to be mad at my midwife?

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I find midwife appointments really nerve wracking. Had a really scary pregnancy so far, had loads of issues, am now consultant led and am having scans every two weeks. Still not sure baby is ok.

Currently at the doctors waiting for my midwife appointment. Been told she is on holiday and no idea why she's booked this appointment for me today. There's another lady here too who's appointment was meant to be before mine.

I understand mistakes can be made but I was expecting some answers to my questions today (it's my 25 week appointment) and I let myself get really anxious overnight. I feel sick to my stomach, was expecting her to go through test results with me, and am just disappointed and have no idea when my next appointment will be. It's a bit of a waste of my time and I'm annoyed I've had to miss out on a meeting at work and have wasted half a day...

AIBU to be pissed of? Or should I just let it slide and get over it. Sat in doctors near to tears whilst they try to sort it out because this pregnancy has just been so scary and awful so far...

Have you seen a midwife yet?

Thanks everyone. Finally saw my midwife end of last week. She just counted it as my 28 week appointment so my 25 week one was completely missed and I now have a bigger gap between my 28 week and the next appointment. It's all a total mess and all I can say is thank God I am seeing the consultant in between otherwise it would be a long wait considering it is a complicated and stressful pregnancy!

How stressful! Did she give you any answers or reassurance on your concerns?

This all sounds so shoddy. My antinatal care was incredibly shoddy too and I was spoken to so rudely and dismissively I just accepted it, which in retrospect I wish I hadn’t. But in spite of all the problems which were discovered by the competent staff on ds due date, and the huge stresses over that time, DS and me were ok in the end.

He’s a wonderful and health 6 yr old now :)

I am still quite traumised by the ‘care’ I got though, even years later. So don’t feel like you should be silent.