AIBU to think that this is awful parenting?

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On a train journey that’s around 2.5hrs, start to finish. Family with three kids behind me who are simultaneously using devices to play lots of music and games out loud - including the Dad, who is actively showing noisy videos to a disinterested child! Mum is ignoring all the kids despite them turning the sound up constantly.

AIBU to think it is crap parenting to let your kids disturb everyone else and it teaches them that their wants always trump everyone else’s??

You call this awful?! talk about exaggeration. I was actually expecting to read something that was.. well awful.

have you asked them to turn down the volume?

The alternative might be restless irritable children stuck on a hot train with nothing to distract them. Devices might be a necessary evil in this instance.

Ugh. All of the bitchy parent/kid moaning posts are getting a bit much.

Inconsiderate parenting definitely.

It is bloody rude and against the train policy on disturbance -
Mine have head phones for this reason

Ask them to turn the sound off or ask a guard to say something

Maybe instead of passively aggressively posting about it online you should ask them to please turn it down or use headphones.

Maybe they aren't learning anything because they haven't realised they're disturbing anyone. Have you asked them to turn it down?

Yes, it's inconsiderate to be so noisy but they might not have realised and I've certainly seen worse on trains

It's lazy and rude, I think awful might be a step too far, is it the quiet carriage?

YANBU, it's bloody rude and teaches the children nothing about respect or consideration for their fellow passengers.

I think it is bad parenting because the parents aren't actually giving the kids what they need, which is attention. I travelled a lot with our kids (really a lot) and was always reading to them, playing little games, drawing with them, getting them involved in something that was interesting to them and which engaged their attention. It was fun for me too, and helped the time to pass away quickly. As a side effect, it kept them quiet and relatively un-irritating to everyone else.

Maybe you should book a ticket in the quiet carriage?

All of the bitchy parent/kid moaning posts are getting a bit much

School holidays.
I'm thinking of starting a thread that goes "AIBU to be fed up of these holidaying adults coming to the swimming pool, using up all the hot shower water and doing slow breaststroke across the fun pool and getting in the way of my kids doing bombs?"

It seems more like non parenting. Definitely inconsiderate.

Lazy parenting for sure. Who hasn't taken the lazy way out occasionally though?

Ask them to turn the volume down, that's all you can do.

Yes they have been asked to turn off the volume - or put headphones on - by another passenger. Neither parent responded and went back to looking at their own phones.

I have got headphones in myself and am sitting in first class as a treat for being able to travel alone (rare!)

Maybe ‘awful’ is a bit of an exaggeration, fair enough and can accept IABU on that. My intention is to bash crappy entitled parents, not understandably bored and unstimulated kids.

Should say that I have headphones in and can still hear it!!

I’m not even sorry... can previous posters explain how this isn’t incredibly inconsiderate? How on earth do you think playing videos without headphones is ok?? Christ alive, the only answer may be for us to play our videos even louder until we’re all deaf

How can grown ups not relalise they are being bloody rude?

Awful parenting is doing things that harm and belittle your children surely. This is slightly annoying and inconsiderate but not worth worrying about really. Let it go!!

""I think it is bad parenting because the parents aren't actually giving the kids what they need, which is attention""

Children don't need constant attention. Some don't like the activities that you describe, when traveling.

I never encounter the noise from a child's device being more obnoxious to listen to than some of the adult conversations.

Especially on the way home, when we have tourists making Scouse 'jokes', comments.

Last time I was on a train a Woman with grown up children got on and didn't shut up, she was offering food. Wanting to plan an itinerary. I think she was still going even after her companions put their head phones in.

Then there are the male groups, who think the rest of the train needs to hear their pearls of wisdom, or critiquing of every Woman who gets on/off. If they are on their own, they have sport blasting.

Children are nothing compared to adult passengers. It might be the first sit down the Mother has had and at least the Dad is trying to engage.