighted I am to find this thread!

Any suggestions on how I make him aware without hurting his feelings? He can be a bit sensitive at times!

Hideandgo which country?! I think I live there too!

Of course this is now a thread where it's impossible to respond without sounding just like the original cause for complaint

Last night was a new low with DH telling me every time he was about to go take a shit. I started saying "cool story bro." He didn't notice yet.

This reminds me of one of my favourite parts in Still Game.

Isa is prattling on and on about something and Winston, exasperated, holds out his hand in front of him and mimes pushing a button over and over again.

Confused Isa stops mid sentence and asks what he’s doing.

His response? “I’m trying to fast forward to the point”.

CisMyAss , love it!

Olli - does he reply then?
Mine did, we had proper conversations sometimes. Current cats are not chatty and I actually miss that a bit.