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Is it appropriate to wear a very very low cut wedding dress?

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mydogisthebest · 29/07/2018 16:35

A friend has posted photos of a wedding she went to yesterday. When I saw photos of the bride I actually felt quite shocked.

Her wedding dress was so low cut you could actually see part of her nipples. She was bursting out of the dress and it looked about 3 sizes too small.

It was a church wedding and I feel it was really inappropriate to wear such a dress. A non church wedding would not have been so bad although the dress would still have looked tacky

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Hippopotas · 29/07/2018 19:51

Her wedding her choice

Freshfeelings · 29/07/2018 20:11

I love how threads like this make everyone come over all 'her body her choice, if that's what she wants' kind of cool, when in reality if you saw someone with her nipples out in public (for reasons other than their biological purpose - and some people even then!) you'd definitely find it weird and feel a bit shocked.

Pretending you don't judge is not believeable. I think wedding dresses that are very revealing are trashy and weird.

BoxsetsAndPopcorn · 29/07/2018 20:12

Tacky and unsuitable for church, it's not a nightclub!

Yes her wedding her choice but I'd be mortified to see a brides nipples at a wedding.

perfectstorm · 29/07/2018 20:31

You know something? I really wouldn't. A lot of girls around here wear sheer tops in summer, and they look lovely and light in the heat. It's nice to see people happy in themselves. I don't think there's any reason anyone should mind or think it odd at all.

I have breast cancer, which necessitates completely removing my left breast, and next month they will create a facsimile for me via using part of my stomach - I'll look like anyone else in clothes, but suffice it to say a bikini will be out in future. So no, seeing lovely young women enjoying their bodies at a point in their lives when they are looking fantastic doesn't make me feel weird in the least. It makes me smile.

If I see a lovely young woman, enjoying her body in a way that makes sense to her, I absolutely don't think anything but how great that she's enjoying her body and her youth, because tomorrow is promised to nobody. There are so many shitty and awful things in this world... why the drama? Why are people so engaged in disapproval? Life is too bloody short.

THEsonofaBITCH · 29/07/2018 20:39

PerfectStorm, congratulations on your survival and positive outlook. The absolute best of wishes!

Touchmybum · 29/07/2018 20:44

Totally inappropriate and trashy. It's not a good look to have the nips hanging out in church. Can't imagine what the photos will be like!! Always thought that your wedding day was the main day in your life that you'd want to look your best...

TornFromTheInside · 29/07/2018 20:45

There's a real sense of confusion about breasts. One the one hand, countless women would like to go topless without it being a big deal and being ogled at. On the other hand, we're still treating them as a highly sexualised body part, hence the need to cover them up, particularly in an esteemed building such as a church.

It's perhaps an extreme example, but one the one hand we want to accentuate and celebrate the female figure, and on the other hand, it's supposed to be hidden (almost denied).

There was a time when a woman would have to keep her head covered, and certainly a flattering summer dress would have been frowned upon, if not utterly condemned in church.

Life really is too short to bother about a young woman dressing a certain way. Perhaps it was overtly sexy, perhaps it was slightly ill-fitting or ill-advised, but does it really matter? It was her special day. Whatever dress she chose, someone would adore or loathe it.

THEsonofaBITCH · 29/07/2018 20:47

There's a real sense of confusion about breasts
Nope, been studying them for years and I'm not confused at all!

justchangingagain · 29/07/2018 21:00

I'm just as fascinated at the man that would still chooses to marry his bride if they turned up in something hideous or totally inappropriate
Prejudice much? Who said there was a man involved? Could be two ladies in this day and age!

I frigging knew someone would be along to say something like that,
I did type a same sex, transgender, non gender, a decide on the day gender couple but thought nah and deleted it.

lindalee3 · 29/07/2018 21:03

Show some pics then.

TornFromTheInside · 29/07/2018 21:04

How many people would change their minds at the altar over such a dress? zero.
It's a matter of a little too much bosom or not. It's not the crime of the century.
I suspect in this day and age, he'll have already enjoyed them in full.

THEsonofaBITCH · 29/07/2018 21:12

Justchangingagain - so long as you took it as intended - tongue firmly planted in …(pick place of your choosing, no judging here ) cheek, vulva, other.

1frenchfoodie · 29/07/2018 21:18

It is much more appropriate to wear a low cut wedding dress than it is to bitch about a stranger’s wedding dress on an online forum.

SchadenfreudePersonified · 29/07/2018 21:20

Sonofabitch

I'll keep my tongue in my ice-cream as Nature intended, thank you very much

TornFromTheInside · 29/07/2018 21:21

Ice cream has to be a euphemism for...

ice cream

THEsonofaBITCH · 29/07/2018 21:22

AstonMartini · 29/07/2018 21:45

It sounds unspeakably tacky to me - but that's just a matter of taste. What isn't a matter of taste is that it's not appropriate for a church wedding. If you're not churchy (I'm not, FWIW) and aren't willing to respect church values, don't get married in a church.

ihatetosay · 29/07/2018 21:55

totally inappropriate she obv has nor respect for the church

TornFromTheInside · 29/07/2018 21:59

totally inappropriate she obv has nor respect for the church

What was inappropriate. Did you see the dress? was the nipple a slip or deliberate, do you know the lady in question? Was she in such a revealing dress by choice, or was she a little overoptimistic about slimming to fit into it? Perhaps she was actually upset about the fit?

It's not at all 'obvious' is it?

newdaylight · 29/07/2018 22:02

Lots of very devout Christians here judging by how many people seem to think it matters if she's in a church or not.

nocoolnamesleft · 29/07/2018 22:04

Oooh, can I be the first to say "I bet it wasn't her nipples, I bet it was her areolae. Blimey, does no one know their own anatomy"? Because it feels like the mumsnettish thing to do.

Thymelord · 29/07/2018 22:05

Tell you what, when I get married for the second time I'll wear a mankini and post the pictures on here. Obviously it will be white, I'm not without class. I can't guarantee that the straps will cover the tits, and there may be some flappage on display. At least you'll have sommat to talk about?

TornFromTheInside · 29/07/2018 22:06

lolololol @ flappage

OMG

Ohyesiam · 29/07/2018 22:09

Yes, because nothing sexual ever happens in a church right?
Or was it not a catholic wedding?

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 29/07/2018 22:11

Yes she can wear what she wants. Doesn't mean it's not trashy though.

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