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AIBU to wish Meghan Markles family would shut up?

260 replies

longwayoff · 29/07/2018 12:03

Really. Give up and shut up please.

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NaughtToThreeSadOnions · 01/08/2018 14:50

His mother was a divorcee. I'm sure he'd love to hear that his mother was some kind of slag because her marriage broke down!

Ah but saint diana, so its allowed

His mother was a divorcee
As by defination is his father
His step mother is a divorcee

As is his aunt princess anne
And his uncle prince andrew
In fact his uncle the other side lord charles spencer is a divorcee

Both his dad and uncle charles have remarried

He invited uncle andrews and uncle charles ex wives to his weddimg

Im sure hed be absolutely delighted to see his mother father uncles and aunts being degraded

Or is it ok cos their royal britsh and arstoricy?

user1457017537 · 01/08/2018 15:54

MM is married into possibly the most powerful, rich and famous family in the World. Most people would happily share their good fortune with their family. They are giving interviews etc., because she has cut them out of her life. Everything I have read about her dad doers not portray him as a dead beat dad. Quite the opposite in fact especially when she was growing up. Trust me if the Royals didn’t want us to know about her personal life we wouldn’t be told.

SmileSweetly · 01/08/2018 16:09

They are giving interviews etc., because she has cut them out of her life

She has cut them out of her life because they are giving interviews (and writing books! And staging paparazzi photos!) it's unforgivable the way they've behaved!

ScrumpyCrack · 01/08/2018 16:21

I do think she’s brought a lot of negativity to the perception of royal family. Kate and Wills did a good job of making the RF seem more endearing and then MM was supposed to ‘freshen the RF up’ and bring them into more modern times when really, all she’s done is cause controversy and attracted bad press.

She does come across as heartless. Her dad and SIL don’t seem perfect by a long stretch but he does sound like he tried hard to give her the life she wanted and when she got it, she left him behind.

The bitterness she’s receiving is a reflection of how she’s treated people.

user1457017537 · 01/08/2018 17:38

Scrumpycrack I agree and she is also getting her ass handed to her because her father has ill health, lives on a meagre pension, they haven’t visited him once and he has had surgery.

NaughtToThreeSadOnions · 01/08/2018 17:45

Had surgery has he user .......i'll just leave this here www.thesun.co.uk/news/6813025/thomas-markle-heart-surgery-royal-wedding-made-up/

It was made up

ScrumpyCrack · 01/08/2018 17:47

Oh yes, the Sun have never fabricated lies or gotten anything wrong Hmm must be the truth.

user1457017537 · 01/08/2018 17:55

Well everthing else I mentioned is public record

NaughtToThreeSadOnions · 01/08/2018 18:07

Yes good for him user, in fact your yourname is good for him hes an abusive user i qouldnt visit him either why should she?

NaughtToThreeSadOnions · 01/08/2018 18:09

scrumpy i actally heard it on bbc news i used the sun link cos it was the first link i came too when i did a quick search

user1457017537 · 01/08/2018 18:20

NaughtToThreeSadOnions how do you know he’s an abusive user you don’t know him personally do you. Giving a couple of interviews to the press don’t make you an abuser, the Royals give interviews all the time why shouldn’t he?

NaughtToThreeSadOnions · 01/08/2018 18:27

Because his personality comes over in those interviews

Hes rarely had anything to do witb either meghan or sanabtha

Samatha couldnt stand him she refused to be called markle

Everything samantha has said about him is how much of abusive and crap dad he was but suddenly she wants to be a markle and "protect" him against her nasty evil suster yeahhhhhhhh right

Also i get it, if your non contavt your non contact, im non contact with my father, cis hes controlled by my step mum and her children and money, i wouldnt even know if hed had surgery, if he had i still wouldnt visit him, because my mental health has to cone first, or are you going to hand me my ass for doing whats healthy for me???

Movablefeast · 01/08/2018 18:38

There is so much that none of us know. Her parents separated when she was very young and her mum as far as I can tell is the one who brought her up. If her dad won the lottery and won $750,000 he would have been paying for her private schooling 20+ years ago. It was probably something like 10k a year at that time. Northwestern is one of the best Universities in America, if she was accepted it was because she is very intelligent and worked hard to get very good grades. If her dad paid, it would not have been 30k at that time. So maybe he spent at a maximum 200k on her education, which of course is a lot of money but he chose to do it and he should still have had the vast bulk of his winnings left.

They may well have had a very difficult and strained relationship for years. I just can’t imagine treating my child this way and publically humiliating her and myself. His daughter Samantha, MM’s much older half-sister is estranged from her own children, I think that tells you a lot. I don’t know MM or any of the other people involved and I would like to give her the benefit of the doubt because clearly her mum has behaved with great dignity throughout, while the other side of the family are behaving in a very immature manner, which says a lot.

Mousefunky · 01/08/2018 18:40

Agreed but the press should stop offering them money and allowing them an outlet.

user1457017537 · 01/08/2018 18:53

I’m sorry but your situation is different. TM didn’t remarry or have more children. She sent him loving Father’s Day messages via her blog. I still think he is being treated shabbily and the royal family should hold out an olive branch before things get more messy than they already are. Also it doesn’t say much for 2 Humanitarians if they cannot be kind to their own family members

kenandbarbie · 01/08/2018 19:31

Paying for private school doesn't mean you owe your parents anything if they continue to act like dicks.

NaughtToThreeSadOnions · 01/08/2018 19:34

How do you know my situations different, well yes it is, but you don't understand, when your non contact and people are for lots and lots of reasons, you only have to look on the relationship board on here to see that, but it all means the same thing, non contact is non contact. I was just using my example as I get the non contact. And trust me it takes a lot to go non contact, my brother told me 11 years before I went non contact with my father, what he was really like, I didn't want to believe him. Most people would go oh naught your never going to talk to your father over that wow, but it was 33 years of not being good enough, and finally finally the bridge broke. You don't know how long mr markle has been playing his daughters off against each other, although Samantha refusing to be called markle might give you a clue to that. You don't know how many little things Meghan and indeed Samantha kept secret and went oh my dad, until he faked papperatzzi suit buying shots ;(although harry should be used to that it was a beloved trick of his mother) and then made up heart surgery. Maybe those two things were the last bloody straw, mine was a lot lot lot more minor than either of those. My brother, mum, friends who saw partically the last three years I was in touch with my dad would never ever want to hand me my ass, they may want to hand my father his ass but they know what he put me through.

I love my dad, he's my dad, if you were to look at my twitter and instagram you'd be surprised that what happened did, that's the thing about social media twitter,Facebook, blogs, is their literally a snap shot, and quite often not true, I still to this day love my dad, I google his name occasionally I miss him immensely, see him talk to him no no no. Meghan may still love her dad but for her own health and safety not be able to be in contact with him. That's ok you know. I think it's rather weird you think that just cos she loves him because he's her dad, you can't see that there's very many reasons for her not to be in contact with him.

I said this on another thread it might be this one what the blithering hell does them being humanitarians have to do with the price of bloody fish. In fact many humanitarian/philanthropists come from not that stable backgrounds they do what they do so someone else doesn't have to go through the shit they went through. Families sometimes aren't good or healthy, it's not about being nice to them, or being handed your ass because you go non contact.

I'm very pleased that you've got an excellent family, who are clearly all lovely, but not everyone's is like that and I find it bizarre you can't see that

user1457017537 · 01/08/2018 20:14

I’m sorry you have difficulties. I have experienced the other side of the coin, and only a very few people know so I do understand. I just think going no contact is not the answer. People are complex and I think the Royal family should try to resolve this situation.

Re Humanitarians I don’t like people who call themselves Humanitarians, especially from a position in life that others can only dream of.

SamanthaBrique · 01/08/2018 20:19

They can't win then, can they? Sit on their arses in Kensington Palace doing sweet FA and they'll be called lazy spongers, use their privilege to draw attention to causes and found charities and they're accused of being fake humanitarians.

user1457017537 · 01/08/2018 20:29

Well MM has only been in KP for a few months so has hardly spent a lifetime doing good work has she. I’m more for the unsung heroes who don’t get any recognition not the self serving great and good. Also self-praise is no recommendation.

TooManyPaws · 01/08/2018 20:29

I can't help thinking that he can't have been such a wonderful father if he didn't stop his racist children calling his wife, the mother of his youngest child, "the maid" because she is black. I suspect that removed a lot of the perfection in Meghan's eyes once she was old enough to notice/find out.

I loved my father dearly but I don't hide from the fact that he seriously screwed me up psychologically. It's perfectly possible to love someone and recognise that their behaviour isn't good for your sanity.

user1457017537 · 01/08/2018 20:30

Ffs cry me a river

TooManyPaws · 01/08/2018 20:30

User, stop talking bollocks. Try Googling to see what she has done, right from a child.

GunpowderGelatine · 01/08/2018 20:31

YANBU. Ghastly family. No wonder she doesn't speak to them. Her Mum seems lovely I hope she draws lots of support from her and Harry

SamanthaBrique · 01/08/2018 20:36

So by your logic @user1457017537, no member of the royal family should do charity work as it's self-serving? And if they did it unpublicised then no one would know about, which would be fair enough except that people would then think they were doing nothing!