OW told DH she loves him?

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DH is 38, we have 2 DCs, happily married, no issues in our relationship.

A woman who works with DH who is probably at least 10 years younger has told him she is in love with him. This happened on a night out and one of his colleagues told me. When I questioned him he just said it was nothing to worry about and they were all drunk. She occasionally texts him (usually work related) he never replies more than about 1 word if at all. They have been working together for a few years and so see each other daily in the office.

This whole thing has made me feel really insecure. I have no reason not to trust him but why would she admit this to him? AIBU?

My old boss used to have a harem of women after him. One got a bit stalkerish and caused problems. His girlfriend wasn't impressed and dumped him.

I don't think he'd been cheating but he was being too friendly with women and I think several got the wrong idea. He needed to tone it down. His stalker moved countries and took a lower salaried job to work with him. She thought they'd made a real connection. In all their conversations his girlfriend and child hadn't been mentioned.

He still insists he did nothing wrong.

Going against the grain here: I think there is absolutely nothing to worry about, and I really think some of the replies on here are very thoughtless. As far as I can see your husband has behaved impeccably. Yes, her behaviour is annoying but to be honest I think tackling it is affording it more importance than it merits.

If it’s playing on your mind, could you talk to your DF and tell her how insecure you’ve become since she told you and you’d like her to tell you if you need to ask your DH more snout this?

She coukd have told you in a gossipy way as in “OMG you’ll never guess what that daft cow did” but she could have been warning you that there’s something here.

It’s the fact that you are so insecure that bothers me. DH had a younger and very pretty colleague start to work with him. For a while, she came up in conversation a lot. They had the odd text at home but it was usually work related and had nights out, but as a team. I have never once suspected him, even though she obviously quite liked him.

There must be something for you to feel this insecure OP. Why are you asking MN and not your friend or DH?

Oh god, posting about this sort of thing on aibu is ill-advised

All the shistirring miserable people pile on the increase your paranoia about the situation and if you listen to any of them, you will make the situation worse.

Dh is the one with the issue and is dealing with it by how he sees fit. If you trust him, leave him to it.

Id also be distancing myself from your shitstirrer 'friend'