Naked MIL

[Wrongintherightway]

MIL had ds1 & ds2 for a few hours recently to help out with childcare in school holidays (not a regular arrangement). Ds1 came home and said gran was walking round naked! It turns out she had gone for a mid morning shower and was walking about naked (indoors obvs)

AIBU to think this is not acceptable, ds1 is 12 and ds2 is 7?

[daisyinatree]

@wrongintherightway



MIL had ds1 & ds2 for a few hours recently to help out with childcare in school holidays (not a regular arrangement). Ds1 came home and said gran was walking round naked! It turns out she had gone for a mid morning shower and was walking about naked (indoors obvs)

AIBU to think this is not acceptable, ds1 is 12 and ds2 is 7?

Very inappropriate and weird. But you will always get a raft of people on here telling you that granny flashing her tits and bits in front of the grandkids is PERFECTLY normal!!!

These are the same people who think sunbathing topless in their back garden in ok, and the neighbours should suck it up because it's their RIGHT to sunbathe in the buff!

Meanwhile, in the real world, NO-ONE thinks it's acceptable or normal.

[BertrandRussell]

Passive aggressive, neglectful, possibly a paedophile, suffering memory loss and an exhibitionist.

[Bluelady]

We're all in the real world and some of us think it isn't a big deal.

[BertrandRussell]

For the avoidance of doubt, "flashing her tits and bits" is unacceptable.

[Occamsrazorblade]

At what age should the grandmother stop, if ever? Is it ok for the boys to walk around naked in front of the grandmother?

[Occamsrazorblade]

If so, at what age should the boys stop?

[PositivelyPERF]

Passive aggressive, neglectful, possibly a paedophile, suffering memory loss and an exhibitionist.

Is your mil’s second name Bradley, OP? 😁

[Occamsrazorblade]

I think the issue here is the the 12 year old at least wasn’t comfortable with it, so the grandmother should be told to keep her clothes on in front of him.

[Bluntness100]

Yeah it's not ok. In fact it's quite odd she did it, especially in front of her 12 year old grandson.

I think your husband should have a word, it's his mother. Just explain the kids feel uncomfortable with seeing their grandmother naked. Or don't leave them with her again if she's going to flash them.

[UpTheBumNoBabies]

So she went from the bathroom to her bedroom and DS managed to see a glimpse of her......

Fuck me.... You'd better call the police and social services OP and have her done for child abuse and pedophilia 😂😂

Or how about just chat to her and say 'DS saw you in the nuddy the other day and was a bit embarrassed. Not sure if you knew or not'.


Some people on here are seriously off their heads.

[MsJolly]

Really inappropriate.

What I would do would depend on whether she's going to be looking after them again. If not, I'd leave it but if she is I would just say that your 12yr old had told you she was wandering round naked before and after her shower and was embarrassed. And that you'd like her to cover up whilst they are there.

[SophieGiroux]

At least he will have seen a real naked body as opposed to all the airbrushed porn images he's likely to see in the near future!

[Occamsrazorblade]

SophieGiroux

Wtf?

[Bluntness100]

At least he will have seen a real naked body as opposed to all the airbrushed porn images he's likely to see in the near future!

WTAF? That's his grandmother.

[MsJolly]

WTF @sophie not sure comparing their granny to a porn star is quite right!

[Xenia]

Before you join this family you are told we sometimes go to nudist beaches and have no problems with walking around at home with nothing on. So no one would be shocked. However I do try to make sure I cover up if there is anyone not in the famly here and usually everyone else too who I think may have some kind of hang up about bodies. One of the bigger problems for 12 year olds these days is they only see Love Island type bodies so I suspect MIL is actually benefiting not burdening the youngster here unless she's a former miss world.

[Occamsrazorblade]

This thread has taken a weird turn

[merlotmummy14]

10 and under would maybe be fine but a 12 y/o seeing that is definitely inappropriate imo. It's basically contradicting with what they're supposed to be learning which is private parts are private and setting them up that seeing random family members naked is normal and could potentially lead to child endangerment.

[Occamsrazorblade]

Former miss world? Wtf, it’s his grandmother, why would a 12 year old sexualise her? Benefit from seeing her naked?

[ferrymeoff]

Oh my lord, Granny is absolutely nuts. Ashamed to say that it made me chuckle. On a more serious side, it was completely inappropriate.

[SophieGiroux]

All I'm saying is to not worry about it too much, it's just a naked body and it might be a good thing that he has seen a real body as opposed to the airbrushed ones he will undoubtedly (if not already) see in the future. I wouldn't mention it to the grandmother unless it became a regular thing.As a one-off while she's just walking from bathroom to bedroom I really don't think it's a massive deal.

[LowPainThreshold]

Not wandering around the kitchen making dinner while twirling her nipple tassels.

can someone please pass me the brain bleach

[BertrandRussell]

Passive aggressive, neglectful, possibly a paedophile, suffering memory loss,an exhibitionist and absolutely nuts.

[Occamsrazorblade]

SophieGiroux no you’re not, you are saying he ought to compare his grandmothers naked body with others.

[SophieGiroux]

Read into it how you like @Occamsrazorblade but I didn't say that at all