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AIBU to be worried - 38 °C!

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Whatsnewwithyou · 29/07/2018 13:59

AIBU to be worried about our upcoming trip. DH has planned a surprise weekend break for my birthday next weekend. He doesn't want to tell me where he is but he's told me the weather forecast so I can pack. It's 34°C on Friday, 35 on Saturday, and 38 on Sunday!!!

I'm really worried. He has promised me there will be A/C in the room but he won't tell me anything else. I haven't told him how worried I am because I don't want to hurt his feelings but...38°!!!

So ...where could it be? I'm thinking south of Spain somewhere. I know it's in Europe. And should I go WIBU to own up to being worried and just refuse?

OP posts:
sonjadog · 29/07/2018 17:53

I love a siesta in a warm climate. Embrace the lifestyle. Go out early, siesta in the afternoon, then go out and stay out late at night.

kaytee87 · 29/07/2018 18:30

Have you never been abroad before op?

I wouldn't want to be walking about a stuffy city in this kind of heat though so hopefully there's a beach or swimming pool.

Skarossinkplungerridesagain · 29/07/2018 18:42

I can't believe how ill-mannered some of you are. You would refuse to go on a trip that your partner organised for you as a surprise? Your poor partners!

colditz · 29/07/2018 20:14

My partner would be too clever to think for even a second that I would enjoy such treatment. it's not rude, it's knowing yourself. Too many women tolerate things they hate for the sake of "being polite". It's not manners, it's martyrdom and it's pointless. YOu teach people how to treat you, and by nodding and smiling and saying "how lovely" while you inwardly weep with frustration and irritation, you teach people either a) you enjoy this or b) you hate it but will comply to make everyone happy.

I''m not living that Stepford life.

Ta1kinpeace · 29/07/2018 20:18

@Whatsnewwithyou
I know this will sound really sad, but use MN to your advantage

the MOMENT you know where you are going start a thread called
the coldest places to sightsee in ...
and the MN hive mind will come to your rescue before your plane lands Grin

I can list three days worth in central Rome for example !
(Pantheon, Capitoline museum, wedding cake, pantheon again, some of the gardens etc)

mydogisthebest · 30/07/2018 06:56

My DH would never in a millions years book a surprise trip to somewhere that was so hot but if he did I wouldn't go. Anything about about 30 degrees I find awful. It makes me feel really sick and I get migraines.

I prefer a temperature of around 25 degrees. I don't really find the heat any easier abroad. I agree that it's not as humid but if you are walking round it's still unbearable

Runningupamountain · 30/07/2018 07:02

I think you are over thinking this. it was 37 degrees here last week and we managed and didn't hide away! Like others have said plan a museum or an inside interest.

Try and enjoy!

HolyPieter · 30/07/2018 07:03

YANBU.

Your DH is a thoughtless twat for booking somewhere hot when you don't like the heat.

I'd refuse to go and make him buy you a present that you'd actually like.

Runningupamountain · 30/07/2018 07:04

Should add I agree it is too hot and much prefer a lower temp but I'd try and embrace it for the weekend!!

MonsterChopz · 30/07/2018 07:10

I really don't like the heat (19 degrees is getting too hot for me) and being very fair, the sun doesn't like me! I visited Madrid in mid July a couple of years ago and the temp was 39 during the day and 32 at night. Like you, I was dreading it but it was fine. We still got out and about and just made sure we found some shade for regular drinks. Have a lovely weekend.

ArcheryAnnie · 30/07/2018 07:30

I thought this was going to be a thread about climate change, because I'm bloody terrified, OP.

(Also I am not good with heat anyway so I feel your pain!)

Laiste · 30/07/2018 07:33

City break is better than a beach holiday or an adventure type holiday in the heat.

There'll be loads of air con places to visit in the middle of the day and then out and about in the cooler mornings and late afternoon.

Holiday is nothing like 'real life'. In fact it's easy to forget that while you're away. I remember being in Egypt, (well over 100 in the shade that month) up to my neck in the pool, in the shade, with a drink in my hand at 9.30 in the morning actually saying ''You know, the heat's fine as long as you're sensible'' Grin What a knob. I would have just died if i'd have had to have been doing normal life in it.

KinkyAfro · 30/07/2018 07:34

Im just back from lake garda and it was 38 most days, I'm not a massive fan of the heat but we coped. I wore denim shorts and vests most days, carried water and had a swim in the lake to cool off.

KinkyAfro · 30/07/2018 07:36

Meant to say we never went back to hotel until the evening, there were plenty of shady spots to rest. Take a hat, use high factor sunscreen. No point staying in your hotel for 4 hours a day, may as well stay at home

mydogisthebest · 30/07/2018 07:40

I don't agree at all that a city break is better than a beach holiday in the heat. I hate beach holidays but at least you can go in and out of the sea to try and keep cool. In cities you are walking round and the heat is relentless.

Also, despite what other posters say, a lot of places are not air conditioned. I have been in museums and art galleries that are not and certainly most restaurants are not. Even if restaurants have outside seating it would still be far too hot for me to want to sit there

Laiste · 30/07/2018 07:48

There's many more opportunities to get out of the sun in a city than on a beach! You have to plan your day accordingly. You don't have to walk about all the time at all.

What's the choice on the beach if you don't like the sun? Trapped in a little circle of shade or go and get in the sea. In the sun.

whiteroseredrose · 30/07/2018 07:48

Everyone one here saying 'what's the problem' or 'just wear a vest top suncream and hat' don't get what it's like to not like heat. Mad dogs and Englishmen.

Yes we've coped with the hot summer here (no bloody choice) but we've hated it and have given a dance of joy now it's cool and raining. I like to think my DH would know me well enough, and love me enough NOT to make me endure heat like that.

Having said that, wherever you go should have cool indoor places to go because the locals are unlikely to be out in the heat of the sun either. Rule of thumb from Spanish friends is to stay out of the sun when your shadow is shorter than you are.

Early morning to beat the crowds, long lazy lunch and back to the hotel, then out again at about 4 - 5pm. If you want to live like a local, dinner at 10 then dance till dawn!

Skarossinkplungerridesagain · 30/07/2018 07:50

Oh sorry Colditz I had realised that surprise trips were now a tool of the patriarchy. Hmm

mydogisthebest · 30/07/2018 07:58

Well even walking for 5 minutes in such high heat would make me feel ill.

Yes it has been very hot in the UK and I have spent the last 3 weeks indoors with all windows open and a fan in the kitchen, a fan in the living room and a fan in the bedroom.

Why is it so difficult for people to realise not everyone can cope with heat? Yes I would rather have hot weather than snow or rain but then I am lucky that I don't work and can just stay indoors and do practically nothing.

On holiday me and DH like to sightsee. I just can't do that in anything above 30 degrees and even that I can't walk much and just want to sit and do nothing

DontbeaMuppet · 30/07/2018 08:29

We're all different. DSis goes hiking in 35deg heat in Spain, I would pass out. Doesn't make someone a "wimp" if they dislike the heat.

I think the OP's DH is being a twat by refusing to tell her where they're going when he knows she's anxious and doesn't like heat.

DunesOfSand · 30/07/2018 08:40

Hot weather in the UK sucks.
Warm, dry weather, in houses designed to stay cool, ideally with A.C. is a different situation.
(Very) Hot and dry round me. It won't drop below 36 all week according to the forecast (That's 36 as a minimum night temp). Much above 40 and life becomes hard work. Above 45 is unpleasant.

Go out with an open mind, and see what it's like. It could be great being out and about, and if it isn't, you have 3 days with DH in a hotel room!

BarbaraofSevillle · 30/07/2018 12:49

What's the choice on the beach if you don't like the sun? Trapped in a little circle of shade or go and get in the sea. In the sun

Easy. Lay on the beach and read. When you get too warm, go for a swim in the sea and make sure your hair gets wet. Go and dry off for a bit and then go and sit on a shady bar stool with a drink. Then go and read for a bit more. When you get too hot, got for a swim in the sea. Repeat.

City breaks - make the most of shade in narrow streets, historic buildings etc. Be very interested in any fountains and shady parks you come accross. Most bars and restaurants have shaded seating and water misters too cool people down. Go for a siesta in the air conditioned hotel room and go out for a walk and drinks and dinner later on. If it's southern Spain, the locals won't think about going out before about 10 pm.

Some people sound determined not to have a good time, no matter what.

delphguelph · 30/07/2018 13:14

I don't know why people are so incredulous about the OP staying in the hotel from 11-3: that would be me tbh. Out early for breakfast and a museum back for a nap and lunch in the hotel. Back out late afternoon for another museum then stroll somewhere for dinner.

Relentless heat and marching around a city during the midday crowds doesn't really set me on fire either, OP!

delphguelph · 30/07/2018 13:16

As white rose said, mad dogs and Englishmen.

LighthouseSouth · 30/07/2018 13:16

BarbaraofSeville - your answer is just a repeat of the comment, phrased differently Confused