AIBU to be worried - 38 °C!

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AIBU to be worried about our upcoming trip. DH has planned a surprise weekend break for my birthday next weekend. He doesn't want to tell me where he is but he's told me the weather forecast so I can pack. It's 34°C on Friday, 35 on Saturday, and 38 on Sunday!!!

I'm really worried. He has promised me there will be A/C in the room but he won't tell me anything else. I haven't told him how worried I am because I don't want to hurt his feelings but...38°!!!

So ...where could it be? I'm thinking south of Spain somewhere. I know it's in Europe. And should I go WIBU to own up to being worried and just refuse?

I can't believe people would just not go on a holiday bought for them. If it's a city break then plan museums/ meals etc at the hottest time or find a nice inside air conditioned bar

I don't think you like surprises do you? The idea of it all sounds nice and exciting, but when it comes to it you want to know where you are going etc.

Be honest, and tell him you would prefer to know, and then you can plan to take the right things with you.

My dh took me to somewhere cold in late autumn for a surprise break, it turned out to be New York and they had a freak heat wave and it was 23c and I had a suitcase full of woollies and ski wear... I am not so keen on surprises after sweating for five days (all the stores were stocking winter wear!) The important thing is that you enjoy it and have fun, it will be just as nice if you know now where you are going

Well I wouldn't want to go on holiday to somewhere it was 38 degrees even with an air conditioned place to stay.

Me and DH like to sightsee and it would be far too hot for me to walk round although DH loves the heat.

I would never want a holiday laying round a pool but even if I did 38 degrees would still be too hot for me.

@HotDamnItsHot

thanks!

*but...38°!!!

So ...where could it be?*

He’s not one for jokes is he? Because based on the last week, it could be Bognor!

It was around this when we went to Prague for my silver anniversary, we just spent a lot of the hotter times of day in the pub.

THEsonofaBITCH In Spain? There's a couple of buildings near us being built at the moment. The construction people don't work then.

really, though - get a cool towel off of Amazon.

www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/B01MCYYV4I/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o03_s00?psc=1&tag=mumsnetforum-21&ie=UTF8

magic, i tell you.

Sounds like it could be Rome.

Enjoy OP. Lots of gelato to cool down!

Last summer in Rome it was above 40 degrees every day we were there
aircon at night was essential
but we had a FAB time
stop worrying and enjoy
the Pantheon is always the right temperature after all

Why are you worried?!! It was 36 degrees where I am in the U.K. last week and we survived!! Hmong abroad with a/c in the room will be nice

I’ve just driven through Death Valley near Vegas. Car had air con nice and cool. What’s the problem?

And should I go WIBU to own up to being worried and just refuse?

Yes, you would.

How do you think the people who live there cope?

You survived, but when you go in holiday, you expect to do a little more than survive. It sound hotter than Rome, so my guess would be inland southern Spain, maybe Seville or Grenada. I don't think you need to be worried, so much as think you would get so much more out of the trip if you went at a cooler time of year. Trouble is it get hot quite early in the day and stays that way till quite late. So you might spend quite some time in the hotel. Museums are also likely air conditioned, but you may not get much enjoyment from being outside.

"You survived, but when you go in holiday, you expect to do a little more than survive."

exactly!! I mean even if you don't dislike hot weather, if OP doesn't actually fancy a holiday in 38c it's a bit strange to say "you'll survive" and "Just stay indoors in the air con" - I don't holiday much but is that what people holiday for?!

Thanks all. I have ordered us a cooling towel each.

To those that say people who live there are fine, it isn't the same as the human body adapts eventually but this takes time.

I am sensitove to the heat and worse so is he - i just dont think he thought this through before booking. But I'm feeling calmer about the whole thing. I'll take lots of books as I do think it's best to avoid being out in the hottest parts of the day. And I'll mention how much I enjoy looking round museums, large stone churches, and air conditioned shopping malls!

I'm pretending to DH that the weather forecast doesn't bother me at all and that I'm really looking forward to it! As I'm an anxious person and he finds my anxiety a little annoying. So I don't want to ask a bunch of questions and give my feelings away.

I guess we will have to stay in the hotel room from 11-3

Are you serious? How do you think other people cope?

If it's a city break you will be in museums/cathedrals etc surely?

I would be so upset if I took my partner away for a break and they insisted on staying in a bloody hotel room for most of the day!

Come on OP - it's an adventure!! Tell yourself you will have the best time ever, and think how great you will feel when you get back, knowing that coped with it.

It's no good saying "how do other people cope". Some people like the heat, some don't.

I have been abroad and it's been so hot I have felt ill. As I said, we like sightseeing, but I can't walk around when it is so hot. We never go in peak season, usually late September even early October but still a few times have been caught out by hot weather.

I can assure you too that not all museums and art galleries are air conditioned sadly. Also you still have to walk or use hot public transport to get to them

For goodness sake stop being a wimp - as long as you have appropriate clothing and sunscreen everything will be fine - go enjoy yourself and no, you won't have to sit in the hotel from 11-3.

Tbh if this is a place where it’s usual to be this hot, then you will find thatbthey are geared up for it
That means air cond in shops and museums etc...
I suspect that you will feel comfortable whatever you do.

Yes avoid to WALK in the sun in the middle of day. But in a city break where you can do of stuff INDOORS, I dint think will be an issue.

It’s your anxiety talking there. Not facts.

Worried about heatstroke, etc. I guess we will have to stay in the hotel room from 11-3 and take siesta, mostly go out in the mornings and evenings

How silly. Wear a hat, use sunscreen and appropriate clothing and drink water. It's hardly an inferno!
We were recently in Florence and Rome in higher temps than that and even my toddler was fine. Why such fuss?

I don’t think it’s fair not to tell you where you will be going when you have anxiety. And you need to plan carefully for city break with +38 to make it enjoyable.

Do your wandering first thing in the morning, then head to a nice air conditioned museum or gallery in the hottest part of the day, then find somewhere shady for lunch. Do more wandering in the evening. It will be great.

@greenlynx "I don’t think it’s fair not to tell you where you will be going when you have anxiety."

I did a double take at this as well. However, it sounds like OP DH finds it annoying and she is trying to hide it from him. I don't disclose it at work but I could no way hide it from close ones.

I’m sorry you suffer with anxiety, it must be dreadful 🌷

TRY to see that it’s really not something to be anxious about though. 38 is ok, especially if it’s Spain or France, it really doesn’t feel as hot as 38 in the UK does.

Accept it’s warm and you might look less than cool and elegant, once you do that it’s much easier! Wear cool, comfortable clothes and ditch the need to look ‘put together’.

TRY to enjoy yourself 🌷