to keep on worrying about the height of my ds?

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He is now 14 and only 145cm tall. He is really small compared to his friends and his 10 yo sister has caught up to him. He is coping well but it starts to frustrate him more and more that the growth spurt isn’t coming.

He has been tested and there is no medical issue. He just has a delayed bone age and combined with the fact that hubby and me are somewhat below average (165 and 175), he is really small. He should however suddenly get a growth spurt, but it cannot be predicted when… That is why I keep worrying, because as long as it hasn’t happened, well... it hasn’t happened..

Does anyone of you know kids who were small like my ds and who have grown a lot in their later teens?

And also, aren’t kids huge compared to when we were young? I mean my dd has two friends who are just 9 and a lot taller than her. In general the kids in her class appear huge compared to when I was that age…

confusedmummy76 .. and why do you feel sorry for tall girls ?????

yes why sorry for tall girls, there is nothing wrong with tall girls...

I cannot answer for anybody else but on occasions when very tall women have drawn attention to my height, I've thought to myself, I won't say this because it would be pointless, confrontational, hurtful, but I'd rather be my height than yours. The number of times I've NOT said that when I've been teased about being short (5'2'') by tall women who believe that 5'8'' is normal and 5'11 is tall. I deviate from the average relatively little but am considered way below average only by very tall women. Tall men tend to say nothing. Probably cos they're not ruling any woman out.
I have to say though most tall women never mention height and neither would I. I wouldn't be bouncing up to any tall woman like a puppy saying omg, we've so much in common both deviating from the norm so much. After my 20s I stopped thinking about my height.

*ya

YaLoVeras .. you aren't making a lot of sense to be honest !

Yalo
I'd never comment on height. The first thing (usually older people I have to say,) used to say to me on meeting, was aren't you tall: in an incredulous, you are a total freak tone. Im 5ft10. If it happens now I say either "hmm social etiquette isn't your thing is it" or "how rude, would you say arent you fat when meeting someone?". Cue profuse apologies. It used to bother me, but now I think it's a non subtle put down & they can sod off.

I went to school with a boy who was 5ft 5 until the age of 16, then I saw him again a few years later in our late teens and he was nearly 6ft! Late bloomer maybe?

I was always one of the shortest few in my year (I was also in the year above my age). In the last year of 6th form (so 16/17) I caught up and overtook in height ending up being taller than many who I'd started the year being shorter than, and I grew a bit taller still over the summer (Pair of jeans I bought with first pay packet on leaving in June looked silly by September )

My DH is 5'4. He doesn't care at all and neither do I (5'7). Height is bollocks.

My boyfriend is 5’5. He has an amazing gf (me), loads of friends and is very successful in his chosen career.

Build up his self-confidence, that's the main thing. Men can end up insecure if a big deal is made of it.

Perhaps enrol him in martial arts classes, think about roles in sports where being a bit smaller is an advantage and gently nudge him in those directions.

Barring that and making sure there isn't a health problem, there isn't much else you can do.

My husband has a chinese background and at school he was very short for a long time, much shorter than me, he didn't have a growth spurt until 15/16 and is now 6ft. I suspect our DS may have the same issue and have a late growth spurt in his teens, it does concern me that he may find it frustrating, for example; not being able to go on certain ride at theme parks (especially if going with a group of friends who are tall).

My stepbrother was exceptionally tiny throughout childhood and late teens, whereas I reached my current height of 5’9” at age 12. I don’t remember his exact height, but he is 4 years older than me, and when he was 16 (and I 12), he could stand below my arms straight up without stooping, and there was still plenty of room. One of my best friends, who was the smallest girl in my class, was still a lot taller than him. That wasn’t always easy because people always assumed I was much older than him while it was the opposite. I can’t say though that he had too many problems, because he didn’t like sports and he was more interested in school and drama. So his strengths had nothing to with height. He could play a little boy at age 16, so it was actually a plus for him. Also he was very much liked by everyone (including me). He started growing after his 17th birthday and grew until 22, to arrive at 5’7”, so 2” shorter than me. I am happy to tell you that his small size in his youth hasn’t affected him, because he is a very nice, confident man. So don’t worry too much and let your ds grow at his own rate (not that you can change much)