Naked MIL

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MIL had ds1 & ds2 for a few hours recently to help out with childcare in school holidays (not a regular arrangement). Ds1 came home and said gran was walking round naked! It turns out she had gone for a mid morning shower and was walking about naked (indoors obvs)

AIBU to think this is not acceptable, ds1 is 12 and ds2 is 7?

Not appropriate. I say this as a person who grew up with parents who were naked a lot right up until I was about 14. Really not pleasant at all.

He said he saw his mother naked a few times growing up, in his whole life he's seen her less than a handful of times. That does not a naked family make. That is a normal family.

Bluntness, you've posted incessantly about this, long after OP disappeared - do you not think we probably know what you think as well as you do by now?

Bluntness100 no, that’s YOUR family that you have decided everyone has to be like. So narrow minded!

As have you blue lady.

Pot, kettle, black?

And actually no, I have a daughter, she has seen me naked many a time.

So no it's not my family, but I do totally understand why appearing naked in front of your 12 year old grandson may make him uncomfortable, and no I would not do it personally and do not think anyone should if it is not the child's norm. The child comes first.

Fair point but I realise not everyone's going to agree with me, you just keep repeating the same thing over and over as if doing so makes you right.

As do you blue lady, we are both at it.

To some people this is weird and to others its normal. Theres no right or wrong about nudity in your own home (unless there is a context which is sexual etc)
So really if you dont want this going on you need to make that clear as it is some peoples 'normal'.
Personally I do walk from the shower to my bedroom naked sometimes and think nothing of it. I dont see any problem with nudity in front of my children and husband and they have never complained about it and would also think nothing of walking from the bathroom naked themselves.
Different families will have different attitudes to this.
So yes it is 'acceptable' however you are well within your rights to say thats not what you and your children are used to so could she not do that when they are there please?
Acting like shes weird somehow is not reasonable however as lots of people would think this was totally fine.

I don’t think anyone is- they are just not catasrtophising them and starting a JustGiving page for counseling.

really? Did you read some of the comments on here, for example

So the 12 yr old was uncomfortable. Big fucking deal.

Missed the JustGiving suggestion though. Oh, wait, you were exaggerating for effect. Lots of that on both sides on this thread.

Haribo, it's different with your own kids. Would you do it in front of your 12 year old grandson who you hardly saw and were alone with him and his little brother. And not just walk to the bedroom, but then back again, in their full view?

As said, my daughter has seen me naked plenty, but if when she was 12 her grandfather was baby sitting her and she told me he'd been walking about naked, back and forward to rooms and knowing she could see him, I'd have had something to say about it. Loudly and very clearly indeed.

I'm also surprised at the mils nakedness trumps the child's embarrassment.

If it was innocent no harm done really but I'm not seeing why the child's feelings about this are less important than the adult

I mean that sort of thinking is quite dangerous?!

Now what if Mil was dodgy and the child was trying to tell one of those type of posters this in rl??

"I'm also surprised at the mils nakedness trumps the child's embarrassment."

It doesn't. For what feels like the millionth time.

The MiL sounds dodgy to me. Why would she do this - or anybody do this - in front of a 12 year old boy who is on the verge of puberty? It is batshit.

Yep, Rose you got it. Peedo Gran.

He said he saw his mother naked a few times growing up, in his whole life he's seen her less than a handful of times. That does not a naked family make. That is a normal family.

Who this?

Who's

OP's husband.

How does Bluntness100 know so much detail?

DH said would sometimes see her naked when he was little but not exhibitionist type

But non of your comments seem to mind the boys so much they are all about Mil..

Mind what? I've acknowledged that the eldest one was embarrassed and that the OP should speak to MIL.

What else is there to say?

Ok, I got it wrong, sometimes, as opposed to a few times, but sometimes doesn't mean regularly to me or a naked home. If it was I'm sure the op would have said,

I also wonder about gender here, if it was the grandfather walking back and forward between rooms, whilst baby sitting his 12 and 7 year old grand daughters, knowing rhey could see him, would the "it's normal and the human body beautiful" brigade be so quick to jump to his defence?

As said, for me, gender makes no difference and he'd be keeping his cock covered or not be left alone with them again.

You see no difference between a man walking around naked in front of his 12 year GD to that of a woman? Really Bluntness100? I don't believe you actually.

No I don't,

But you clearly do. You think it's ok for women to expose themselves like this and not men? Is that your viewpoint?

I think the two are very different yes. A man walking around naked could be doing it for some kind of sexual reason I suppose.

How many women flashers have you ever heard of?