Is it appropriate to wear a very very low cut wedding dress?

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A friend has posted photos of a wedding she went to yesterday. When I saw photos of the bride I actually felt quite shocked.

Her wedding dress was so low cut you could actually see part of her nipples. She was bursting out of the dress and it looked about 3 sizes too small.

It was a church wedding and I feel it was really inappropriate to wear such a dress. A non church wedding would not have been so bad although the dress would still have looked tacky

Yeah probability inappropriate, I wouldn't do it. But people do lots of things I think are inappropriate.

They don't have to marry folks from outside their parish, but plenty do.
The motives behind this are varied, and some argue it's a chance to form a relationship with the couple, but it's hard to deny the financial incentive too.

Her wedding, she can wear what ever she likes. I'd hope that in 2018 grown adults aren't terrified of seeing a bit of nipple. Clearly My hopes aren't realized.

Oh fuck off. The dress sounds hideous OP.

YANBU and welcome to Mumsnet OP - home of the oh so liberal folk.

Agree with you, OP. I don’t believe in God, but I do believe in reverence. If you elect to get married in church, you pop the girls away.

I'd never wear a revealing dress in church. I've not got the legs for it and it's hard to find the right material for a hairy chest.

I didn't buy a gorgeous wedding dress because it was quite low cut and I have big boobs. It's not a look I wanted to go for.

THE bride maybe did this to keep cool in the heatwave!!, but her choice,her day. I bet more modest souls would have thought omg, but this matters not.

There were three guests breastfeeding at a recent wedding I went to, no one batted an eyelid and rightly so.
Completely bloody different than a low cut wedding dress showing off a demi-nip!

Her wedding, she can wear what ever she likes. I'd hope that in 2018 grown adults aren't terrified of seeing a bit of nipple. Clearly My hopes aren't realized.

So if your children's teacher got her nipples out during Parents Evening, you'd be happy with that?

It makes me laugh on here sometimes how everyone is tripping over themselves to say that whatever the OP is outraged about is totally fine and they would never have a problem with it or bat an eyelid. I wonder sometimes if they only says these things to be contrary. I don't know a single person IRL who wouldn't be shocked to see a bride with her nips out and wouldn't wonder wtf she was thinking. They would judge her and frankly so would I because it's foul. There's elegant and sexy and then there's just trashy and gross,and this falls into the latter. If she wants to do it then nobody will stop her, but they will judge her and that's a fact.

YANBU and welcome to Mumsnet OP - home of the oh so liberal folk.

The place where 90% of posters will tell you a preteen girl shouldn't be dressed with bum out, heels, low cut top and a face of makeup like she's on the pull in town on a Friday night and 10% of posters will accuse you of victim blaming and policing girls' clothing to appease men.

So if your children's teacher got her nipples out during Parents Evening, you'd be happy with that?

MY kids teacher? Hell Yes (think dance teacher in Grownups II) !!

never mind the church, if true sounds a rough look for anywhere except the beach. Cleavage of any sort really isn't pretty.

yes, we know you've got them, now put them away.

I would say 'photo or it didn't happen' but on reflection, no thanks.

She was bursting out of the dress and it looked about 3 sizes too small.

My guess is that the dress really was too small - that she'd been badly misadvised, or maybe had (as many brides do) intended to lose weight.

Sorry but, this woman has no respect for the church, her husband and herself. This would have to be a hoax. No-one surely would stoop that low surely!

Inappropriate but her place to regret it looking back at photos.

Come on I’m sure it wasn’t that bad.

Going to Death Valley in summer is ridiculous whatever colour you are.
It’s insanely hot.

So, from a post from a stranger, about a stranger, over a dress you've never seen, you've extrapolated that she's got no respect for the church, herself or her husband?

That's a heck of a stretch.
Maybe it was just an ill-fitting dress and the vagaries of youth?

My thought would be showing the photos to the kids.

The CofE have chosen her as the poster girl for 2019 weddings.
The number of bookings has risen dramatically.

One old gentleman was seen leaving a packet of condoms in the church having misheard the vicar welcoming folks to leave something for the erection collection

Let's face it I bet her nipples weren't actually out. I assume she would have noticed. Maybe it was intentional. Who knows. Considering she didn't invite op she probably doesn't give a shiny shit what they think

I really don't give a shit what some random woman wears to her wedding. I'm assuming the nipplage wasn't intentional though so she might be mortified.

I don't personally like segsy wedding dresses. It's very Essex/Kardashian.

I hope the bride was happy with how SHE looked on HER wedding day.

OP - bit harsh judging a wedding dress when you did not attend. Let's be more supportive of our fellow women

If it is as the OP has described, I think it would be unsuitable for a church wedding and probably looked pretty tacky wherever the wedding was - but that's a matter of personal taste.

The only weird thing here is your OP.